ajasatya

you have to trust yourself. authenticity and autonomy are good signs of healthy relationships. i'm going to say something that i know @Gabriel Antonio loves: you're ready for relationships when you don't really need one. heal yourself first. learn to be alone.

first, stop repeating this dogma to yourself over and over. have you cut your arms and your legs off? have you lost your breathing capacity? are you breathing with the help of machines? have you lost your stomach and have your intestines stopped working? i don't think so. if you can eat, breathe, piss and poop regulardly, you have everything you need for a fresh start. post your daily schedule here, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep. then be ready for a few tweaks. change one thing at a time and be patient. the process of reconstruction will probably take longer than 1 year.

then stop being hypocrite, already.

i don't have personal experience with friendships that turn into romances. what i know is that people involved in these kinds of friendships usually realize that they can be good intimate partners very late.

very good idea. i just wouldn't try to live off of its income. these kinds of initiatives usually run on very low working capitals.

yes, your highness! it's so easy to tell pride from wisdom. so easy!

purify your intentions anything if you have a pure heart, anything you do ends up contributing to society in a positive way. even making eye contact or just standing still in peace. the desire to start big is a common mistake. have you been able to live in peace with your family?

@kieranperez thank you for your time here. i really hope that you do what said that you want to do. stand up, open your chest and walk as a real man!

because people like to make a huge mess of teachings. "do nothing" is an ego shatterer technique for meditations. but you need the discipline to actually sit down and practice. enlightenment is not experienced with sloppiness.

what do you mean by this? it means that the path is about your direct experience of enlightenment. stop idolizing what others say or experience.

discipline yourself, focus and sharpen the mind; let go of intellectual pride... don't allow mental hickups to take over. they're not the goal; kill your buddhas, quit those videos that talk about awareness and enlightenment and live enlightenment at its core it's like an orgasm. once you know it exists, why waste time describing it? go and have one!

i am doing this because i sense a good spark of sincerity in you. you've come quite far already, but beware not to get stuck and lose momentum. the mind is an endless maze of tricks. how does it feel to come here and start a thread full of articulate contemplations? do you feel smart? can you sense pride and desire for validation? you said that there would be no use for the actualized.org platform. what am i doing here, then? i am inviting you to go beyond, way beyond. reach the other shore of the shoreless river. gate gate paragate parasamgate bodhi swaha

that's the attachment, then. would you have the courage to let it all go as well?

@Aakash ah, there you go again. see you on the other side.

@kieranperez thanks for notifying me. i'll certainly listen to the podcast. i understand what you feel and i agree. goggins has learned a tough way of dealing with himself... that's how he gets out of his mental trash. but it is also possible to live an AMAZING and disciplined life without all that flintiness. i even think it's his next step for development: learn about gracefulness and true peace of mind. thus, i invite you to have some compassion towards goggins. let's not demonize the guy.

we need discipline and effort to sit down and practice. but when we sit down we need to give up and let go. it's kinda confusing at first but we get used to it after a few retreats.

you can't achieve samadhi with effort

@kieranperez nice yes, you can't do it. we practice zazen to learn how to give up.

lot's of mental noise, eh?

@Ecocotton if you want to realize life & death, you have to fully realize what you are RIGHT NOW. what is alive? what dies?

thinking about enlightenment is a good sign that you're not.

@Chopin i don't think this is a good place to find friendships. this is certainly a good place if you want help on finding friends in real life, though. general tip: expecting anything at all from people will simply lead to suffering from both sides.

it's great if we look at it from outside and observe the bigger picture. it does represent a major social phenomenon. BUT in the end it does way more harm than good, because it's an initiative that contributes to stagnation on lower values.

unfortunately, no lots of people are bluntly ignorant about their eating habits, poisoning themselves with shitloads of sugar as an attempt to escape from anxiety everyday. and that's just an example.

aw, deriving the chain rule from the raw definition of derivatives how cute