ajasatya

@Farnaby do you (both, you and your gf) dream together? are both of you willing to grow and conquer your own place in this world? are both of you willing to overcome the natural challenges of Life together? an easy life can easily corrupt any sense of fulfillment, regardless of your social status (single, dating or married).

i'm not being pessimistic. i'm just saying what happens to people. if you want to be consciously responsible for becoming aware of toxic patterns and work hard not to allow such patterns to perpetuate, that's your choice.

@SQAAD @mandyjw oh wow, c'mon. it is just straightforward logic. you can't expect people to heal like that. some emotional wounds can affect people during their entire lives and it's extremely likely that such wounds would affect your children when it's their time to be parents. it's a common human pattern. very very rare people heal completely from murders in a way that it won't affect people around them. a friend of mine had his father murdered by a stranger. he is 34 and he is still DEEPLY MINDFUCKED. if he had children (thank god he doesn't), they would be affected by his paranoia. and this friend of mine is not even an outlier... he is just one among many people who had one of their parents murdered and have to deal with huge emotional baggage during their lifetime. note: his father was murdered by a stranger. what if his mother were murdered by his father in front of his eyes? hell... why do i even need to point this out?

ego will is god's will. separation is in the mind, only! because god can live itself believing that it's not god! that's just a tiny fraction of god's power. Reality is ONE as in... not two, not three...

@ImHooper you're free to do whatever, as long as you're willing to accept the consequences. being rude attracts rudeness. being kind attracts kindness. don't allow the term "dream" to confuse you. it's a dream because it's just as magical as a dream.

@Aakash "i am going to become a serial killer. but it's ok... the purpose of this is so that people will be able to learn about pain. it's the grand-design of the universe!" amazing doorway to devilry. and yes, it's very likely that some serial killer out there is killing people while telling such story to himself.

is "purpose" an story of the mind to make acceptance easier or is it fundamentally TRUE?

if you do something terrible to your family like murdering your wife in front of your kids, the karmic mark of such attitude will be so deep that it will affect your grandchildren and probably your great-grandchildren. such continuity of suffering is already the Spirit reincarnating and gathering its own thorns. the Spirit is ONE. it's an infinitely complex net that connects EVERYTHING (and, of course, EVERYONE) from "past", "present" and "future".

nobody can reincarnate. GOD/Spirit reincarnates. spiritual development and the evolution of species are ONE. thinking along the lines "someone reincarnates" or "when i reincarnate" doesn't quite reach it.

you need to go deeper. what do you mean by "i"?

looks more like a journal to me

@AudibleLocket here's a guideline that has been working greatly for me: happiness is finding your way to contentment with less. "less" means that you don't depend on social status, material possessions, drugs, junk food, sex etc to experience a high quality life. not depending does not mean that it's prohibitive... it just means that your emotional state is free of such attachments. this is why we practice zazen. if you manage to find your way to happiness with just sitting, it means that you're in great shape. this is impossible with a loose/distracted mind and this is also the reason behind the fact that i quit porn, gaming, alcohol and weed.

@AudibleLocket weed makes the mind loose. spiritual practices are meant to make the mind sharp. i don't know what you're doing.

@Pouya too much imagination. are those stories fundamentally TRUE?

@Nivsch turquoise is not nearly as mental as yellow. yellow is still very conceptual. for instance: the spiral dynamics framework is within yellow mindset a super advanced zen student is at yellow an intellectual yogi is at yellow someone who studies several spiritual traditions and religions is at yellow but beyond all that there is Truth. turquoise is living while conscious that GOD is all there is.

@emind look for a zen sangha nearby and practice with them at least once every week. zazen should bring a lot of s#!7 to the surface.

zero. it's a toxic way of thinking about what it means to be a man.

makyo

@sgn meditation is a paradoxical thing. true meditation is not meditation. it's no thing.

@leintdav000 the brain works in a way so that new abstraction layers are built as we grow older. at early stages, the brain learn very straightforward tasks, such as understanding your senses, walking, running, understanding and speaking, recognizing facial expressions etc. then, as time passes by, we learn how to investigate things with more depth. we can reach the limits of the mind with the process of intellectualization. and then it's also possible to go beyond the mind altogether.

@emind if you fear the possibility that your ex is having sex and you are not, i suggest that you try to accept it as a fact: your ex is having sex and you are not. not because it's true, but because you have to learn how to accept it. she's a completely different human being and owes you nothing. now that you're single, it's the best moment to take your time to turn inwards. face your struggles, aim for growth and become a virtuous person. go beyond the mind of a chimp (which is constantly thinking about fornication, food and/or noise).

this is inaccurate. i've been here for around 2 years and what i see is people becoming free of their own self-sabotaging habits little by little... each on their own pace. i've seen people come out on top as completely different persons, ready to thrive. how does it happen? it's a mysterious process of self-inquiry and inner investigation. telling people to read the bible and believe in jesus as a core message has never worked in front of my eyes. not just in this forum but in my entire life. from the perspective of someone else, your ideas and points of view are just dogmas unless they experience it by themselves.

nope. but i don't recommend starting random conversations out of nothing with random people. i would be a hypocrite if i did. instead i say go live new experiences and you will have what to talk about with people. not because you will have to come up with things to say, but because interaction is a straightforward consequence of people meeting to do something together.

what is "soul"? what do you want to achieve?

i do not consider myself a reader of the bible, but the bible does present beautiful stories of good men with peaceful souls. warning: i am presenting my own view of a beautiful life for a man. this is just food for thought for you. for me, a beautiful life for a man is quite simple if seen from the outside, but it's very deep if seen from the inside. if you focus on being a good husband, a good father, a good professional and a good friend, you're already doing better than 99.9999999% of men on this planet at the moment. what does "good" mean? i see "good" as a combination of immortal values such as justice, patience, courage, willpower, hard work, compassion, tenderness, temperance and purity of heart. being genuinely good requires a huge layer of foundations, which is severely overlooked by the average joe. don't be the average joe living an unfulfilling life... study every aspect of your language and imagination. and ask for wisdom from the bottom of your heart everyday. ask for wisdom with your entire soul.