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good job. this is the real work that everyone tries to avoid. keep going and have a clean life.

sincerity CANNOT be faked. if you actually start practicing complete honesty in your life, you'll see the same phenomenon happening to you. it has nothing to do with being better or worse than someone else. it's about having the courage to always confront one's own bullshit.

@aryberry yes, it's ok. i feel good when there's nothing to do, but i don't care about what people think/say about me. i am completely mediocre. my life is slow. i have a simply life. my body is healthy and my mind is steady. i just need a job to buy food and pay for a place to live.

dear @barry, i'm going to resume 2 important points that were already said by @Evilwave Heddy and @Guivs . you can practice meditation anytime, even when you're not sitting. cleaning the floor, drinking tea, washing dishes, brushing teeth, walking. be present and simply do what you're doing without thinking about something else. watch your body sensations and do everything mindfully. be presence itself. this is the way of zen. there's no place for self-inflicted suffering if you train with your heart like this. consistency is more important than plenty time sitting in meditation in one go. there's nothing wrong about increasing the time of your sitting meditation practice. but make sure that you do it everyday and expand your practice throughout the day in other activities as i already said. when your life becomes a giant meditation practice, no matter what you're doing, that's enlightenment. freedom and presence at any state. complete liberation. don't think of us as advanced meditators. the proper mental attitude comes from the eternal beginner. there's nothing to carry.

@Phil we're welcome

@Orange i have. the healing process consists on starting a meditation routine and getting in touch with that pain. don't think about the reason. don't justify yourself nor play the victim. just feel the pain. be the pain. stop running away. it's the perfect moment to grow up. loving someone else is impossible if you cannot find the source of love within yourself.

it is most people's need. it's just another way to strengthen the illusion of a self. people try to fill an empty void with what's not there (and cannot be). it is a massive illusion. it requires suffering to be kept alive and leads to more suffering when it all falls apart. if your happiness depends on that you're pretty much screwed. my recommendation is that you should drop the pursue for external sources of happiness. there are several ways to do it. the practice of zen worked (and works) greatly for me. it's very simple. if you cannot find peace in solitude, it's impossible to find peace.

@Rocky the only way for you to have your question answered is by going through a profound purification process, which would take years. maybe decades. until then you'll be trapped in this line of thought because that's just you being sincere about what you really feel right now.

@eskwire i'm working towards becoming a zen master. every instant: living right now connected with my breath mindfully everyday: healthy food SDS zen reads (shobogenzo & denkoroku) desire happiness for everyone around me, even those i wouldn't like if i were attached to my ego background reciprocate kindness and wisdom with my girlfriend every week: zazen at the zen center hatha yoga ayahuasca cerimonies (UDV) and lots of happiness sharing every year: sesshins (zen retreats)

@heisenburger my entire life right now is just the way i designed. i wouldn't be able to do it without the practice of zen.

hello, @nick96 i'd recommend a book called the power of now written by eckhart tolle and a meditation routine. perseverance in practice and study leads to self mastery. these are the best words i can offer.

@Kenhol it cannot be done. look at yourself. the urge for TRUTH has to come from inside. nobody would insert this kind of wisdom/knowledge in your head if it wasn't because of your own hunger. it would be impossible a few years ago, wouldn't it?

@Alicja_ it may seem like you're doing all this for yourself but consciousness expansion affects everyone on this planet at the same time. this fear you have is another phase of your purification. it's another breakthrough point in which you need to be free from old conditioning. we need to have the courage to do it for the better of the world. nobody else will. embrace your responsibility.

@harisankartj the enlightened one experiences freedom at any state, loving solitude and social interaction. the enlightened one appreciates sadness and happiness. every instant is an instant of LIFE. the enlightened one does not go for extremes nor attaches to a specific state of being. the enlightened one's mind functions with clarity and efficiency, leading to a simple/healthy and lightweight lifestyle.

my agenda is acing life

true, but it's also true that people at that age usually don't look for help on this subject in places like this. so it's very safe to assume that the readers need that advice, as we can see on her answer: @clytaemnestra you are the one who doesn't want to be mature enough not to be manipulated. you are addicted to the safety found on the possibility to manipulate your boyfriend but you feel like you're not growing up with your relationship. it's a typical case of attachment and possessiveness. if you're able to manipulate him, it's his fault. pay attention to the feeling you have about him and put yourself in the position of a mature man who's able to manipulate his girlfriend. why would he take it seriously? is there really a villain? do you see your contradiction? the only way out of this is realizing that you're eternally free and cannot be manipulated. then you need to soften your heart and reach true Love.

@ElenaO women mature faster than men. my advice for women: find a mature man my advice for men: grow up. make use of your free time and solitude

it's possible to get excellent grades and be successful without a single fight. and i'm speaking from my own experience, not from a theoretical possibility. all you need is wisdom not to become naive nor turn things into personal wars.

@Rocky yes, that's an ego thing. if you truly want to succeed, you need to start working WITH them. remember... it's not about you. i am a computer scientist and it's all about human knowledge evolving. it has nothing to do with your grades. scientists need to collaborate and you need to learn how to do teamwork. if mathematics/physics/programming is your passion and you want to work with it in your future, be on the side of those who already work with it. it takes a LOT of humility. if you actually face your arrogance, you will see how you're building your own isolation.

@Morten that's completely normal. we become aware of thoughts just like we become aware of sounds. accept it and go on. accept everything that arises. thoughts, sounds, smells. let everything be the way it is, even what you call "you". let it be.

@Danielle you've experienced absolute sincerity. one of the deepest desires of a human being is being able to be completely honest. and yet, one of the biggest challenges for a human being is being completely honest with oneself and others. sincerity means being able to take full responsibility for one's own thoughts, words and actions. it's impossible to attain full liberation without absolute sincerity.

attractive traits: emotional stability & healthy mind healthy body & diet vigorous and stable sexuality patience strong intellect and wisdom to use it in order to simplify life interesting fact: i pointed virtues that i cultivate for myself

@aryberry in my experience, i can't just talk for no reason. if i don't have at least a strong reason to say things, i rather remain in silence and appreciate my silent mind. silence is beautiful.

@DimmedBulb stop running away from that pain and actually feel it for once. feel it all. you're not supposed to do anything in prior except for becoming able to buy your own food. you're just fine with simply being. people struggle because they fight against just being. thats complete insanity because that's what really happens all the time. we're not going anywhere no matter what we do. we're all just being.