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  1. On a more practical level for this situation there are laws in place in the US at least where they can't get away with that easily. Here you can file a very inexpensive small claims court again then which would probably get it resolved. Do some digging around the laws for that where you live, or ask people from your country about what to do in this situation, there may be something you can do to easily and cheaply resolve the issue that you don't know about.
  2. It depends upon for how long and much you have overdone it. And probably other variables that nobody can really tell you the answer to that question.
  3. There is this doctor Sarno guy who has the most helpful information I've ever found on pain. He was a standard pain specialist who realized that what he was doing was helping very few people and the fact that the ideas he was taught and how pain is treated by doctors doesn't actually match up with reality. He tells you how emotions and stress cause physical pain and what to do about it. This has helped me too. There are tons of examples he gives of how the treatments don't match the facts. For example doctors frequently blame thing that look off on imaging as the source of pain. However there is zero correlation for most pains with how bad images look. People without pain also have images that look just as bad. In particular with back pain everyone will have a spine that looks bad if they reached an old enough age, yet most of them do not have pain. So an image that looks bad is meaningless. Other examples being fake surgery has worked as well as real surgery for treating knee problems, or that people who are not 'educated' in poor countries experience less pain issues despite a lifestyle that puts more physical stress on their body. The fact that people often get pain when stressful things happen, but no doctors ever ask about that, or looks for that as a cause. I've linked to 4 videos that go into this in depth by another doctor trained by him. He uses the terms (TMS) Tension myositis syndrome, and mind body syndrome (MBS) as the terms for people who have physical symptoms such as pain from emotions, and stress. (So you don't go huh what is he talking about?) Video 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-mP2wqafnI (pay attention especially to how he shows how expectations of the pain often create the pain, and those who don't know they 'should' have the pain don't have!) Video 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2G_QWFZ6F4 Video 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9T9imHHwD8 Video 4: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cccbHXWeo9g
  4. Dig some more.. The worst thing that could happen when I go to vet school is? I'm afraid to go to vet school because? If I don't go to vet school I would be safer because? I'm going to vet school because?
  5. I see the confusion about people being convinced stopping helps them and others think its bs. I can understand that. It depends where you are coming from. and how it effects you. I've been mostly a once a day with porn, sometimes twice, but that is pretty rare and, more than that is something I never do That doesn't sound too bad. However, if I get into details you can see how it is a problem for me. Just looking at one video, or one picture per session is no longer enough stimulation and I need keep switching every few seconds in order to feel stimulated enough. My grip has to be really tight and in a very specific way that I got used to otherwise it doesn't work. Women have an extremely difficult time and can't get me to orgasm most of the time no matter how attractive I find them because it doesn't mimic what I am used to. When I tried stopping for a long time the ability to orgasm got much much easier. I also get stuck in a pattern where certain stressors when I am alone end up with me going to masturbating as a way of coping even though they don't really help me feel that much better.
  6. The adding elements to the memory and playing it backwards and forwards are basic techniques in NLP you can find more about NLP by searching it there is a lot of information about it. Memories are not static they are subject to change each time you recall them. Basic trauma memory work is just recall the memory, do something with your mind and/or body that will make it feel even just a little better, go back to the memory, go back to something that makes you feel better, rinse and repeat till it feels OK. There is almost an unlimited about of scenarios you can make up with this basic pattern. As long as you don't go too deeply in the bad feels and are able to switch to good feelings then it will help to some degree. If the bad feelings are stronger than the good feelings you are trying to generate then you can re-traumatize yourself. Going into every time detail as mentioned in the original post is a bad idea unless it takes that much detail to generate a bad feeling that is still tolerable. As you do one of the methods you should be able to go into more detail as it will start to feel less scary.
  7. In the US a lot of these substances are legal in the sense that nobody has banned them, or made laws against them and nobody owns the rights to the substances here (so they can't stop others from selling it on that ground that it's theirs only). The government does end up stepping in with these kind of substance usually though if people start getting seriously injured often enough that it is commonly known (they can get protecting the children brownie points), or if substances are get really popular and well know as the drug companies don't like you buying from anyone other than them. I digged some more about the Aniracetam I see comments about side effects also from too much choline, given my diet already gets more than the average person, and I have no idea how I would react to just extra choline, it could also be I was having side effects from the choline.
  8. I'm aware and did choline too! Not going to try aniracetam again anytime soon if ever didn't seem to agree with me. My diet is also the ketogenic diet, lots of meat, eggs, fats, some vegetables like spinach which are high in choline.
  9. I've experimented a little. It's really hard to sort out what is true and not about them. I watched a video on youtube where they interviewed the co-creator of Noopept (This interesting Russian woman in her 80's). Interesting listen, and it makes it sound like something everyone should be taking it because there are supposedly no downsides. Claims you don't get tolerant on it, but to take a few day break every few months, or something similar. Took very little searching around to find people on reddit claiming they get tolerant to it after taking it everyday. Lots of contradictory stuff for most of these when I tried to figure out what is 'good' and 'safe'. Your post raised my curiosity to try some of the nootropics that are newer and I ended up ordering some that I had not tried. aniracetam at at 750 mg dosage first time ever yesterday and today. Here are my notes. 2/11: Extremely calming and greatly reducing of physical symptoms that were being triggered by work stress. Feel sorta restless and harder to concentrate. Could not sleep at night. 2/12 Not noticing calmness, just restless and hard to concentrate. Totally not worth taking if this continues. Bad enough that I just said fuck it and gave up on working at some point.
  10. I'm going to guess she isn't very nice when yelling at least part of the time. So you probably associated her voice with whatever bad behavior sometimes comes with it. This is a very long, but very entertaining and informative description of how you can come to associate sounds to mean things that aren't useful to you anymore, as well as what to do about it. It's directed at people who have something similar to what you described, but much worse. http://www.owenparachute.com/misophonia.html
  11. I've been doing the ketogenic diet for just over a month based on researching from https://www.reddit.com/r/keto. A lot of people on there who have had various health markers of problems get them corrected after a short period of time. Things like people who have diabetes not regulating their blood sugar well (eating more carbs just makes the problem worse even though doctors tell them to do that!), cholesterol issues (eating high cholesterol does not cause it to increase in your blood because of how the body processes it when taken in by food), food cravings, acid reflux, being over weight, and other issues. I'm not the typical person there as most people trying it are doing it to help lose weight. I was never overweight myself at any point in my life. I think a lot of beliefs about food are just made up crap without any basis in anything many are oversimplifying things by trying to think through something logically without knowing enough to actually do that. For example 'don't eat fat it will make you fat'. Without knowing much of what really happens when you eat fat that makes total sense, but in reality if you eat lots of fat and not many carbs, its very difficult to overeat as it makes you full much easier. You end up taking in less calories without trying as hard. I struggle with cravings partly because I work from home and so food access is pretty easy, but when I'm loaded up with fat (which isn't even enough to make me gain weight), it totally kills the urges to stuff my face with more crap.
  12. This kind of spiral of negative thoughts and being in a shitty scenario and trying too hard to resolve it with thinking is exactly what I mean this can make me tired still today, it just takes more of this kind of thinking then before and I am able to notice and stop myself more often. If you engage in this kind of thinking only a few minutes a day once in a while you will probably be fine, but if you do it for very long and often then it could very well make you tried all the time.
  13. Cardio like kickboxing can make you gain weight on the upper body too, it just won't be as much as weight lifting. I've gained around 20 lbs from kickboxing for 3 years. Went from 5' 11" 130lbs to 150lbs. Nobody will mistake me for someone who lifts a lot of weight, but I find that terribly boring and stick with something I enjoy instead. The lifting weights is a good idea too as long as you enjoy it, go for it, I didn't think to even suggest that because few women are into that.
  14. Did you possibly check the size of your thighs while you were still warm from the exercise? They may temporarily grow in size from all the bloodflow to support doing the exercise. The other thing about exercise is you can't direct where you lose fat, or body mass from, generally it will be done evenly. If you are focusing on your legs a lot, you will gain muscle there and possible make them bigger depending upon how much fat lost compared to muscle gained. You may be much happier with the results if you do a full body exercise and not just specific parts. I'm a guy who is a big fan of kickboxing classes, they are a more full body workout than what you were doing and is something else you can try. (Also thought I'd add that muscular women legs as being unattractive is just your interpretation of the scenario, I don't find them unattractive)
  15. People always talk about food and exercise and serious health conditions as relations to energy, but almost never the mind. Being tired can just be the freeze mode in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response (people pleasing). I long discovered I could think myself into being tired and sleepy, or if I was being emotionally triggered in a really bad way. What got me out of being tried all the time was a combination of removing myself out of the situations that I wan't handling well, learning to stop myself from overthinking certain things, carefully paying attention to what kind of situations were making me tired, so I could learn how to do something better about them, and PTSD and other emotional style treatments so I could handle things better. I was tired and in bed a lot for a long period of time and it was really hard to unravel at first because when you are tired always you can't pick up what triggers you to become tired very easily and you mistake it for a state of being instead of realizing there is some control over it. A good start is just to pay attention to what is going around you and your mental states when you shift into being tired, or the tiredness increasing.