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@Shane597 no I don't know.

@Leo Gura I do think this is very true for the Dating and Relationships section of the forum as well, where I have most been active. It has been really nasty there lately. From 'both sides' so to say. I am going to make a new profile and refrain from posting in that section of the forum. And I will focus more on the other sections of the forum. I think it's necessary for my own personal growth. To prevent distraction. What I find kind of strange is that for a forum where its members pride themselves so much on intelligence, so many of them can't understand the areas of grey or read between the lines.

Maybe a book. But I would not drop a lot of money it. Same goes for sex. All that stuff is out there for free. But if you want to go ahead. It's not a big deal either way. You will always learn something.

That's possible depending on if she is cool with that. But you should be asking yourself that question after you have had sex with her already. She may be great in bed, in which case you will probably get one it's over her. Or the sex may be really bad and you don't want her as a fwb. Sex with benefits is for girls that you have ok sex with but not great sex from my experience.

The problem is that you are spending money on it. There are girls that are willing to talk to you like that for free. And they do it because they like it not because you pay them. Start making some online dating accounts and take it from there.

I would not go that far. That is based on assumption.

It's funny how a an old woman will be like "just 2 young guys". But an older guy will never be like "just two young girls".

Burn her on a stake, she is teaching pick-up for women

That's just dysfunctional.

Also this tells me you are probably not very well adapt at socially interacting with people your own age. You may want to up your social skills in general by joining some hobby or sports with people your own age group.

@Shane597 that's so cute that you can still be in the slumps over having a little bit of a hard time finding a date. I wish I could still be bothered by issues of that size. Life is tough, that's just childs play. I think the online dating thing may be hard for you because of your young age. The majority of the people on there are late twenties and early thirties. Also you are not using the best quality sites. Its worth it paying for a subscription on Match.com.

I notice this as well. When the sun is shining I am happier and more energetic then when it's cloudy. Also sometimes when I feel lethargic walking outside in the sun fixed it pretty fast.

@sgn nothing to be ashamed about. You would think your family wants the best for you. But That's often not the case. They want the best for themselves. You are just a puppet in their ego play. The thing is you don't need to play.

Yes

Autocorrect did that. I meant your aggression goes inward so it turns into depression. By 28 you have given it a chance to get better. It didn't. And it won't. For me it's like I need to deal with all this manipulation. First it was my relationships and my career. Now it is my daughter. You need to cut it. I don't know how you experience that but for me it's like I step in the same trap over and over again.

Same here man. I am seriously pissed off with my family right now. With me I have developed some serious anger aggression. Which I think is the same as depression and low self esteem. The difference is mine is finding a way outward hours is internalized. How old are you? I am 33. I can tell you that shit won't get better over time.

That's a great opportunity for self-development then, instead of keeping stuck in your limiting beliefs.

These are all absolutes. He can also put the friend on the backburner. Just keep her as some vague acuintes. Just reduce the friendship down to 25%. And keep the girlfriend happy. Then friend some new male friends. There is only so many friends you can entertain anyways.

There is so much to freedom its more then two women being jealous. It's like you judge the size of a man by the size of the problems that bother him. What are you going to do then be a puppet to the believes of your social circle and this female friend? If I want and I put in some serious effort then 3 weeks from now I am banging the shit out of some new girl I never met before at this moment and I am at the stage where I am exploring a possible relationship with her already. I know this. I don't have that desire but I know I can. That knowledge that I can do that is freedom. Freedom is also telling your social circle you know what motherfuckers I just don't really feel like hanging out that often with this particular female anymore. Freedom is you just do whatever the fuck you want to do.

That's such a canned response. Did you come up with that all yourself? Or is it just something the other sheep before you was blerring. Did you actually put any real thought into it? Like sit down for a couple of hours at least and really deeply think about it?

Yes I value freedom as well. So this friend when you are dying of old age she is going to be at your deathbed and she will be at your funeral? She is just fluff and decoration, it's all temporary.

Anyway what do you do a female friend for? I don't have female friends anymore. There is nothing that I can do with female friends that I can do with guy friends as well. Turn the question around: Why does your ego need to hold on to this female friend at all cost?

"A spanking a day keeps the bratiness away" I keep saying it. I feel like a shouting man in the desert.

I dont know but what I do know is that nothing in life is a fixed state. People can have a perfect little life and 3 months from now that's all in barrels. At the same time everything can seem to go against you but next year everything is going a lot better. Economic depressions don't last forever, droughts dont last for ever, and unhappiness dont last forever they are all cycles. I was reading something the other day that in past eras unhappiness and suffering has always been seen as a part of life. And even been celebrated. We are pretty much the first generation that thinks that if you are not very happy all the time there is something wrong with us.

Yes and that is one reason why you should value the ability to feel 'negative emotions'. Going from negative emotions to happy emontions to negative emotions again is a closed loop that keeps you moving forward.