ajasatya

@ElenaO your suffering comes from trying to make things move faster than they naturally do. can't you just have fun in a healthy way? practicing patience increases the quality of any relationship.

Your cognitive style is... Intellectual Your organizational style is... Focused Your energy style is... Introverted Your stress management style is... Resilient Your interpersonal style is... Cooperative Openness Traits Your level of imagination is low. Your level of artistic interests is high. Your level of emotionality is high. Your level of adventurousness is high. Your level of intellectual interest is about average. Your level of liberalism is high. Extraversion Traits Your level of friendliness is high. Your level of gregariousness is about average. Your level of assertiveness is low. Your activity level is low. Your level of excitement-seeking is low. Your level of positive emotions is about average. Neuroticism Traits Your level of anxiety is low. Your level of anger is low. Your level of depression is low. Your level or selfconsciousness is low. Your level of immoderation is low. Your level of vulnerability is low. Agreeableness Traits Your level of trust is about average. Your level of honesty is about average. Your level of altruism is high. Your level of cooperation is high. Your level of modesty is about average. Your level of sympathy is high.

because it's true. you do have to understand how anxiety arises and then, more importantly, act to eliminate the cause of suffering. i recommend this.

@beatlemantis hello. i've been where you are and i know how it feels. you need to embrace life with more courage. meet new people, usually people that you were taught not to get in touch with. throw yourself in the artistic context. painting, dancing, acting. become more human by being able to reach your pain. you're facing your own limitations. society taught you to live in a prison. but it's your fault to let be taught. now, be a responsible adult.

this is what i did: i temporarily cut my parents out of my life so i could grow and become spiritually strong. i thought is was going to be forever but i was mistaken. i just needed enough time to heal.

@ZX_man yes. close your eyes, breath slowly and surrender to what is. true healing usually hurts and requires courage. are you ready to feel pain?

yes. it is possible to fall back to old destructive patterns, so don't be lazy. the practice should be endless. for me it did/does. but it's your job to investigate it by your own direct experience.

AWESOME QUESTION ALERT!!!!

a human being, when embodying Truth - a true master -, acts naturally according to what is called "good" in the relative level, even though he doesn't label "good" or "bad" with thinking processes. why is that? because he feels in his bones the fact that we're ONE BEING. then how to attain mastery? we start by practicing oneness with effort to break through our egoic resistances. after a while, we become so tender that oneness practices itself through us. that's why a true master is always a servant of Truth. it's the happiest way of living.

@emind hello there. your suffering is legitimate. i've been there. i know how it feels to have the urge to fix the world. and i'm here to tell you this: your world is you. you need to go deep into yourself and feel all the pain you can find. you need to learn how to forgive yourself so you'll be able to have a clean life. forgiveness comes with pain. get into this inner journey for real. there's no other way. do you wanna be good at something? this is the real deal: self-mastery.

stop being lazy because nobody else will do it for you. you're still thinking about thoughts of others, afraid of rejection. you're still deeply trapped in your own self-sabotage patterns. everytime you leave the boat too soon, you'll drown in the ocean of unconscious human suffering.

@Erlend please, you and your mother, read this and this. i strongly recommend yogic pranayamas with consistency and patience. try to find the nearest genuine yoga teacher.

@PetarKa have you noticed the beauty of people around you? even the closest ones? have you attained enough concentration to walk gracefully and smile lightly? strengthen ALL virtues you can. don't worry about enumerating too many. the true value of a man is in his fluency with human virtues.

if you're smoking pot, drinking alcohol, eating sugar or inhaling/ingesting any other substance (or masturbating) to do the job of letting go for you, then you gotta be extra careful because that's not liberating. that's just an attempt to transfer responsibility. you know you're stuck when the easy escape method comes to your mind everytime you find yourself in trouble. the real work is a lot more harder, dirtier and ENORMOUSLY MORE REWARDING.

@Dharam this pain you feel is noble and rare. to grow out of it you need to implement a meditation habit. speaking about myself: i wouldn't have done it without zazen and hatha yoga. live fully now. transform yourself consciously now. the pain has done its job, which was to take you to this purifying state. now you can leave the pain behind and do your job. it's your turn.

you're already breathing right now. coming back to breath is just noticing the fact that you're breathing. you don't really do something that you weren't doing before. bringing your attention back to breathing is an spontaneous detachment from thoughts.

@Mert stop trying to do this or that technique. when you notice yourself doing something, just comeback to your breath. don't judge yourself. don't judge your experience. judging is also doing.

@SFRL

@Durka_Durka when you meditate you're not opening up for self harassment. you're actually becoming conscious of how harassing you are to yourself all the time. ego is another word for I. stop saying that your ego hates you. you hate yourself. accept it first and feel the pain. be aware of the fact that you lack self love. once you have accepted it, then change can happen. never stop meditating and lean towards true human virtues, like humility, simplicity and compassion. let go of toxic patterns like pride, vanity and envy. these are lifetime tasks. your suffering is your fuel.

this is true. alcohol was my liberating tool in the very very beginning. i didn't even know what i was doing but i was able to experience a much less self-sabotaging ego when i was drunk. i would repeat to myself: i'm going to stop drinking when my sober self reach my drunk self. and it happened. "luckily" that phase only lasted for 3 years. then i started to practice mindfulness.

@Shin in brazilian portuguese we have a special word for it. we call it solitude. i'm not sure about its meaning in english, but in portuguese it's different from loneliness.

spiritual research is different from usual intellectual research because, in the former, knowing "things" from others won't get you anywhere. you can ask as many questions you want to whoever you want. even to enlightened beings. no matter what is said, it won't help. for this kind of research you have to realize that there's no ultimate authority except for your own direct experience. so sit down and do the work. trust nothing else. attach to no story. give up on science. give up on religion. give up on buddhas. and be patient. this process takes years. maybe decades.

@Alicja_ give up completely and just stay still. this is the most profound teaching. stop trying. just give up. watch your ego dissolve a little more. you do not owe anything to anyone, so let yourself be free.

@Dharam you can watch as many videos you want, but it won't do any good unless you get your hands dirty and sit down for good. watch your breath and let thoughts come and go. thoughts of jealously are just thoughts. as you can already see, becoming free of identification with thoughts is extremely liberating. so look for instructions for meditation. i'm sharing these ones with you.

there you go. it has been said. PS: be careful not to practice yoga just for the girls. you'd play a ridiculous role. instead, practice yoga with your heart.