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Yeah people way overcomplicate this stuff. Everyone is doing it. How else does someone up with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

I think once video games develop to the point of virtual reality and simulations, they could have a very important place in society. So I think you need to have a long-term vision for what is possible beyond right now.

Sex can be a huge distraction. That being said I am not so sure Jesus, Mohammed, and other Sages have been celibate their whole lives.

I wish I could have animals. I am always gone.

I think you are definitely on to something here. I have experienced this from time to time. When you are really focused and passionate about something sex takes a background.

I don't know anymore what pick up is supposed to be either then. I just think of it as talking to girls, flirting with them, and then dating them or having sex with them. To me it's no more complicated then that. Pickup translates to me as "versieren" if that makes sense.

In Holland where we are from pickup is also a female thing. Dutch women are known for being very direct and doing the pickup themselves if they are interested in a guy. Foreigners are always very surprised how direct Dutch women are. Here in America where I live now pickup is mainly a male thing. Somehow to me in Holland it's like we got it figured out how to make gender equality work. At the same time people in Holland, both men and women, seem to understand that we are equal but also different. I was just back in Holland for a week and it was apparent to me that the baseline happiness level over there is higher then in the US. People generally just seem a little bit happier with their lifes. Which I think is because of an accumulation of many little differences.

Ah yeah a "wise clan"....my parents told me as well that I couldn't have a certain toy I wanted for the same reasons. What about a tribe who slaughters another tribe with machetes. There is no suffering there?

Tie a rope around your penis and jump from the balcony.

Join a gym, sport, activity, or group where there is a big mix of ethnicities. Racism is learned behaviour. And it can be unlearned I believe.

If that works for you then you should stick with it.

I remember this being the first song that I was into when I started to really appreciate music as a kid.

Yeah mature.....tell me what is mature? If you are going to be friends with a woman for a year do you know how many options she is going to have with other guys approaching her and trying to get her interest? It's not a winning strategy.

You should be in good shape then if you can go out and get girls phone numbers. I don't know what you do to follow up. But you got to make your intentions known. Don't try to sneak in a side door and act like you want to be friends. When you text her call her beautiful, sexy, etc. Set up a date. Say: You want to go on a date? Literally no beating around the bush. You need to make your intentions very clear. Then when you go out you need to physically escalate. Brush arm to arm or shoulder to shoulder. Touch her with the outside of your hand, rub with the outside of your hand over her arm, leg, knee. Touch her but don't grab her. Then build it up. Give a short playfully pull on her hair and laugh at it. Stuff like that. Then when you got her hot and bothered you can move in for the kiss. The rest should unfold automatically. If anywhere along the lines you get rejected don't worry it happens. Lots of other girls out there. And again notice which girl seems to LIKE YOU. No point to go after that 8/10 if it's going to be an uphill battle while that 7/10 is ripe for the picking.

If you want to know those things I recommend to look up the content online of Julien Blanc and Tyler Owen from RSD. RSD even has meetings I think that you can sign up for. I will be happy to discuss these things with you here as well. But I am starting my timer; I give it another 10 minutes max before someone starts to cry that pick up is immoral and unconscious etc. etc. And that you should meditate until your dick falls off so it won't be a problem anymore.

Somehow I think that if I would get to rate that same girl she would not be a 3 or a 4. But if that's how you feel then don't do it. So the real question is then: What are you going to do now? Which other girls seem interested in you? Or what are you going to do to make more girls interested in you?

If you don't find her at least above average attractive, like a 7/10 then don't do it. But otherwise you might want to give it a shot. What makes her not attractive enough?

Achieving happiness for me. Now there is instant happiness and happiness that's more rewarding and therefore greater. Leo has a video on that. Also making good use of your time/getting the max out of life. Because is the most valuable currency there is.

@lukmi sounds like a normal mindset for a 19 year old guy who has not been with a girl yet. You are only 19 man. You are not exactly ahead of the pack, but still within the spectrum that would be considered normal. Look around you and watch out for which girls LIKE YOU. Then which one meet your standards. Those you should approach for beginners.

What I find is that people that help you actualize majorly in one area of my life, tend to be the biggest distractors of actualization in other parts of my life.

When you are 22 you may think those older then you got it figured out. The truth is most people as they get older become more dysfunctional versions of themselves, as Leo said it in one of his videos. The dont become better. They regress. This will be painfully clear to you when you are in your 30's. Good chance the people who make those comments to you are no way ahead of you. If anything you want to stay connected to the kid in you. I think Leo mentioned something along those lines as well. I think it was in a video called "What you truly want".

I agree with this post. Also in my opinion people should be a little bit more compassionate towards neediness behaviour in their partner. In the beginning of a relationship people run off chemical reactions which causes all sorts of extreme and irrational behaviour. After a year or two these chemical reactions tend to become less, and the behaviour of people normalizes again. But most relationships don't get the change to reach that stage.

@Shane Roberts your post is full of contradictions. And that is because you are puting up all these defense mechanisms. You make excuses not to take action. Things are as they are. Better learn to deal with them.

When it comes to being Beta or Alpha you can think of there being a spectrum where people can be placed. You can be so many percent Alpha so many percent Beta the total being 100%. So then you can decide for yourself where you stand on that spectrum and try to slide the spectrum more towards Alpha. Also in reality most people do have Alpha traits as well as Beta traits. And then the sum of all these traits make you more or less overall Alpha or Beta. But that also means that being Alpha or Beta can be dependant on setting and situation. I think some people are born more Alpha then others. But it can also be developed to a degree. I think also the example your father gives you, and the dynamic of the mother in the household can have an influence. So I believe there are multiple things that effect the outcome of how Alpha or Beta someone is. Things you can do to develop your Alphaness: Go to the gym: This does not necessarily make you more Alpha. But a lot of Alpha guys like going to the gym. But there are very Alpha guys who don't care for the gym at all. If you are an out of shape Beta guy the gym will definitely make you more Alpha though. Public speaking: Learning how to speak in front of people can build a lot of confidence. So learning how to teach or give presentations can level up your confidence a lot. Confidence is of course a major trait of an Alpha male. Dating/having sex: You don't need to have sex with a lot of girls per se. But it's hard to imagine an Alpha guy who is a virgin. Having sex with a lot of girls will in the process have you develop some Alpha traits. Don't be a follower: Wear the clothes you want to wear. Have the haircut you want. The phone you want. The gadgets you want. The car you want. Have your own vision for these things. Date the type of girls you want to date. You need to have your own vision for these things. An Alpha guy creates his own reality according to the vision he has for his life. So to highlight: Have confidence, have a vision, and do your own thing. The biggest Beta trait you want to stay away from is non-action.

@username yeah man hit me up.