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Ha — there's actually research backing this up. Studies show people rate themselves 20-30% less attractive than strangers rate them. So yeah, the opposite is often closer to reality.

Great question, and I should clarify — "improve" doesn't mean "look like someone else." It means closing the gap between where you are and your own genetic potential. For example: if someone has forward head posture from sitting at a desk all day, their jawline angle measures 5-8 degrees worse than it would with correct posture. Fixing posture isn't changing who you are — it's revealing the bone structure you already have. Same with skin health, sleep quality, hydration — these all measurably affect facial symmetry and proportion. You're not trying to look like a celebrity. You're trying to look like the best version of yourself. The tool doesn't compare you to an ideal. It measures your own proportions and shows which ones are furthest from YOUR averages. Two people with completely different faces can both score 80+ because the metrics are relative to individual geometry. To your deeper question — there is no "perfect human." But there IS a version of you that's sleeping 8 hours, hydrated, standing straight, and taking care of their skin. And that version measurably photographs differently than the stressed, slouched, dehydrated version.

The gap between how you see yourself and how others see you I've been thinking about something that rarely gets discussed in personal development circles: most of us have a distorted model of our own physical appearance, and it silently affects our confidence, social behavior, and even career decisions. Here's what I mean. We look at ourselves in mirrors (which are flipped), in selfies (which distort proportions based on focal length), and through the lens of whatever insecurity we've been carrying since middle school. None of these give us an accurate picture. I started exploring this after building a tool that measures facial geometry with AI — specific angles, ratios, symmetry percentages. Not a "rate me" score, just math. What I noticed was fascinating: • People who say "my face is asymmetric" almost always measure within 3-4% of perfect symmetry. That's essentially invisible to others. Their insecurity is real, but the asymmetry isn't. • People who obsess over their nose usually have perfectly average nose proportions. Meanwhile their jawline or eye area — things they never think about — might actually be below average and improvable. • The features that bother us most are rarely the features that others notice. We zoom in on one thing; others see the whole gestalt. This connects to a broader self-actualization point: you can't improve what you can't accurately perceive. And most of us have never actually measured our starting point with anything objective. I'm not saying physical appearance should be a central pillar of self-development. But I think the distorted self-image many of us carry leaks into other areas — it affects how confidently we show up in conversations, interviews, dates, and even how we carry ourselves physically. The shift from "I don't like how I look" to "here are my actual measurements, and here's what I can specifically improve" is surprisingly liberating. It turns a vague emotional burden into a solvable problem. If anyone's curious about the tool: realsmile.online/looksmaxxing-test — it measures 10 facial metrics using AI that runs in your browser (no photos uploaded anywhere). Free, no signup. But more broadly: has anyone else explored the gap between self-perception and reality when it comes to physical appearance? How did it affect your development work?

yeah, that sounds about right

isn't that just dunning Kruger in action?

I know this thread is kind of old but I created a tool that improved dating pictures https://realsmile.online/compare. I also created a looksmaxxing tool for improving one attractiveness https://realsmile.online/looksmaxxing-test . I also wrote a bunch of blogs and guides for improving dating photos and also head shots for LinkedIn. hope the helps you out!