Salvijus

If u can enter and abide in the presence of love. That love will dissolve all negativity by itself, no need to direct it at anything. But that's rare. Usually people just repeat a mantra in their heads, i love my self, i love my anger, i love the whole world. That's fake, and that's not how love works and in that sense it's a bit delusional imo. Love is not an acrion that u can perfom on things. It's a state of being. If u know how to enter that state, good. U have a very powerful practice. Otherwise it could be self deception.

I think this could be true. But it's a question whether or not that love is real or is it just halusination? I found that love transforms negative energies into smth neutral. But it's a weird practice. A lot of potential for self deception i believe.

Tru, tru. And mind is literaly incapable of knowing what is right i think. That's why it's eternally confused. Real answers and knowledge come from beyond the mind. The presence of beingness

@Judy2 probably i would chose the path of least resistence. Something in between like u sayed. Trying to pretend to be spiritual and act against all conditioning with nothing but sheer mental will is going to bring a lot of suffering also. I think each one has to descide according to the level of pressure and level of conciousness growth they have. And even if somebody is fully trancended all conditioning may still chose to conform to some level just to avoid unnecessary conflict. There seems to be many exceptions to it. Nobody can explain these things in words i think. One who is attuned to everything and is living from presence simply knows what is the most harmonious thing to do at any given moment spontanuously without thinking. That would be the best and my favorite option. Relying on the mind in such situations is a guarantee of confusion, doubt, and constant wrong choice making ?

These are probably both valid ways u can approach spirituality. If u practice awareness, it will naturally lead to detachment. If u practice the presence of love, it will naturally find expression in the world. The nature of love is to extend itself to others, sometimes dance in joy and celebration. The nature of awareness is to become detachted and unaffected by anything and still and silent. That's why buddhists always become monks and christians alaways go into the world and hug people and spread love around (theoreticly). It's just what happens naturally in those states of consciouness.

Okey, you're right. I was not laughing at people with eating disorders. I just find people who starve themselves intentionally to lose weight to be a bit ridiculous and funny. And i know for a fact there are a lot of them. Almost every woman has that pressure to look lean and it causes them to starve and restrict themselves a lot i believe, at least a little bit. It's not mockingly funny. But funny in a way that it's a bit ridiculous and anti-smart. At least from my perspective.

@Judy2 really? I didn't think it was trauma. If i had to guess it was an insecurity of body weight. Something that what every woman has these days. I bet more like 50% of women have tried to starve themselves to lose weight ? i think that's pretty funny. And insanse. Weird combination of feelings ?

I never counted calories in my life. I just eat until im full. I eat a bowl of fruits, then a vegetable like a tomato and avocado and then a two handfulls of grains with lentils. How much calories is that? I think that's like 500maybe. A small tip. Eating food in this order: fruits then vegetables then cooked food is really good for your digestion and u won't feel bloated in this way. Don't drink water 40min before and after as it slows down digestion.

"I was starving myself" Women are crazy ? But intermitted fasting is not even fasting. I eat twice a day for years, i never even notice it, or would call it fasting even. It's just normal amount that the body needs really.

@soos_mite_ah do u go for a 40min walk after u eat or do u sit immediately and do nothing? These look like small things but it matters a lot. If u sit right after a meal u are making digestion more difficult for stomach. This increase the amount of fat that get stored in the belly and the feeling of bloatness. I bet you're doing tons of wrong lifestyle things that you're not even aware of. and probably u have some digestion problems that weight lifting is not gonna help. U need proper medicine herbs here. Certain yogic practices help ignite the digestion fire like suriya namaskar.

Lol ? Yea maybe. It could be just a small tip in a right direction maybe. If a serious change is desired, i believe doing a thorough ayurveda examimation would be essential. Health is way to complex subject to understand it on your own imo. What's ed history btw?

Do suriya namaskar every day. U'll be dry and lean as a stick. Fit and light as a bird and not muscular. There is a way to improve your organ health, bone health, tenacity of lingaments, body tissues, joints etc, improve circulation of various fluids. All that is much more important to health then lifting weights. Add some ayurveda herbs and lifestyle modifications to improve your digestion and health and u'll be fat free. There's a lot of potential here. Gym and weight lifting is pretty lame and ineffective to lose fat i believe. Also u need to work out daily. That's the minimum. Body is easily capable and literaly designed to be excercised daily. 3-4 times a week is what grandmas do. Walking from home to work is also not gonna be remotely enough. Eat twice a day. Intermitted fasting may help to lose weight. If u drink plenty of water your headaches and dizziness will go away. Drinking warm water with citrus juice on empty stomach in the morning especially has a good effect on reducing fat.

@Razard86 :)

Lol.

First we receive the love from god. Then we extend it to others. I think that's how it works. U can't give what u don't have. And loves comes only from god.

This is good. Also identity is the one who takes credit for every action imo.

@NoSelfSelf

Lol. Maybe you're a guy who doesn't not know who he is ? Not knowing who u are is what u are ? "Look, it's that guy who doesn't know himself"

Identity is something u identify with. If u like pizza very much, peaple will say, "oh it's that pizza guy" Whatever u like or dislike becomes your identity.

Bali maybe? It's very spiritual, good climate, very cheap livelihood, beautiful nature

Tibet i heard is very spiritual and kind. Why do u even care? (Rethorical question)

@UnbornTao :)

Stages of ego development in phychology is a model. But it's a model based on observation of reality, it's a discovery that was made by observation. Similary mathematics is a created model that was created by observing reality imo.

@UnbornTao i mean in a sense yes, reality can't be described by any model, symbols, concepts etc. But that point of view blows out absolutely everything. U can use the same argument to deny the discoveries of laws of physics. A smart ass guy could say gravity is just a concept and all concepts are inventions. There is no such thing as invention or discovery. Nothing ever happens, there's just what is, beyond any concepts etc. Im failing to explain why, but there's something wrong when people use absolute perspective to deny the relative. It's just not fair ? and inappropriate in this topic imo.

I can't see the quote that you're commenting on.