Tom213

A concept I learned from someone has given me a new perspective on relationships. Our minds think, constantly. It's the brain's job to keep the "meat vehicle" working and reasonably safe from harm so we can experience life. We cannot unplug it...to do so unplugs you and then you're dead. You can unplug from it by realizing that you are not your thoughts, you're just the observer of them. If you think of your mind as a fire hose that is turned on and flailing around, it's easy to guess what happens if you attach to it. It will slam you into the walls. So the same principle must apply if you attach to someone who is attached to their "fire hose". If this is true, then you must first make sure that you are not flailing around attached to your own mind and then use your intuition pertaining to whether or not the possible significant other is attached to theirs. Using this analogy, it's easy to recognize when one or both parties are playing the part of the wacky waving arm flailing inflatable tube man.

Back in 1998 I was in a juvenile substance abuse treatment program where one of the staff was training in acupuncture. She said what she was studying was generally for relaxation or that it could be used to quit smoking and the like. She asked for guinea pigs and I was the only one to volunteer. She had me sit in a conference room with no windows where it could be completely dark and put on a cd with thunderstorms. She placed 5 needles in both of my ears and left the room for 30 minutes. It was the most relaxed I've ever been in my entire life, lol. At one point I couldn't feel the chair I was in and felt like I was just hovering in mid-air. The group itself met once a week and I had this done probably 4-5 times. I noticed that the only time the insertion of the pins was painful was when I was particularly stressed that day. As long as you trust the credentials of the person doing the treatment I would recommend giving it a try. At the very least it's a free vacation from ego and mind because I don't remember having a single thought during any of it.