Shin

Translate his videos, like that people who don't know english could understand them if a friend show them.

If you expect something, you project a desirable future. Future doesn't exist in reality, hence why people are never happy NOW. Don't expect anything from people, even from situations. Doesn't mean you don't plan anything anymore, just that you don't know what's gonna happen.

@Danielle Oh boy you hyped me up so much ! See you in 6 hours ! This gif is appropriate too

Now I'm starting to think that my obstinacy won't pay off

The guided meditation is the Eckhart Tolle video too

Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem

What other people think of you are thoughts. Thoughts are imaginary things that people thinks, and most of these thoughts are taken from our society. If someone doesn't like you, it's not you they don't like, it's their idea of you they despise. There is something you really need to get into your head right now No matter how amazing you someone is, there will ALWAYS be someone who hates him. Why ? Because people judge, and why do they judge ? Because they think they are a separate entity. The thoughts they have to judge you, are the way they have to separate themselves from you. It's not personal, nothing is personal in this, it's all a game they are playing. If you want this pain to stop, you have to stop the game. No one is gonna stop the game for you but yourself. So the next time someone judges you, and you feel rejection Feel the emotion inside you, don't be in your mind, be in your emotion. Let it comes fully, don't interfere, don't do anything except feeling/observing it. If you do that everytime a negative emotion comes, you'll be free of it, with time. If you don't change anything, the pain will grow stronger, until you can't stand it anymore. Then you'll be forced to do what I have told you anyway, so save you some months/years, and do it now.

@Shin I can sense your ego through the screen, clearly not enlightened at all !

What about those who meditate non-stop all day ? :3

When you finish lesson 7 of Bentinho Enlightenment Course When the mind is seeking

Start meditation for 20 minutes everyday. If you really can't stand it anymore, meditate 2 hours per day. If you have suicidal thoughts, join a Zen monastery and stay there until you can laugh at your past self.

It is very simple. Feel your body, and choose the situation that feels uncomfortable, especially the ones where you feel fear. I'm not talking about what your mind tells you, I'm talking about your emotions. Your emotions never lies to you. @HelloThere I told you to drop your mind, and you answer me by using examples of how you use your mind. I hope you see the problem there, otherwise no one can really help you.

Beliefs and self-images are illusions as you already know. So, when you think about it, there isn't something you can't do, there is only things you aren't doing. Don't buy into anything your mind says, if you feel you really want something, ask yourself why. If the answer is something about some kind of benefits, you don't want it (unless basic practical stuff) If the answer is something about what you could do for others (either directly or not), then you really want it. Beware of what your mind will tells you, it is very tricky, and you might not even know for sure if you're bullshitting yourself if you didn't do some serious mindfulness/shadow work/meditation work before (check this on Leo's channel if you don't know what I'm talking about). The problem is not negative beliefs or positive beliefs, it is any kind of belief. You don't need to believe anything if you really know what you want deep down, everything else will come as insights and intuitions, you don't even have to think. If you don't find your life purpose, you'll be only half a men the rest of your life. Everything will be disfunctional in some degree, especially relationship with women, cause what womens do all the time is testing your inner strenght, and without a purpose, you have none. Bentinho Self-Empowerment Course is free, so you might want to check that out (to find your life purpose), I didn't do it, so I don't know its worth. There is also the one from Leo, but it cost 250$ (which is cheap considering what you would get of it), so I would suggest you to buy it if you aren't 300% sure of what you want, because the course is amazing and you learn a lot of useful stuff.

Focus on finding your life purpose, everything else is a distraction, especially women. Unless it comes naturally and you're already grounded in your purpose, there is no reason to search for a girlfriend as a man (unless you have a feminine core). Improve your social skills, humor, if necessary, but unless you're a virgin or have some serious anxiety/shyness problem around women, there is no reason to waste your time chasing one. Let things be.

If you have enough presence to make them both listen to what you said, and if even just one of them thinks you're wise, yes you could/should help.

Read the course too. This is a very important notion to have and practice Do you often says to yourself : "I will be present later, now I have to think about X and Z, then I'll be present". or "I will be present when I could, right now there is X happening, after that Z, I can't be present while this is happening". If you do, be very mindful when this happen, because this is a belief, it is NOT true. There is no thing that stops you from being present, absolutely NO THING.

Tell us more about that. This is only hard untill you accept others as they are, and not what you think they should be. You have to accept and watch all the suffering that wants to comes out of you. The difficulty lies in the fact that you might identify with this pain, but even then, it's still better to know what makes you feel bad that letting it be totally inconscious. If you can look at your pain, face to face, it will vanish at some point, it may even vanish extremely fast if you know why and how stupid this reason is to be sad (with enough awareness it is possible).

Because we think we can die. The funny thing that when you discover you can't die You will want to create/savour life even more @Loreena That can happens too, but for most people living in the west, they come out of this phase.

Do you guys know a meditation technique that is specialize in silence ? What I mean by that, is a meditation that makes your mind shuts off really hardcore.

So Much Tears

Important for advanced seeker:

Well, I was talking to people who found their life purpose. Of course don't go all the way if you can sense that your ego is bullshitting you and it feels inauthentic as fuck @Loreena I'll come next year whether you want it or not :3

INTJ, But my advice here would be to not get caught into this labelization of your psychee. Read about it a bit, and have some ahah moment, but DON'T identify with it. Mostly because we all have some traumas or at least some blockages that makes us act in ways we wouldn't if they weren't there (even if we aren't conscious of them right now). There is also the fact that when you age, you tend to go toward the middleground of the spectrum, this isn't necessarily set in stone. Also because any kind of identification (even if it's correct) is a way to block you into your spiritual realization. Any belief whatsoever actually. You could be INTJ and switch to 2 or 3 other similar personality in several years, or even switch from an Introvert to an extrovert (or the inverse) because you were so unauthentic all your life that you didn't even know your predominance (energized by social interaction - drained by social interaction). @LowPlanetary It isn't rare on a forum, especially this one, because people who are into self-developement needs to be able to introspect themselves. Extrovert usually never learn to do that, it isn't in their nature.

It feels amazing and terrible at the beginning, at some point the amazingness is prevalent when you find your new friends circle/totally adjust to this new lifestyle. You're chasing it because you think you will find completion through it, inconsciously, since you seem to be perplex. Completion can only be realized through spiritual work, because what we chase is the reunification with the Absolute, which is already the case, ironically. That's the root cause of every addiction, you really REALLY think you'll find what you need in the end, for most people you only see this is bullshit when you got ALL what you think you needed (which of course is rare). So you're kind of lucky to already realized that it's all bullshit now, it's a blessing really