Natasha

Haha Nah, I'm not that 'spiritual'

Agreed. I just focus on maintaining good health. And even then, if I eat a donut at work or skip gym, that doesn't bother me any more. But then again, I've never had to worry about my looks in the first place, I've always known I was a cute kid.

Yes

Emotional stability. And physical closeness with 1 partner is best vs having to deal with multiple energies at the same time.

Yes, but you don't know what their motivation/insecurity is. Their hard wiring has been definitely warped at some point - lack of self-love, daddy issues, raped at young age, etc. That's what unconsciousness is - a person doesn't see/understand what drives their own issues, so they engage in behaviors/mentality that they otherwise wouldn't.

Natural for a guy, not natural for a girl on evolutionary level. That's why polygamy is popular among males (harems, sister-wives in Mormon communities, etc). I'm yet to hear about a woman keeping multiple husbands/lovers just for sex, unless she's after their money or status.

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Agreed.

Yes, I know. I use metaphors too - wave and ocean/water, sand and sand castle, etc. But thanks for the clay and clay pots one, was a good one

The Absolute allows all. Why still call it 'Love'?

That's what we would like to think. The thing that's hard to swallow, however, is Hitler's actions in no-time/no-space/no-mind Absolute awareness would still be that what is and thus labeled as Love. Which, again, could seem confusing and far-fetched to the mind, but true nonetheless.

@AlphaAbundance God playing hide-and-seek with itself.

Exactly. And I already asked Leo about it too a couple pages back. I would personally not use this word, but when it's used then that's what it means - "that what is".

Yes, that's love with the small 'l'. Love in the Absolute sense is another word for Enlightenment, God, Liberation, etc. I personally wouldn't use that word, because it creates so much confusion among seekers. I know what you mean and you'd have to go full circle to realize it for yourself.

What is Love according to your understanding?

You don't choose Love, Love is the very existential creative nature of reality. Your nose is Love, the cell phone is Love, the dump after you eat is Love... well, you get the whiff If it exists, it's Love whether you consent to it or not. Love is Being.

@Meditationdude I've never taken psychedelics and got Self-realized through self-inquiry. I do resonate with Leo's teachings, though. I actually had the shift while doing a guided self-inquiry in his Creating the Experience of No-self video.

God = Truth = Love = Being = Oneness = the Absolute = Everything and Nothing = Liberation = Enlightenment, etc... Do we need to come up with yet another word to umbrella all the above? How about 'Cantaloupe'

Maybe using the word 'aliveness' would be more helpful for understanding for some, because so many people still equate 'love' with human materialistic emotion and can't grasp what it really means existentially?

Yes, and answering the OP's question then would depend on if his ex GF has transcended her ego. He didn't mention whether she's awakened or not.

Yes, a man would have to continually (and I mean the rest of their life together) romance a woman to have her want to reciprocate sexually. For women sex is emotional thing first, physical second. Male and female are two very different kinds of wiring. John Gray's 'Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus' talks about all these differences in detail. Highly recommend for those who want to understand how the opposite sex works.

We just don't have the testosterone levels you guys have. And once the man and nest are in place, most women lose interest in sex altogether, because their focus and energy now goes to her wiring as a nurturer of her baby chicks. That's why a lot of married men either live in perpetual sexual desperation and remain loyal to their woman, or turn to affairs. Ask some married men around, they'll tell you.

Then they fall into one of the categories I mentioned in one of my previous posts on this thread - detached from their feminine wiring, use sex to get something from a guy, or being in their super masculine energy. That's not moralizing, that's how female biology works.

You're identifying with what Eckhart Tolle calls "the pain body" (whether it's emotional, psychological, or physical). You can learn to detach from it if you can't transcend it yet. He has an extensive library of videos on YouTube devoted to pain body. I'd highly recommend you to look them up.

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