How to be wise

@Conceptually-made “it must occur” is that really true? Again, is the proof in ‘actuality’ or just a concept in your mind. I would suggest that you meditate on this.

@Conceptually-made why do you think you should be doing anything. Notice that this is the source of your suffering: “I should be doing this.” Who would you be without this lie? Free to do what you want to do. Secondly, is it true that you are different? Where is your proof? Is it in ‘actuality’ or just a concept in your mind? Notice that in your direct experience, there is zero proof that you are weird. The only proof is in your mind, maybe as a memory. Close your eyes, and go back to a time where you thought you were weird. Be in that time and place. Now, just in that moment, is it true that you are weird. Just that moment. Meditate on this until you get an answer.

@Conceptually-made why do you think that you need to connect to people? Are you feeling lonely? Or are you feeling that you are weird?

@cetus56 Stupid and wise come full circle. A wise person is so stupid, that he doesn’t even know the notion of ‘stupid,’ which makes him super wise. I’ve had that insight first hand, without reading anything about it.

I disagree that it takes decades. I will prove you wrong.

@Leo Gura 3-4 days. Couldn’t access this entire website. I’m glad it wasn’t just me.

@Paul92 Leo was mistaken in the way he said it because he implied a future where you will reincarnate. There is no such future. There is only the now. Plus, the whole world is a concept. So what can you reincarnate to? Hitler? Trees? No such thing. Those things only exist as thoughts, not in actuality.

@zambize as I said earlier, all negative emotions of all kinds is caused by beliefs. Being nervous around a girl is no exception to that. If you want me to explain it more for you I can. @Aakash Yes.

@zambize the mind never passes. It’s just that you are unaware of the thought causing that emotion. It has become a belief. Most of your beliefs you are unaware of. But if you didn’t have that belief, it’s not possible for that emotion to stay in your body. @Aakash ‘Loving What Is’ book. Also, if you have time, check out her other books.

@John West My advice is, forget about the results. Focus on doing the practice. Let the results come in their own time.

@zambize all negative emotions are caused by thoughts. No exception. @Aakash The Work of Byron Katie

@LoveandPurpose all problems are created by the ego-mind. In reality, there are no problems to be dealt with. If you are not convinced, give me an example of what you consider to be a real problem, and I will show you how it is created by the mind.

@Aakash it will come by itself as you peel away negative beliefs that you have. The more negative beliefs you undo, the more love that radiates from you. You don’t have to put any effort into love. You already are radiating it. You’re not aware of it because negative thoughts are blocking it. Undo those thoughts, and you will become aware of that love.

@Aakash Embodiment includes seeing that anything you thought was bad/negative about something, is not true. So, once you’ve seen that all of your bad thoughts about something is not true, what remains is love/connection with that thing. You no longer have any problem with it. You are happy with it.

@Kazman good luck

@Kazman Do you think it was worth it?

@Serotoninluv you’re right.

@Sahil Pandit The Work is far more effective than Kriya Yoga and psychedelics. Good luck!

@IuliannaSalamandra Take it easy. It seems like you’ve dug yourself a rather deep trench. It will take some work to get yourself out of there. I advise you to buy the book ‘Loving What Is.’ It talkes about a shadow work technique known as The Work. Take it up as a practice. Do it every day. Also, try watching this video for starters:

@Manjushri is it really true that you are fucking up? Needing more sleep and energy than you have is a delusional idea. Stop scaring yourself by telling yourself that you’re not ok physically. You are. You don’t need sleeping pills to force yourself to bed. Just let the sleep happen. Feeling tired all the time is fine. Whosoever said that it wasn’t.

@hikmatshiraliyev I think you should experiment with different techniques until you find ‘the one.’ Then just focus on that.

@ajasatya but how do you heal and grow exactly? Surely just being in the marriage is not enough.

@ajasatya Sorry for misunderstanding. I wonder what kind of technique you use to grow yourself using your marriage. For me, I use The Work of Byron Katie.

@LeoBacca I do my self-inquiry practice three times a day. I got that idea from Leo’s Islam video, where he said that Muslims pray five times a day in order to keep their faith strong. In the same way, doing self-inquiry three times a day keeps my mind focusing on this all day. As for duration, it’s about 30 mins per session.

@Aakash Check out the book ‘Loving What Is.’ Lol, why is that specific to just marriage. All of life is about showing you what thoughts you are attached to. There’s no where you can go were you can escape your mind. Even an empty desert. I agree that marriage is an especially successful tool to show you were you are acting out of the unclear mind, but so is everywhere else. Your children, parents, co-workers, and everybody else in your life has the job of showing you where you are attached to untrue thoughts. They are pointing you to freedom.