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Hello guys My name is Hans , I'm 16 , I live in Romania (EU) and I go to high school . I follow many self-help teachers , fitness guys and a lot of debates like Religion vs Atheism (i feel like they should all just watch Leo's videos ) . I notice that there are many unnecessary conflicts between my friends , at school , at home or anywhere . The way sometimes I try to solve these problems is by going deeper than they do , asking them what caused the initial problem and trying to see both sides , trying to see the good in every side , the common goal -the solution - but what they do is they just debate and debate trying to prove their points (usually they just say their opinions without having any arguments to back it up) - and what they usually say to me is that I AM JUST PHILOSOPHISING and there is no point for me to talk or something like this . This happens to me even in school with teachers or in certain groups of people . They say that i am ignorant and arrogant by doing so ," philosophising" , or that I want to be a smartass . I see that people don't take me seriously : I think it is because of my lack of verbal skill and because i am usually a funny guy and I make many stupid but very funny jokes - they misinterpret that as "i am not a serious guy and i can't say anything constructive " often , which is absolutely stupid - Why tf would you not take someone seriously just because he sometimes intentionally plays certain characters , says stupid jokes - the goal being to make people laugh and smile . But who they take seriously is people who make fun of others in a funny way ,but they are always perfect of course . And I don't want to say that i don't do all these shitty things , i do ! but i recognize my mistakes , i try to be aware of them . I just want people to be more aware of their thinking process . Of course there are some people who understand me and I really appreciate them , they are amazing people .

I alwAys think about how i should have the ideal life ,about how i should be the smartass , how i should work and learn and then i preach like a fcking arogant idiot and i don't even take action .. I always just think about myself ... and i criticize people who actually work for their living , work for their money , while i am just here not doing anything

Omg thank you all for your time I am very happy now It is so true .. i actually didn't solve my problems , i didn't learn a lot of things that i wanted to learn , i didn't get a girlfriend , i didn't establish the habits that i wanted ... and just kept philosophising and watching videos and idealising about how everyone should behave and how everyone should treat me :))) i'm sorry for that title ... i was just butthurt cause someone called me stupid :))) probably am :)) Love you guys .. thanks for everything

Hi i feel like i have to write something . I am 16 , At school we have this program of going for 1 week to a school in another country .We are a german school in ROmania . We go to the german families and vice-versa . It includes trips , parties and stuff. Last year i went in germany and I met a girl. (I am kinda the only one from my class who tried to have fun and connect with the stranger german girls , cause we have different languages - They are really different from Romanian girls ,they are intelligent , open minded , free thinkers , they are just amazing ) . I had some good conversations with her, and we also had a lot of awkward moments , uncomfortable moments where we didn't connect emotionally . But the thing is that even if we had all these bad moments , i could have still given her a kiss , i had so many occasions , chances , but i just didn't do it , cause i felt very depressed in the moment , i was so anxious because i was over-analyzing everything. The thing is that i could only be with that girl for one week and then could never see her again. I didn't kiss her !!! I was very disappointed ,very sad , I even cried. Then i finally came home and i was like what ?? why tf were I such a pussy , why did i have those powerful negative emotions ? Were they created by me ? ...I wrote a post on actualized.org about it , then i felt better . And then I said I will never make this mistake again ... Next year the germans came to us. And there was a NEW GIRL , a beautiful one , just like the other one . Again , we had some cool moments, but there were a lot of awkward moments and also social pressure because i was the only one who tried to connect with a german girl . I can say she really liked me and she wanted something to happen. She was trying to say funny things , she gave me hints , we were like " yeah , we will be together " We also got physical this time : A lot of hugs , a lot of close face to face interactions, dancing . BUT still not enough - we didn't kiss . I DIDN'T KISS HER . Many times She was looking into my eyes and I felt insecure. I could blame a lot of things for why this happened , but deep down i know i could have done much better . On the last day we had a party before they went home ... we were both trying to connect and feel good so that we can finally kiss ... but it was just so much tension and frustration that we felt weird and anxious. My friends were encouraging me to kiss her but i didn't. UGGGGHH Fuck me !! Then i was like " Oh we don't feel so great , so we shouldn't kiss cause it will be awkward " . Now I'm like "I should have fucking kissed her anyway , it would be a 1000x better then now , it could have been such beautiful moment , facing my fears and having a great end to the story . When it was time to say goodbye , i went and talked to her and it was kind of a relieving conversation because i told her how i felt .. I told her something like this " I know that we tried to have fun together an be together , it;s probably my fault that it didn't happen ... maybe we just don't match . " and then she asked " Why do you say we didn't match ?, i think we had a lot of great moments together "i am crying right now .. i am so sorry for her now ... and i said " i feel like there wasn't that chemistry between us but it's ok cause i had a really great time with you, you are such a kind and beautiful girl " and then she awkwardly laughed and she said " You can come next time in germany " , I gave her a long hug , then I was looking into her eyes , we were looking at each other and although I said all these things to her , I finally felt THAT WE WERE ACTUALLY CONNECTING ....and ....it was a beautiful moment,...we were looking at each other... and I was thinking of kissing her ..... Guess what happened : I WAITED TOO LONG and she had to go !!! UUUGGGGGGHHH ...... I am so fucking angry about myself right now !!! , I was kinda happy that i told her how i felt cause i never told a girl that i love her .... but i was very sad that i didn't kiss her . And here I am a few hours later writing this post and i am just thinking " Man , what an opportunity i missed , FUCK man , FUCK " . There is a chance though that i can go to them again , or that she can come again but that is not granted. Will i ever get over my weirdness and actually kiss the girl ?? I am scared that i won't meet such an amazing girl again , it was my only chance .I feel like i want this girl back in my life . And yes i know all the principles about dating in theory but it's very hard to apply them

I meditated for 60 days straight and then i stopped for some reason ,don't know why, probably because of laziness.

@Girzo omg man thanks for your response . Right now i feel a bit empty and I also feel like a failure , i just realised that she actually liked me a lot . I was just ignoring her throughout the week a lot because i was afraid that she wouldn't like me , omg . The fear is the only cause of weirdness . We even talked about me being weird and i just blamed it on "mood swings" yeee....:))) But i still appreciate this whole experience because i saw some improvement since the first one , especially that i had to talk another language .

"What is the point of creating art ? Is it to make ourselves and others feel in a certain way ? To inspire others ? Why would I want to inspire others ? So that they can create art which inspires others too ? Should there be any reason for it ? Why should there be a reason ? " Sometimes I have thoughts like these when I want to create some art , like making a video ...

I love to laugh at weird interactions ... especially when i have friends who understand them I love to build tension and release it .. trough laughter Do you guys have this type of humor ? Where you just laugh at your own attempt to socialize or your attempt to make jokes ? ... I just love it .. and I don't really like normal jokes and I just don't like when someone tells me a joke and wants me to laugh I just stay there like "yee very funny ".. But I am very attracted to shy, not superficial people , I feel like they are much smarter and more egoless (in a way) idk ... i love self deprecating humor .... maybe it's about the way the joke is told ... .but it is rare that i find people like this with whom i can connect .. I feel like if i surrounded myself with such people .. we could create amazing work , art, ... produce amazing movies because we would share the same vision .. like we laugh at our own insecurities and have fun... IDK .. it's just hard to find such people.. What do you think ? I'm 16 .. no girlfriend .. i'm pretty lonely actually sometimes ... Ps: i also like filthyfrank's humor , IDubbz and Pewdiepie lol

I've been trying to implement MEDITATION for 9 months or so.. and i almost meditated everyday since then ... The problem is that I didn't control myself and i interrupted my session many times .. or i moved a lot ... or i just laid in bed 30 minutes when i was tired ... or i was doing it late at night , it wasn't consistent ...

Hi there from Europe (Romania ) , i'm Hans and i'm 16. I have two years of school left then i have to go to college . Until then I want to achieve some things but i don't know if i can do it all in 2 years. I have developed a lot of skills like : Video , audio , photo editing , learned some programming , i speak 4 languages *** becoming a charismatic and good communicator,public speaking , getting into relationships, having success with girls, MAKING PEOPLE HAPPY,FEARLESS - Have 3 girlfriends , have many public speeches *** creating art (videos ,drawings) , getting good at movie-making and getting success on youtube -5.000 subscribers , make inspirational , funny art . *** Learning for school and getting good grades - Learn school material , study psychology master it *** Implementing meditation and a healthy lifestyle , clean room , Getting fit - stable habits *** Finding a way for making money , so i don't worry about it - make money *** Doing things for others: Feeding my dogs, helping my grandma , my mom , helping others . ***Learn business These are my goals .. and the kind of person that i want to become ... I'm trying to do these things but i am not sure in what way i should implement these them .. and how much would it take for me ... i don't want to underestimate it .. because i did it many times , i tried implementing many habits , i failed sometimes , now i am still doing it ... I think it will take me a lot of years though Can you give me some opinions about what strategy should i use ? Have a nice day

I got a camera and i began making some vlogs (talking with friends)...then i watched the videos and realized ...how much I love myself...,my life.... and everything and i feel like i just don't want life to pass ... i am addicted to every second of my life , when i think about my past,my childhood ,i look at old photos ,videos ... i feel very nostalgic and happy and there are things,happenings that i don't remember... I DON'T WANT MY LIFE,MY EMOTIONS TO BE FORGOTTEN , I WOULD WANT TO HAVE EVERY SINGLE BEAUTIFUL MOMENT OF MY LIFE RECORDED . (i don't know why i got this feeling right now) Sometimes when i shoot videos i feel like it's boring .... and then i watch the video a few days after ... and i am like wooooow ... it was an amazing experience and it's all ok and i feel nostalgic and happy about it :))) It feels like i lost a piece of my life , that i can't get back ... it's gone ... I want keep all my emotions....Do you ever feel like this?

I am 16 years old,male :)) . I want to have an amazing life full of joy , love, adventure ,happiness, amazing sex and ART ,making others happy , smile and laugh , ( not in a superficial way )and i also want to learn,know about all aspects of life. I feel like I have talents that need to rise to the surface (i mean sometimes i feel like this , when i am confident). I know , i sound like an egoic narcissistic person but i really don't feel that way. I have a vision about making movies ,acting , collaborating, working with others .. and producing powerful , beautiful , funny , deep , philosophical, scientific movies and many other types too. I like music , drawing , editing videos , special effects .I love the idea of having deep impact on people . I love making other people laugh . I love self-deprecating humor. I know that this is just talk ... that's the problem ... I don't want to be a hypocrite who preaches a lot but doesn't ACT . I don't want to write my whole life story although I would love to (I'd love to have someone to discuss my whole life with :)) .. I think i am somewhere at stage orange . 10 months ago I tried to implement a lot of stuff in my life :meditation , eating healthy ,studying , sports , learning ,socializing , waking up early , etc. AND I FEEL LIKE I IMPROVED A LOT SINCE THEN in some areas of my life. But the thing is that i was still stuck because i slacked off a lot ... and after a few months i realized that I tried to hard to do everything at once . So now my approach is to IMPLEMENT ONE HABIT A MONTH (like first month one habit ,second month two habits ,...) 1) MEDITATION 2) STUDYING 3) RSD ( because i want to have my first girlfriend lol) etc... I am on day 43 of consistent meditation (and concentration of course ) And now i am doing two things meditating and studying (i had 2 days off ) . BUT sometimes i feel like i just want to go out and live life, have fun ... or when i want to make some movies ... i want to make them when i am inspired ... CAN YOU MAKE A HABIT OF BEING ARTISTIC AND CREATIVE ? or you just do that when the inspiration comes? DO YOU THINK THIS IS A GOOD APPROACH? PS: I AM VERY LAZY ... Sometimes inspiration comes when i am lazy .. can laziness be a source of inspiration,motivation ? Sometimes i just stay in my bed and i don't do anything , i also want to be more confident.

I am 16 years looking for my passion .... i love great acting , also enjoy editing photos videos,drawing, programming .. i feel like i could become very good at any of these .. but i feel like i must become an actor but that would be a really hard thing to accomplish . There are various activities that people do in order to get money , create products,services and art for other people. But which are the most important ones ? Let's say that there is a scientist who is very innovative and his new discoveries are applied in real life and many people benefit from that. Then there is a singer who can sing very well but doesn't really help people in staying healthy , getting the right information or having a better environment , they just make people feel in certain ways. And then there are all those gurus who make money by telling others how to make money ... What counts as work ? is there a level of importance to all the activities ? Is a scientist more important than an artist ? (yes i know it depends on the impact they have on the world) but what if both have really big positive impact , but in different ways ... materialistic and emotional ..

So , i am in high school , europe . I think that the way our teachers present to us the subject is sooo boring .. when it could be really much fun . I have seen many good teachers who are really passionate about their subjects and they make you interested , but the majority are not like that , they just kinda do it cause they get money. Also i find some things that we learn very unnecessary. For example , in math class ... i hate it when we just have to learn a lot of formulas and don't even know what the hell are they about ... and you just apply them in problems . Or when you have to read a lot of old romanian literature . Yes i know it depends on the book but those books are really not useful in anything , i don't get it why don't they just write the main idea ,why do they have to shit talk hundreds of pages . Everyone learns them just to pass the exam . I love khan academy , it's a youtube channel and they are doing such a great job . I want my teachers to be like them and i also want to not learn all the unnecessary stuff and to stress about grades . For me when i have to learn for a test i find it really disgusting , Why do you force me to memorize something rather then explain to me so that i can i have a deep understanding? because i don't have time to understand the subject deeply , i just have to memorize things that i forget in a week. I'm sure that if teachers were more passionate about their subjects , then they would make it much more interesting and there would be many more good students. And i can't really concentrate on finding my passion , working on it when i constantly have to do my homework.

1) Communicating and socializing with others : Sometimes i feel that social anxiety coming from nowhere ... then i begin to mumble and stutter (maybe because i speak 4 languages ).. then i worry about what the people i talk to think about it .. but other times i speak really well when i am with my friends or when i am just confident. It also may be that i am not interested in them. 2) Figuring out what i want to do in my life: There are more things that i could be doing (others say i have talent in and i like) : Become an Actor,producer ( i don't really have the self confidence to this one , cause i have this social anxiety sometimes , it would be hard to work with other people unless i get over my social anxiety) Graphic Designer ( this one would be an "easy" one cause i have talent in drawing and i already have some photoshop skills , and had experience but i don't know if this would fulfill me or if i would live up to my highest value with this one , but it is still much less riskier than acting) 3) Developing a learning habit for school. BTW i'm 16 .

have you guys heard of the rice experiment ? watch this and this is not the only successful video on yt ,there are many others .. even my friend did this and had good results What do do think ? Do our thoughts really have such a big impact on our environment?

What are your thoughts about the rice experiment here is a video : my friend did it too and it really worked .. what do you think guys ... that would mean that positive affirmations are very powerful

@ShinDOn't you have a job? Like you just do all day what you want? :)) that's cool

week day : 1) 06:30 wake up 2) wash my face 3) Eat 4) Brush my teeth 5) Meditate 30 minutes 6) 7:30 go to school 7) sometimes i go socializing in a student fraternity where we party on weekends and stuff like that but just socializing on weekdays i am really shy but also really charismatic when i am not insecure :)) so yeah .. and i try to socialize :)) AFTER SCHOOL: 14:30 usually 7) come home and clean up 8) Eat 9) Read 10) Work out and watch actualized.org vids 11) "Do my homework"- yeah .. i should 12) Feed my dogs 13) Eat 14) Brush teeth 15) Free time youtube entertainment : H3H3, Idubbz , filthyfrank,Bobby burns , ... i exercise acting, learning about acting , about cinematography , 16) Go to bed at 11:00

My question to you : Has Leo changed his opinion about affirmations ? Is it good to do daily affirmations focusing on 1 thing/goal at once ? I ask this just because this video was uploaded like 2 years ago ..

When i sit in stillness and close my eyes , i move my eyes inwards and breath in and ENERGY (or something like that idk) comes into my head .i breath out. and it goes allover my body Do you know what is that ?

@Hans hi lol

Hi Leo , my name is Hans and my question is : Do I not have to have a regular basis ( like everyday at 06:00 ) for meditation ? I just have to do it everyday whatever the time is?