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This is nearly impossible to do if you never had a girlfriend and/or if you aren't highly conscious of your mind/society conditioning. Even knowing it intellectually, by reading TONS of books or blog, doesn't help (for most people), you have to experience it to really embody it.

Do you had a depression at some point in your life ? Because this kind of talk does not work at all, it could even make him want to do it even more ...

Learn how not to be fed up with this, because there is no end to it.

So true Whenever you think of doing something, ACTION, NOW ! It works, just don't think, DON'T THINK !

Stop porn completely, only fap, for 3 months. Then stop fapping if you want. Stop completely porn AND fapping for 3 months, if you have erectile dysfonction (you last too long or you come way too fast for example). You don't need to stop fapping though, it's not bad at all, unless you grip your dick too hard or fap too fast. There is even benefits to it. Personally, when I fap, I don't just fap, I exercice too

He could even specify that he looks to improve his sex skills. If a women sees that, she could react in 6 differents ways: - ERK, an asshole that just want pussies, ASS HOLE !!! - What a looser, he can't even please a woman LUL !!! - Hummm, I want a full relationship, not just sex. - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe does that mean he's already good and wants to be even better ! - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe he's not that good, but I can teach him ! - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe he's not that good, but that also means he will be if I let him practice with me ! The first two reactions, you really don't want to meet these kind of girls anyway, they have nothing to offer to you asides drama. So, basically, you have more chances to score than not, just by being honest.

Hi everyone, Currently seeking for my passion, I'm using this planning, it works pretty well, and it still leaves me time to do old habits (even though I'm limiting them). It is a planning that only works if you can afford to be jobless though, but it feels amazing when you acclimate to it. What's yours ? Morning : 8:00AM-9:00AM : 1 hour meditation : Gratitude meditation 10 minutes affirmations : I want to find my life purpose 9:10AM-10:10AM :1 hour life purpose exercices 10:10AM -10:40AM: Music 10:40-12AM: Whatever the fuck you want Afternoon : 00:30PM-2:30PM: Walking 10 minutes affirmations: I want to find my life purpose 2:40PM-3:40PM: Thinking/journaling about what I want and WHY (and why(and why(…))) 3:40PM-4:40PM: Meditation : Do nothing 4:40PM-5:40PM: Reading 5:40-7:00PM: Playing with the dog/Preparing dinner Evening: Just after dinner: 10 minutes affirmations: I want to find my life purpose and then Whatever the fuck you want

~ Carl Gustav Jung

Thanks you. For now, I'll visit the Zen center (Buddhism) of my city and practice there 2 or 3 time a month. The only improv class I found (for now) is full for this year, but they proposed me a seminar in January. I will enlist at a pet shelters (Dogs are life). I'll see if there is a 1v1 sport that interest me (Team sport is not my thing). There is almost nothing on Meetup near my city, there is no toastmasters in my region.

Hi everyone, I was a very introverted and shy guy when I started middle school, and I've been humiliated a lot, by pretty much everyone, even girls (mostly pscychological bullying), and that pretty much destroyed all self-esteem in me for the rest of my life (untill now). Today I'm turning 27, I'm ok with all that happened to me, I'm at peace, but I have litterally 0 social skills. It's hard to discuss for me, even though I can technically have a conversation, I rarely have any passion in it. It's not a shyness or a social anxiety problem, I litterally don't care about what people think of me (in a genuine way, there is no wounded ego), and I can start a conversation with pretty much anyone, or ask something to someone without any problem. I'm currently searching what I like in life, because before this year I was addicted to video games (my escape of reality) and never had any other hobbies. I think this could be a big component of why I can't really enjoy a conversation, because there is nothing I can talk with passion right now, and since I cut off all the news/pop culture spectrum, I don't even know what most people talk about. My current interest are walking and spirituality, there is nothing to talk about walking (I guess) and talking spirituality to people is a big problem, because most people either reject it totally, thinks I'm a weirdo (thus closing the discussion on it) or they are too dogmatic about it, and the discussion becomes boring and one-sided. I'm seeking help about this, because at some point, whatever my life purpose will be, being someone who's good at socializing and making people laugh will be necessary. It will be necessary because making laugh people is what makes them likes you, and if they likes you, they'll rarely say no to hear of what you have to say/ask. I also think that friendship is something that is important in life, I can't really know since I never have any friends (I mean real friends here, with deep bonding). I know that I shouldn't rush it, actually I'm not needy about it, I know it will come naturally whenever I choose my field Maybe I'm not introverted at all, maybe it is still some of my past wounds that are unconsciously open, I don't know, But what I'm sure is that It is something I can't overlook if I want to realize myself ! So, what are your techniques or hobbies that could help with that ? I was thinking about theater, but that's pretty much all I can think of right now ^^ EDIT: My only long-lasting relationship ended after 5 months, and I had the realization that a relationship can't fulfill you. I still am a bit shy around girls, but only around smart and hot girls (and even there I'm not really that shy).

A commune is something like a pet shelters where you help for free ? Why online dating ? I don't search for a relationship right now, but maybe you had something else in mind ?

He seems too needy to be able to do that. All the guys I know who can do that, are either huge assholes (with women), or confident guy with an amazing life and personality (it's quite rare).

I would suggest to improve your social skills/life first before trying to practice picking up girls. It would be much more rewarding when you'll be a higher version of yourself searching for a very high quality women. If you get a girlfriend now, and even if everything goes right, you won't try to improve yourself, you just won't, And it's gonna backfire one way or another in your life.

Are you talking about how you feel because of your thoughts, or you just have emotions (without any thoughts) when you see these kind of videos ?

Dude, if a girl at a volunteering convention/charity, hobby group or whatever IS into you, she doesn't give a fuck where she is or what she's doing. What is the difference if she's in a bar or a pet shelter ? It's even more intimate at a pet shelter because you could, for example, walking out the dogs together. What can you do in a bar ? She's with his friends, I'm not even talking about clubs ... The things is, for a girl to like you if she's doing her hobby, you need to have good social skills, you need to make her laugh, you need to NOT be needy (not searching for a relationship, for real), to be grounded (having a career/life calling), and you also needs to be AUTHENTIC. You can attract a girl with just some of these qualities, but she won't stay with you in the long run if you don't take care of the rest, if she's a high quality women, that's just not gonna happen. Don't force yourself to do social events or going out if you don't like it (at least not every week, and certainly not more than once a week), I really don't give a fuck about friendship or social activities myself, and I'm fine ^^ You seem to be a very introverted guy, there is nothing wrong with that, just embrace your difference, and don't listen to people who don't even know what introversion and extraversion means (for real). Introversion doesn't mean you're shy or more anxious than more people, it just means that you need more time alone because social events drain you. Now, of course, there is probably more introvert that are shy and anxious than extrovert, since it's not understood by the mass and people tend to think you're weird, EVEN introverts people themself, because they are under their cultural paradigm. I know that because I always thoughts I was doing something wrong, that I must have forgotten something to enjoy all these parties and nights out, but no, it's just that I don't care (most of the time). That is why you don't feel authentic, because you literally refuse to be who you really are. You try to be an extrovert as an introvert, it just can't work. Do these kinds of things to improve your social skills: Improv class Toastmasters Pickup Go to mall on weekends, chat up all the department store clerks Meetup.com Online dating Sports Join a commune or ashram Music festivals, Burning Man, etc. And watch ALL of these videos, and take notes: How to make a girl fall in love with you Why women fall for assholes What women want in a man Masculinity vs Feminity How to get a girlfriend How to be attractive Relationship advices How to be a man How to be a man - Part 2

What kind of shitty motivational videos are they if they makes you feel that bad ? Watch these: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheMiro0r/videos Maybe these too (didn't watch all of them): https://www.youtube.com/user/MotivationGrid/videos

If the only thing you want is to gain experience, then use pickup, just watch yourself and don't become an ass while you're doing it ^^ When we talk about pickup, it's a sort of community in the US where you learn how to pickup girls (how to talk to her, how to be funny etc ...) with others members. It's not online, you gather and have practical studies and "exercices". If you don't live in the US, It could have a totally different name.

- George Leonard

Maybe you'll have to change your social circles at some point, If they really don't understand you, and you can't talk about any of the things you love in your life to them, what's the point ? I know it seems cruel, but that's the price you have to pay to experience true growth. That is why most people are scared to grow, because most people can't stand to loose their friends/loose the connection they had with them. Some people break up a relationship even if it's going great, just for the sake of finding who they are ... It takes courage to walk life alone, but ultimately, it is the only way to discover who you really are.

Higher-self "Come on bro, not that shit again !" Lower-self "But I like it, LOOK it's AWESOME !" HIgher-self "But we have serious shit to do, like, self-help and studying" Lower-self "SELF-HELP, STUDYING, ahah, ahahahaha, AHAHAHAHAH" Hummm, no, I'm going to eat that snickers, AND THEN I'm going to watch The Walking Dead, PEACE OUT" Higher-self "No you won't. Lower-self "What are you gonna do, KILLING ME ???!!! XDXDXD" Higher-self "No, but I started to meditate" Lower-self "YOU WHAT ???!!!" Higher-self " " Lower-self :

Don't search ... Focus on your personal growth and your life purpose, Girls are attracted to guys who have an amazing life by themself (according to their values) and who have big dreams they put BEFORE them. As soon as you are in search mode, you'll always repulse a women, if not at the beginning, it will be some weeks/months after, when she will realized that you don't have any passion on your own ... They don't want a relationship for the sake of having one, not really, they want to be the catalyst on what you pull your strenghts,they want to help you achieve your goals and dreams, and of course, they want you to do the same for them. So don't think about relationships, think about what are you gonna do with your life, what drives you, make THAT your relationship.

Meditation raise your awareness, so you can see the bullshit in your head, and make wiser choices. It calms you down, makes you more appreciative of the present moment. Meditation isn't needed to have an awakening or to realize your enlightenment, but it helps. It's not through meditation alone that you will realize your true nature, it is by living your life in the present moment intensely. Habits than can help: - Practising mindfullness - Living your life purpose - Taking care of your body and mind (healthy diet) - Limiting bullshit habits that feels your head with craps (memes/facebook/smoking/alcohol etc ...) - More connection with nature - Cutting off negative/toxic people from your life - Yoga

You mean the do nothing where you let your mind loose and don't control anything ? Yes it's a good meditation.

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