Natasha

You don't kill anything. Work on developing your ego in a responsible way (self-actualization), so you can successfully integrate and transcend it.

XO

Good night sleep is one way. Various home remedies (google for ideas) is another. I do facial exercises (check out the link below) - these tone up your facial muscles and bring blood flow to the surface of your skin which also eliminates dark circles. Dry saunas are great for that too. http://www.carolynsfacialfitness.com/how-does-the-cff-face-exercise-system-get-rid-of-dark-circles-and-bags-under-the-eyes

My opinion is that music is a distraction from the state of being (a form of 'monkey chatter') and that we do it out of fear of emptiness. Recently I was doing my quiet sitting when all of a sudden an urge for humming a tune came over me. And again and again. When I looked deeper at what was causing the urge to rise, realized the tune humming was simply happening as a distraction from experiencing emptiness. That said, I personally love music, especially classical one, and that was quite a subtle, yet very powerful realization for me.

Nice smile, Abra

Short and sweet. You're a girl with 'full life' going on, no time for long chats and mushy convos. Leave him wanting to hear more of you later. Same with your dad, short and sweet. "You are right. Thanks, dad, for caring. Gotta run, busy day today. Catch'a later". And do it with your natural feminine voice.

High pitch is a attribute of a feminine woman and is very attractive to men

One way is to balance your hormones. Acute high pitch comes from elevated estrogen levels in the body.

Spiritual 'monkey chatter'.. sound familiar, anyone?

@nightlight It's not women you're addicted to, it's the excitement and the challenge of the chase. Once you get her and the chase is over, you look for the next 'fix'. Leo's recent vid about overcoming addictions has the solution: http://www.actualized.org/articles/overcoming-addiction

You want to be self-realized? Get out of your mind, literally. It's that simple

@Dustin Dustbin Transcendent Morality Leo was talking about in the video is the answer. It all depends on the progression of the collective consciousness. This could take hundreds of years for humanity to get there. Start with yourself today.

@jes Read the whole thread

All your YT videos already have auto-generated English and Russian subtitles , but they are not quite 100% accurate. I tried to find a way to edit/ fine-tune already existing text and there was no option for that. The only way to re-do it would be to start over from scratch, which I can do also.

@jes PMS side-affects are primarily caused by hormonal dis-balance in your monthly cycle. So the key is to keep it balanced. Maca root and DIM supplements (natural herbs) are great for that. They balance estrogen, keep your mood even, and boost energy. I take DIM-D by Pure Essence Labs - a supplement that contains DIM with Vit D, Calcium D-Glucarate (helps flush excess estrogen), Green Tea and Lycopene. I buy mine online from Vitacost, a monthly supply of 30 capsules for $20. Also, make sure not to expose yourself to toxic chemicals in your environment - heated plastic bottles and tupperware, household chemicals, car exhaust fumes, etc. They all contain bad estrogens that contribute to hormonal dis-balance and mood swings in both women and men. Also, if you consume meat, eggs, cheese, dairy, choose only those that come from hormone-free (preferably organic) animals. Here's a good article about bad estrogens: http://blogs.naturalnews.com/six-steps-to-weight-loss/

@jes Do the 'grey rock' move I was telling you about. Next time he calls and starts rambling blah blah blah (it's all lies anyways), listen to him for 2 mins and then say nonchalantly, "You are right. Sorry, dad, but I got to run now... busy schedule today" and hang up on him. Don't wait for him to ask you questions or keep yelling at you, just hang up. Those 'you are right' words are very powerful against a narc, because the whole reason they say and do what they say/ do is to get a negative reaction out of you, and by seemingly agreeing with him you don't give them that satisfaction/ supply he needs to feed on. Do this technique a few times and watch his rage start to diminish toward you. Hugs

You're welcome Knowledge is power.

'Keeping up with the Jones' cultural syndrome comes to mind.

Do you know if stay at their guest house for that week is included in the price of the retreat?

9/24 - 10/1 is a retreat date at the Zendo?

Thought you guys went there for a retreat. I live in Florida and could fly over to NY for a 1-2 week retreat. Abra said he'd let me know when/ if they hold one. Would be fun to see you guys there

@Mal Oh the paradoxes of self-actualization.. got to love them

This might be YOUR reality, but it's not THE reality. It's like saying Mickey Mouse cartoon is reality. You are what's watching the cartoon, not the illusory character in it. Hugs

Yes, the problem is you refusing to say NO to your abusers. Why are you hanging around those people and feeding them your 'supply' anyway? They're only getting stronger as you're getting weaker. Go No Contact on them even if that means for you to live temporarily in a homeless shelter. Hugs