Emmely

I feel there is a certain amount of generalisation here that I have a hard time with in general, preferring a more individualistic approach to preferences. You seem very comfortable throwing these gradings around, however, in the context, it just strikes me as banal. I am not based in the US, so inherently I imagine there is a cultural difference too, in how we perceive and evaluate partner compatibility. Linear grading systems strike me as limiting. Do you feel they serve you well, thus far?

The idea that you, off the bat, describe her as a ’10’, shows me that the superficial filtering process extends to you too. You describe her as a 10, which I presume is looks-wise. That is your core filter and the one thing you mention first. Now, she has a filter too. You describe her as older - perhaps she wants to have kids and wants someone stable enough to be able to put food on the table and provide a non-mould infested shelter. I find it such a paradox that women can be so superficially filtered - yet, men are absolutely aghast if women do the same. The same women that were prohibited from doing ‘mens’ work just a fortnight ago.

One with singularity. When you give up everything else, you are not nothing. Enlightenment means relinquishing all else to the one. If all else becomes irrelevant, enlightenment must mean the greater self abandons all for the collective. The self can never be truly enlightened because it acts as one. Singularity means everything as one. True enlightenment means rejoining the collective one.

I like the analogy, however, that takes you to your internalised presence. Nonetheless, you are still ‘stuck in a a room of mirrors, lacking windows and doors’ - all you’ve achieved is a momentary and fictitious escape by closing your eyes. You are still in the same place physically, hence you have to live within its construct. Internalised consciousness does little in translating our physical realm. Once you are in the matrix, if you want to participate, you have to accept the confines of its constructs. You can choose not to play - many people do through different mediums, however most get bored and continue to oscillate between a deeper internalised consciousness and a more external, superficial/linear and societally acceptable state.

Once you are in the matrix, you have to live within the means of its constructs, even though you may not accept them as an ultimate reality. You are inherently confined, even if awakened. Please correct me if I am wrong.