ajasatya

@harisankartj the enlightened one experiences freedom at any state, loving solitude and social interaction. the enlightened one appreciates sadness and happiness. every instant is an instant of LIFE. the enlightened one does not go for extremes nor attaches to a specific state of being. the enlightened one's mind functions with clarity and efficiency, leading to a simple/healthy and lightweight lifestyle.

my agenda is acing life

true, but it's also true that people at that age usually don't look for help on this subject in places like this. so it's very safe to assume that the readers need that advice, as we can see on her answer: @clytaemnestra you are the one who doesn't want to be mature enough not to be manipulated. you are addicted to the safety found on the possibility to manipulate your boyfriend but you feel like you're not growing up with your relationship. it's a typical case of attachment and possessiveness. if you're able to manipulate him, it's his fault. pay attention to the feeling you have about him and put yourself in the position of a mature man who's able to manipulate his girlfriend. why would he take it seriously? is there really a villain? do you see your contradiction? the only way out of this is realizing that you're eternally free and cannot be manipulated. then you need to soften your heart and reach true Love.

@ElenaO women mature faster than men. my advice for women: find a mature man my advice for men: grow up. make use of your free time and solitude

it's possible to get excellent grades and be successful without a single fight. and i'm speaking from my own experience, not from a theoretical possibility. all you need is wisdom not to become naive nor turn things into personal wars.

@Rocky yes, that's an ego thing. if you truly want to succeed, you need to start working WITH them. remember... it's not about you. i am a computer scientist and it's all about human knowledge evolving. it has nothing to do with your grades. scientists need to collaborate and you need to learn how to do teamwork. if mathematics/physics/programming is your passion and you want to work with it in your future, be on the side of those who already work with it. it takes a LOT of humility. if you actually face your arrogance, you will see how you're building your own isolation.

@Morten that's completely normal. we become aware of thoughts just like we become aware of sounds. accept it and go on. accept everything that arises. thoughts, sounds, smells. let everything be the way it is, even what you call "you". let it be.

@Danielle you've experienced absolute sincerity. one of the deepest desires of a human being is being able to be completely honest. and yet, one of the biggest challenges for a human being is being completely honest with oneself and others. sincerity means being able to take full responsibility for one's own thoughts, words and actions. it's impossible to attain full liberation without absolute sincerity.

attractive traits: emotional stability & healthy mind healthy body & diet vigorous and stable sexuality patience strong intellect and wisdom to use it in order to simplify life interesting fact: i pointed virtues that i cultivate for myself

@aryberry in my experience, i can't just talk for no reason. if i don't have at least a strong reason to say things, i rather remain in silence and appreciate my silent mind. silence is beautiful.

@DimmedBulb stop running away from that pain and actually feel it for once. feel it all. you're not supposed to do anything in prior except for becoming able to buy your own food. you're just fine with simply being. people struggle because they fight against just being. thats complete insanity because that's what really happens all the time. we're not going anywhere no matter what we do. we're all just being.

@Hotdog hello. it seems to me that you feel like being a total stranger to yourself. you feel safe when the situation does not entail deep intimacy. just like in almost every case, i'd say that you carry a huge burden on your shoulders, guilt from past experiences and you still haven't forgiven yourself yet. it won't stop until you have the courage to stop everything and begin a journey for your healing. and more importantly, take it seriously with consistency. how does your life feel to you in general? do you eat healthy food? do you have a meditation routine? it's time to stop running, at last. i'm going to attach a great book about tantric sex. i recommend that you read it and practice the exercises with your husband. i did it with my girlfriend and it worked greatly. The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex.pdf

@Dodoster when i was 16 i used to provoke that pain during boring classes. i kinda liked its feeling and it was a great concentration exercise, even though i wasn't aware of its benefits by the time. sometimes i use it as a key to activate mindfulness of the present moment. but it has not anything to do with moving my eyeballs. it's more like mentally focusing on that area of the body.

@mathieu that is amazing.

@YaNanNallari if you can't enjoy your life in general, it's hard to enjoy anything in particular. it has nothing to do with her. you're experiencing lack of self love. appreciation feels impossible in that state.

@rush improving and getting results are ego driven motivations. you get nothing from meditation. it's not for you. do you still want to do it? don't expect benefits from meditation so you can learn how to live without expectations.

@Alicja_ you're doing it properly and you know everything you need to know already. that's really good. i'm going to be real. there's no easy way. the more courage you have to face that pain the better. feel that pain. watch it come up and face it straight. then watch it fade away like every phenomenon. keep it up. be on your healing journey without the love of others until you completely realize self love. it takes time but it has to be done.

@Inglorious count me in. i've gone through it all the way. i can walk with you and help you if you need anything i can help with.

a monk was going through a training process and during his morning meditation he saw a flower bloom on the ground in front of him. he got up and went to report his experience to his master and asked him if that was a legit kensho. the zen master hit the monk in the head with his stick and shouted "you idiot!". @Marinus it's just a sensory experience. meditation changes the structure of the brain and the practitioner may experience flashing lights, goosebumps, weird sounds etc. just move on. it's all makyo and has nothing to do with true realization.

@schmitzy the best you can do to anybody is to wake up completely

@ZX_man yes. you should do something about it. i strongly recommend hatha yoga.

starting a new life free from all old patterns, leaving the past behind and following your inner truth with accuracy. no more boring excuses. finding a job, living with your own effort, shutting down all addictions and corrosive relationships and sticking to a spiritual practice unconditionally.

@Lipthru i had an easy life and i decided to throw myself into "trouble", leaving behind the comfort i had. i left my parents and engaged in a rigorous zen practice. why do you think that siddhartha gautama left his palace? he was feeling the way you're feeling right now, same feeling i had back then. the story of siddhartha is a generic story of a human being with deep anguish, sincerely ready to find out what it's all about. siddhartha gautama was me when i left home. siddhartha gautama was me in my training process to heal my anguish. siddhartha gautama is me telling you to live for your own sake. siddhartha gautama is you, fighting inner conflicts and starting to get ready for the real deal soon.

maybe you need some drastic real situation, some intense episode of suffering like parental death or actual somatic disease. suffering is a true gift for us to learn how to live.