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To provide insight to others on Maturity in Dreaming - The Sword and Shield to Desired Meaning Itself: Dreaming, which is one of the fundamental foundations to Meaning, is often a slave to the ego when navigated immaturely. Paradoxically, this severely limits the capacity to dream itself, dreaming being the main frame of the three lasts posts and what we will dive deeply into April 1st without revealing too much. The ego’s sane position and where it is most creative, is to be in alignment with truth discernment. Truth discernment then evolves to existential questions that press, “Can I out-dream desire, ego, and all that I dream itself?” To ground the action of dreaming and prepare the ego to do it at greater levels of development, truth needs to identity where inflations over-run limits. This is where the ego learns to understand where it is immature in the action of dreaming, otherwise it will indeed hurt itself, and potentially others in the process without a doubt, even if indirectly. Like a small child or a baby, it is self-absorbed, selfish and foolish because it wants without understanding limits, and it self-harms (i.e. inclusive of things like ruminative or negative thinking in general that limits scaled dreaming), because it cannot process the gap between its wanting and reality itself. Born out of trying to resolve this gap, at a low developmental level we have limited scopes in memetic culture that both seek to capture this (“you need to be practical!”), however the opposite extreme also exists (“dream what you want don’t let others hold you back!”). This keeps people stuck as they try to source understanding through the cultural indoctrinations they’ve learned or to try to overcome, they will bridge to narcissistic defences that reflect compensatory psychical resolves. This compensatory action is positively intentioned, it is the psyche seeking integration, however it is at most as a desperate clasping for a feeling of independence, straying one from the creative independence that evolves even further by feeling empowered from a healthy position. Take a breath, attune with the action of breathing, contemplate and move deeper into one’s depth to create the space for the dreaming to take root from a space by which the chains the psyche is trying to break, slip off rather than fighting against something that will only tighten and harm the psyche in the long run, even if there’s momentary freeing for even a year, we reap what we sow and everything we do, always catches up with us. In our automatic actions, feelings and thoughts we mistake as ourselves, and the people, influences and environment around us we call our space, when in reality it is the wearing of normalisation costing the freedom slightly constrained from where one otherwise would have been. With more positive influences, people and environments to connect with. To out-dream the dream itself, you must out-dream the dreamer. This, automatically injects objectivity onto the self and resolve towards a creative ambition beyond it is; evolving identity, not as a force one move towards, but where the self and the ego shift with the flow of transformation itself. It is at the gap and edges between the two where the friction arises, and it is in their overlapping where the freedom to dream anything and beyond it itself without needing it to define one, is where one does it from Oneness, as a felt experience one holds personal dominion over, not as dogmatic ideas one feels they have to abide by. Interconnection with the self is this by definition, and greatest of dreaming happens at the edge of integration while contributing to the integration of the psyche itself. Rather than try to wield dreaming as a tool when in reality you and the dreaming is being wielded by the ego’s lack of development, understanding these distances between the creative act of dreaming, and the physical actions for it, is the divide that rebirths the psyche, nurtures it, makes it whole, and makes it stronger. The Western world has conflated its image of dreaming, ego and ambition and in doing so, the self-image one creates in the context of Meaning itself. Distortion of reality, rather bridging with it, is what now runs mainstream western culture because it performs and teaches the same compensatory action out of its misunderstanding of the Mind itself. This leads to Meaning, which should be taught to become a deeply personal creation coupled with understanding how it operates in the mind, becoming subjugated to the whims of social norms, populations oscillating between nihilism, religious and institutional virtue and narcissistic self-importance. All unique compensatory actions between one another. Nihilism is not born out of not finding meaning in life, but through a rejection of the normalisations while not being able to integrate the universe with one’s own self understanding for how their minds create meaning. Institutional virtue religious included, is born out of course from conformity and the privilege of finding success therein, where the latter is a rebellion from them both, narcissistically conforming to one’s own self-image to compensate for not being able to resolve the hidden nihilism or rebellion from a tribal network. This is a child’s strategy, and I mean that very non-judgementally and in a “matter of fact way”, it is important to understand that the majority of all humanity are still possessed by a child like understanding of how the mind works because social norms have not evolved with spiritual and scientific breakthroughs, nor the demographics within those two itself. It is up to you the individual, to intelligently make sense of where you as a person square against your own developmental trajectory, maturely identifying weaknesses and turning that process into a strength that accelerates development in a patient way, reflecting on your own existence as sacred and therefore your own persona discipline towards its unveiling, as just as sacred to honour with mindfulness, and depth of action. With the sincerity that grows your meaning further for tomorrow, and your capacity to dream a more evolved day in the next. ”So can you, out-dream the dreaming, and the dream that dreams you as itself?” - Sacred Patience. Stay strong, keep dreaming and best wishes. And, if you’re in the right direction, take your time with it. Honour your sovereignty to your self-awareness. Catch you April 1st to reveal all the mechanics, dynamics and more.

For clarity, I use a females voice to avoid projection from the listener. Own vocals will replace later this year. Plan on keeping music unlisted until I have created my own music platform for creatives (beginnings of nxt yr). => As per my previous two posts, we live in an unhealthy culture, and I don’t wish to forge a creative relationship with that so I will just simply cave out my own demographic with me as the main leader. It’ll be the way music and Hollywood (so 🎥 too) was always meant to be, made for the people by the creatives to extend, grow and evolve peoples capacity to dream further, deeper and more maturely.

The following is a brief follow up to the post directly above: April 1st will still be going ahead as planned. But only on one condition, as a personal pledge to what I have come to understand while being on this earth. I will never again read or comment in the general forum area again. The finalised version will come April 1st as stated earlier (removed post). "Who are you. By that I mean, who am I? By that I mean, I don't know what this is all about." ^ This is the beginning of Verse 1. These quoted lyrics have particular significance for me, taken from a song I did ten years earlier. Endless reflections into a literal mirror, viewing my form trying to see beyond the eye that viewed it and then something more. The dreamer that dreamed to know what made the dreamer. And this is where I leave you with a final thought, consider how as we head deeper into the post-dreamer world, as dreamers are replaced by technology that does the dreaming for them, with brief algorithmically timed entertainment hits. The night that for so many centuries reflected our time and space to venture into the worlds beyond and to cement the dream we wanted to make in the waking one, will now be used to consolidate territory over the entirety of our collective mind, taking one individual mind at a time, until it’s capacity to dream the world that made this silent virus, is completely overtaken. I yearn to not just dream, but to hold the full capacity of my dreaming in the palm of my hand, that is the power that I scream for, and that is the power that I will continually nurse in daylight, and grow in moonlight. To not be taken by the world’s trends, but to rail against them. This is rebellion. To do so with creative flare, this is independence. To do so in a way that shows others what they too should be fighting for and what they too can master, this is great leadership. My presence is not required on this forum, it is merely to help show what can be done. Feel free to join me through your own contributions, that is the true meaning that created any great civilisation, that survives the patterns of ruin that are always easy to predict in advance. Your foresight, is sight on your greatest dream, and that is the only seer you need to protect. Best wishes, stay strong.

Preface: Thank you in advance for not commenting on my journal. I’ll drop something July 1st thereabouts. If anything I create thats more than a paragraph is going to be called AI, or scrutinised as such, worse if it’s reflective of the bottom of the barrel concerning my cognitive effort… and while jet lagged, under-slept, it’s better to just post publicly when I feel much less emotional investment in the sharing itself. Initially a branch-off from my two (one is quoted) comments here: Ha! No hard feelings on my end, it’s economics. Welcome the dystopia with open arms otherwise you’ll become too frustrated and become its own example. Simply continue to make calculated moves to your next strategic intersection. I hope I haven’t disappointed anyone with the lack of April 1st release, you just gotta see it from my perspective. It’s simply not smart anymore to invest effort when the environment is going down this kind of momentum. When I share, people can just call it AI, and I won’t care. This is the end of my journaling I guess, ha. I promise to share July, but the series likely stops there onto something else related to helping me in my studies (as that’s what this series on the mappings of consciousness was mostly going to be about), so I no longer have the emotional investment into the sharing itself given the trajectory of where things are likely heading now. To ensure after my break this doesn’t happen again, I’ll avoid the rest of the forum as intended so I don’t get hung up on anything external to my own personal activity. Heck, if I only stick to the journal section for my entire reading I’ll have a positively distorted perception on the progress of the site and maybe thats a good thing heh! Heh, you kiddos will be fine. I’ll clean up my journal anyway and go back to a purely detached posting here once I return then. Best wishes, good luck. Prologue: Thank you for not commenting on my journal.

@UnbornTao No. I feel like if we have reached such a dystopian period that something I wrote on the fly without effort is questioned as AI, I should have paid more attention to the patterns before I chose to write it. I will have more restraint in future. Please direct any further correspondence elsewhere, thank you.

The forum from an outsiders perspective (a friend of mine) appears circular and non-progressive while appealing to progressive spiritual ideas, which creates distorted overly inflated positive perceptions on anything thats genuinely positive just to keep it’s baseless core alive. Conversations do not build on one another and no system is in place to actually capitalise on progress made in communication to contribute to all people that choose to benefit. Instead all conversation when viewed across time is inputted into total empty space, something that any intelligent person would simply side step rather than invest in any non-eventual meaningful discourse. This creates a culture where every persons perspective is inflated beyond its value, where comments contributed are purely a dopamine spike and where the return to zero is just at the service of of the sites baseline. This is the problem when site dynamics mirror that of the casual societal dynamics that never move anything heavy in the real world. They never help people they Band-Aid them. They never talk about issues they label them. They never contribute to causes they virtue signal or talk out of their ass and then send an emoji while pointing to the next conversation that may give them another emoji dopamine spike. This forum has been online for over ten years, has it genuinely helped people or been a complete waste of time? It’s a relevant question. To me, and I struggle to see otherwise, at the heart of it it’s just here to serve the social insecurities of others that don’t spend enough time interacting with the real world. How do I know? Becsuse they come back here and continue to talk about things thst carry no weight and use it as a crutch rather than something that reflects investment into their future and something that may benefit others in their contributions. I see fist bumps, fart comments and at best of any lengthy discussion, ego stroking. That’s fine intermittently, but not as a foundation for a self-actualisation site. It turns the whole forum into a parody of personal development, not a system designed with the interests of all persons contributing. When you’re turquoise and above (although I don’t follow spiral dynamics), systems should already be a priority following from one’s integration from stage Yellow. A system of self-actualisation needs to be at the heart of why people are sharing on the forum. I want to encourage personal creativity by moderators and Leo in designing their own system, but I am also happy to share my ideas further, perhaps it’s better to contribute to another thread someone creates centered around agreement towards some kind of system change or at least ideas around rather than just circling negating points. Otherwise, this discussion will become yet another void, another vacuum, a black hole people orbit with their time only to come out the other end with cheap laughs, zero progress in their lives and lost memories they could have meaningfully injected into real life. Make this discussion into a small step forward for change on the forum is my best recommendation, @Leo Gura don’t let it just be ‘another thread’ or at most brief emotional bumper sticker before the next users hijacked attentional system gets drawn into the next emoji of what has become a wasteland emulating too many qualities of what doesn’t constitute a personal development forum much less one built on a strong systematic foundation to benefit everyone. “Casual” as the forum is called, is the topping of the cake but it can’t be called the substance unless the forum is just here to suck up everyone’s time including yours Leo, when in reality it’s just hijacking cognitive biases thst breed the illusion of choice for the illusion of progress. A forum is a place of connection at a particular centre, that centre is self actualisation. Let “casualness” be the unifier that softens the edges of people coming from many different backgrounds, not the reason people want to leave once they fished an epiphany to chase genuine meaning in their lives. Now I need some sleep after only having about 2 hours, plus jet lag plus changing time zones. Best wishes. Sincerely, good luck.

I stand… Uncorrected. - ChatGPT’s list below of worlds most self-aware women (granted after sharing it asked me if I wanted to narrow down outside of mainstream culture i.e. academia). (Dating collapse due to degrading standards for self awareness across both men and women) Okay… before we get into confirmation of my theory… now just brace yourself for a moment. Take a deep breath. Now I want you to just take a moment to wonder honestly within yourself about the most self aware women you can think of in the world. Got it? Fantastic. Now sink into that search until you can come up with ten women. I have mine, however most are literally just my friends. Neurosurgeon (newly), psychologist, studying medicine, engineer, and… I’ll leave it there. Have a guess what ChatGPT came up with! Ha, now here comes GPT’s list of “THE MOST SELF AWARE WOMEN IN THE WORLD UNDER 50!” This… is utterly embarrassing for mainstream western culture I mean surely you can see the PSYOP by now right? OKAY here we go, fuck what a smoke screen mainstream culture really is, shit that zombie 🧟‍♂️ 🧟‍♀️ ache of folk has really got the Eeeek/X factor. I’ll preface this by saying I don’t know enough about some (Zendaya, Malala Yousafzai, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez - tho I have listened to Cortez once or twice) of the women. Irrespectively, Eileen Gu (read previous post) is a FAR better role model than any of these women below. Three of the women on the list arguably have narcissistic personality disorder thats the the hilarity of it. I won’t say who as an exercise of discretion. Before I share the list, here is one more popular name of a woman that others are likely less familiar with but will remember her from the big bang theory. Personally, I actually think Ms. Gu may actually be more self-aware in specific areas, that said from Mayim Bialik, yes it’s her, offers many lessons and this is the final lesson I’ll share with the reader for now. Is that you should not even be focusing on learning specific lessons from any one individual person in general, instead you should be looking at them from the meta level and asking yourself, where are their strengths and weaknesses in self-awareness and how can I convert those patterns into useable data to help my own self-awareness advance down its natural course?” Thats it. Okay let’s get to the list, afterwards, I will share Mayim’s YouTube channel at the bottom. Have an open mind in applying the meta question I posed. GPT’s List: 1. Taylor Swift (b. 1989) Exceptionally meta about narrative identity, public persona construction, and autobiographical authorship. 2. Emma Watson (b. 1990) High linguistic precision about gender identity, fame psychology, and social role internalization. 3. Greta Thunberg (b. 2003) Strong moral clarity; minimal ego-diffusion; consistent value alignment under pressure. 4. Lady Gaga (b. 1986) Explicit meta-commentary on persona construction, trauma integration, and identity fragmentation. 5. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (b. 1989) High rhetorical awareness; strategic framing consciousness; public cognitive transparency. 6. Zendaya (b. 1996) Unusually mature self-positioning in fame context; controlled narrative boundaries. 7. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (b. 1977) Advanced meta-cultural cognition; layered identity analysis; high epistemic humility. 8. Ariana Grande (b. 1993) Open about trauma, grief integration, and identity shifts across career phases. 9. Malala Yousafzai (b. 1997) Consistent reflective articulation of purpose, fear, and personal growth. 10. Billie Eilish (b. 2001)

Eileen Gu. What an inspiration she is for women. She journals constantly She breaks down her thought patterns She studies her own mind like she studies her own freestyle skiing This is the kind of woman you want to wife up. Many guys struggle on this forum with motivation, thinking they lack this and that, when in reality you are just positively reinforcing patterns that do not serve you. Do the opposite, watch change occur. Thats my own approach. Guys are caught up in mainstream dogma and because of it they’ve been completely blindsided as to what discipline is about. “Discipline” is literally to the word “Disciple”, and the core meaning being you simply become a discipline of your own patterns. Study, re-write, execute your own prophecy, return to the end of the night back to nothingness so you can objectively analyse and not get caught up in your own swagger to make a slight iteration that brings you slightly closer to your potential on what you’re working on. Rinse and repeat over and over and Eileen will become a woman you will naturally attract in real life. Excellent example she sets for modern women, where most need better healthy guidance.

Jesse Michels (YouTuber) is an interesting interviewer on this subject.

There’s generally always good aspects to find in many faiths, ideologies, religions, theories, hypotheses, experiments, cults, culture, societies and various other kinds of churches. The problem however is you’re asking a human whom has not been properly trained for life to interpret what eventually defines their actions. This is when the veneer starts to peel off the MDF board. Not enough glue, not enough time in the press, the press was anchored with too much weight, the board was left out in the rain and its dampness is ignored. It’s super important to realise that human perception is imperfect, especially when they perceive their perception as perfection itself. This is when their bubble becomes divine, their echo within it becomes gospel and the words they will write through a void that will eventually take their epistemic humility, their bible they indoctrinate others with. I have friends of many faiths, you’re moving in the right direction; Muslim, Christians from the United States all the way to Tailand, Jewish, Buddhist, Hindu, you name it. Every faith has validity to it, outsiders often do not have the education to intelligently observe and communicate it. But for the very same reason, every faith becomes its own vice in as much as there isn’t that same education concerning interpretation. Belief in this case often becomes the privilege of judging another, and the basis for conflict over understanding. There is a voice in every human I meet that needs to be heard, but all our voices must be refined in both the words we read, listen to and finally write and say. Keep questioning without a final resolve and the puzzle will continue to reveal itself to you slowly. Our perception is fragile and our confidence often overstated regardless as to how much epistemic humility we say we have, so differentiation is foundational. Where knowledge to wisdom cradles every weakness and strength of another with one’s own in the context of the greater universe, life spells out its own harmony. Your job isn’t to carve out a religion, and that isn’t the goal of epistemic rigour. It’s balance between consciousness and the greater universe, starting with making sure you have a roof over your head, are prepared financially and can form non-artificial friendships with the outer world if that isn’t already a priority over worrying about the ignorant perceptions of others or even your own concerning your personal faith. With balance comes the humility to consider and have gratitude for all perspectives, with the wisdom to discern where balance must meet conviction. Best wishes, good luck @Schahin.

Outside my praise and critique on your approach to scientists specifically where I hadn’t gotten into the gaps in understanding pertaining to science, it was a bit of a sloppy introduction. Anastasia and Michael (Shilo) really took the time to think about who you were and what you were about, reflected in their introduction. You didn’t even bother to mention their actual names @Leo Gura or give an accurate assessment about what their channel is about. And this is coming from someone, in this case me, who heard about their channel first from you. I was excited to see it all unravel. You mentioned the interview a month in advance, you had all the time in the world to think about who they were as much as they did yourself, and yet you mention them as they’re just movie extras. Doing a personal level headed connected introduction is not difficult to do and only makes you look good. It’s a little disappointing, and still reflects a lack of maturity in your own approach in certain areas especially around socialisation. It was a great inspiring video, but the social awareness makes it feel lacking. Best wishes.

Pope says, Priests response to epistemic responsibility is, “AI said to say ‘Rain-check on THAT!’”, so he thumps his crown jewel: https://futurism.com/artificial-intelligence/pope-priests-ai Great work Leo. My opinion here hasn’t changed however; I’m sure explanation isn’t needed. There’s a tremendous bias there, and it comes across as really irrational in the context of a subject you otherwise delivered well. In general, I think even if it’s sometimes good as a persuasive tool, in the context of such deep subjects like these striking generalisations like those you made about science, comes across as irrational. There are over ten million scientists in the world, at most two million are from 🇺🇸, however in the greater STEM fields there are over thirty million in the USA. In the context of where you’re talking about a subject that is its own implicit academic discipline in the people or area in which you’re criticising, sweeping statements however well intentioned or even where they validly apply to say popular scientists on YouTube, reflects a lack of rigour. Moreover, I am sure that on your forum alone I am not the only person here that can detail numerous scientists that are on the record from YouTube that reflect the exact opposite of your statements. That said, it also shows a lack of clarity present in your view of science around the world, from all different religions, faiths and general cultures, it seems like you overly focus on American culture, and that in itself can blur the very vision that reflects mainstream western culture in general. Irrespectively, I think it would help you more going forward if you adopted more differentiated views as we head to increasingly more complex diverging views into the future as opposed to language that alienated and detracts attention from those that otherwise genuinely wanted to engage with your content but now view yiu as lacking open mindedness when it comes to developing a more nuanced perspective on the demographic you’re criticising. Parallax perspective. A new word to my vocabulary by the way. Appreciated. Sincerely, thank you. It’s much needed in our culture and that was one of your better videos so just expressing gratitude. You did good.

I would like to see a purely research focused area of the forum. My broad dominant research focus is on anti-ageing. I will be spending a lot of time, money and creative capital concerning. I think adding this area would create a positive feedback loop with the rest of the forum. Topics can span any area of research on personal development, with a preference towards peer reviewed research. The forum needs to build a healthy relationship with science, striking a balance towards pro-research and experimentation while encouraging oppositional stances towards bureaucratic entropy. This approach invariably leads to implicitly teaching meta-rationalism, contributing to the creation of an environment that fosters both creative independence and collaborative intelligence. The forum can sometimes be a vacuum for enabling identity issues, reinforcement of identity without proper integration and aimless ego signalling. And this is in part because the environment isn’t fully yet “critical thinking implicit”. By slowly moving towards titles that instead turn the site into an interface that implicitly and indirectly encourages self reflection, wrapped in casual humour, it doesn’t just act as a site that makes a user feel like they’re making progress in their life, it provides them with the direct influences to do that without users, moderators or contributors feeling like they have to make it their job to do so. It’s social momentum with the right reinforcing tags. I also recommend a research area within the “Mental Health, Serious Emotional Issues” itself, establishing it as a case study example of how adding something as simple as a research portal where people can access prior shared resources can have a dramatic positive influence on a section of the forums environment; providing the research template is cleverly designed in a way where it feels engaging rather than triggering, helpful and safe over intimidating, progressive rather than feeling like “you’re too cool for school” to checkout the resources. After the experiment is successful, this simple mechanism can be improved and applied to other and even all areas of the forums environment. People get to come onto the forum and pretend to be themselves rather than actually be themselves and move towards their own personal growth. By installing simple mechanisms like a research button, it pre-installs a little more self-awareness, engagement and cooperative behaviour respectful of mutual creative independence. Great work on getting the site speedy again! Heh, it’s a breeze!

@Natasha Tori Maru informed consent vs uninformed. @Leo Gura I was actually impressed with Michael’s (Shilo - middle name) simplicity on the subject. You did really well, genuinely. Feedback: Purely going by what she said - Directly quoted - “You told us that you were going to explain three things. the ultimate structure of existence, the nature of love, and the nature of God.” Some interviews are more casual than others, however I would spend some time delineating all four subjects (inclusive of when she tripped you up on defining love, despite you, as best as I can infer, drawing a distinction between human love and universal love) at their connection point that makes moving between them seamless during an interview setting. I get that it was your first interview in a long while, but those subjects at their core, went only partially answered despite it being the stated conceptual drivers for the interview, as stated by Anastasia. I would ease back in future interviews on using terms like “truth psychopath”, it can sound edgy but on subjects like morality where people are either less informed and therefore a little dogmatic or people that have thought deeply on the subjects, it can be harder to reach people; which is kinda one of the points of the interview, to reach more people. I would also do the same for critiques of certain areas like academia as one example, the more refined your points on interviews like these the more of a win-win it becomes as they are both genuinely open minded warm people. Broad critiques are the strategic drawcard, but on the reel in to getting the actual catch, like getting an interview, it’s laid out mapped concretely. You’re handling very difficult subjects, and the people that want to listen, want to really listen, and like strapping a load of timber on a truck, the better you do it the safer your message is going to land safely home where people will be most receptive. You’re uniquely positioned as a conversant in the spiritual demography, capitalise on that devastatingly. Irrespectively, 1. You kept composure under sharp pushback. Anastasia and Michael have had some really ego fuelled guests. 2. Framed “relative vs absolute” to defuse literalism. 3. Flagged survival/incentives as bias generators (institutions, self, culture). 4. Validated boundaries (“leave abuse,” don’t tolerate harm) so nonduality isn’t pure passivity. That was an excellent distinction. 6. Prompted epistemic humility a number of times. Like distinguishing belief/speculation from direct insight. You really underscored distinction as a grounding concept being the foundation to your drive over your journey, this positions you as someone that could break the linings of many different kinds of demographics, making you a valuable guest in any interview the better you grt at this overtime. Good luck on the next interview, excellent overall, and we all loved the robe. Best wishes.

I like international restaurant, city, country, and convention rushing. Every now and then, ambition takes over and I run from a city in one country all the way to a city in another country. Generally, I like to keep my life simple and worldly. Life is a big container and I struggle to fill it. Depth to heart; breath to mind; connection to body.

Every now and then I do ambitious things, like running from one city of a country to another. I am also up for anything with the right person. In general though, I enjoy restaurant hopping from city to city much more, creative conversations to extend my consciousness, research conferences of various kinds. Night clubs can be fun with the right folk. Conversations are the most enthralling. I don't enjoy YouTube, masturbating to porn or masturbation in general (there are too many people to develop a bond with), social media outside of maintaining alliances with creative engagement. I like films that help me explore the edges of how my mind architects enjoyment and meaning. The simple stuff. The circus within life, is well... The circus. Outside the circus though, life is simple. Most people unaware they entered one until after they exited, are usually met with with a variant of ego denial, regret or a combination. I also enjoy being the architect of alternate realities through game, film and conversational thought experiments.

@Valach Fizzle out performative empathy, and from there, stack the real stuff, bit by bit. Appreciation. Good luck.

I solely filter for empathy. It's the lock-in trait or at least the oil for literally every other quality as a mother, and for what I'm looking for in a relationship. Everything else is Play-Doh around that. I don't even have to watch the video. I have thought about this topic for literally thousands of hours, and I have spent thousands of hours raising my nephews and nieces as well. So when I say empathy, you know a guy like me has more refined narratives on what that actually means than standard memetic soup. Absorb as much life as possible, fine-tune the release. Aaaand... Exhale. It's been my dream to become a father and a husband since I was a teenager, everything since then has been adaptation, attunements and deeper life experiences. Until then, I enjoy the Play-Dome.

@Cred you should make a book thread! Add: Marcus Aurelius, Meditations. I’ll read your book list tomorrow.

People are out of touch if they can’t see the asymmetry concerning the extra emphasis on looks these days. Outside of how I brought up earlier regarding people being trained via social conditioning to see people certain ways, asymmetry in opportunities is why physical asymmetry is a global problem that should be taken very seriously in terms of solving. I agree with Mike Israelite that it will be solved within the next 10-15 years. Blog entry by Leo Dec last year. https://www.actualized.org/insights?p=21 Symmetry applied analogously is at the heart of solving most internal and external problems. And it’s important that people understsnd that at a core level in helping them accurately diagnose not only this particular issue, but their response to it (as Leo mentioned in his blog regarding the building of social skills which have their own important developmental curve) and how they can apply their minds in understanding their developmental curve in other areas and their own internal resolution in response to the realities that unfold there. The root of most political campaigns is just posturing either about resolving disparities or paradoxically, revealing how one side is better than the other. When symmetry is solved in not only physical beauty which in itself will have a massive impact on global politics, but also intelligence, creativity, social ability, empathy and including financial and general resource power, which seems at this stage may actually become the easiest point to solve in the relative future, many things collapse into the kind of Oneness that we’re all kind of looking for. In a good outcome to future tech advantages, I am just looking forward to going to a party for the first time in ten years or so time where everybody is just happy to be themselves without any insecurities anymore 😉. It makes you realise, just how much absence and lack vs ability and abundance have defined so much of the problems in both global and local environments as well that which we take for granted, creating the attractor point of the black-hole each individual and collective ego orbits. Isn’t it going to judt be so cool that no matter who you walk up to in the party you can just say whatever you want however you want and you’ll both no doubt be able to engage in a fun deep conversation? Heh. The days we have ahead…

We’re so simple minded here in Australia 🇦🇺 . Today’s news from the most popular mainstream newspaper: I usually never take the news seriously because of this. But it just goes to show my comments above have some credibility I am not just talking out my ass 😉👑. Our news is so dumbed down from the actual complexities of our realities here 🤣. The irony of Angus Taylor’s words is that at least 50% (and I am underestimating) of Australians habe immigrated into our country in only the last fifty years. If you go into our city of Melbourne, 90% of people will reveal that to a casual viewer I don’t need to go into specifics. I am not at all racist, as I have stressed my step-mother is from Beijing and I have many friends from Asia and am friends with many immigrants as I say. It’s just the obvious deceptions at play which now can only be viewed with a positive sense of humour to break the ice! 🤣

@CARDOZZO not towards you directly of course, that said, I feel a little suspicious about this kind of content from its creators. Look, my parents were not exactly Sigmund Freud, and I think the majority of us probably side with a sentiment that doesn’t at least stray too far from here. However I know, even if as a child due to their own misunderstandings around how to raise a human being to avoid these struggles, I felt many of these issues that have been raised and I have consequently had to do a lot of inner work. Inner work, that has transformed me in ways though that I never could have imagined achieving, and I hope that brief note inspires others to continue on their mindful path by the way. Our parents are human beings at the end of the day, and I know the tendency exists for people wanting something or someone to blame for at the very least some inner life circumstances. Some closure, some way to put a nail in the peg of a tent to figure out how they’re going to setup camp. That can be okay for a while, however eventually, you want to build a solid home for yourself. Strong floors, walls and a roof of protection both inwardly and outwardly for life circumstances, and part of that is a foundation in logic not ego, psychology not victimhood, self-awareness and other awareness not blame projection. Telling people their lives suck because of other people is a multi-million dollar industry and telling people that it’s their parents fault is the biggest money maker of all because they can stay mad at them for an entire lifetime given their parents were most responsible for their well being from day zero which always quickly answers the question to oneself “How did I wake-up in this shitty world? Oh my parents, well how irresponsible of them to even have me. How did I wake-up with this pain in my heart? Oh my parents didn’t teach me emotional management skills”. And it just goes on and on even though the parents most often are just naive and ignorant no more than anyone else in their times. Having children was encouraged in most of western culture and brainwashing was as good as its ever been in the times that most people were born. Emotional management, self awareness skills and trusting psychology beyond the stereotypical belief that “psychology is about how Freud wanted to convince his patients that they wanted to sleep with their mother” is a very new thing which is what people don’t really get. Even if many of the techniques date back as early as the 1980’s they were not mainstream until at least 2010 or later. In answering the questions, it’s all 6 for me without a doubt. However my father had a bit of an Asperger’s streak while at the same time he had a massive heart inside, my mother has her own trauma growing up. These two things alone for any reasonable person forces their humanness to be considered before we tie em up for however many lashings we believe they deserve concerning from Satan himself. Moreover, it’s not even the case that for many parents you’d even be able to sit down and have an honest conversation about some of their early imprinting that at the very least didnt exactly go to plan, something that would only fuel an offspring’s own projection about their parents. Missing the fact that its not even just human nature to not want to own up to responsibility and think reflectively about potential past mistakes, rather it’s the horror as a parent to think that you may have done something wrong given how serious parenting is taken in society, extreme denial is far more likely to cover extreme shame than for them to sit one down and say “Jimmy you know what, you’re right. I didn’t build the emotional skills you needed. I didnt help you enough with your math homework. And I should have played soccer with you more growing up. I am sorry”. These were not the norms growing up, not only were so many working families so stressed from their jobs that their cortisol levels impacted their judgements at home with their children, they themselves simple we’re not equipped to think about anything else other than praying they can put food on the table for their children as opposed to dealing with the devastating shame of not being able to provide for their children. And sure theres many children from wealthier backgrounds with similar problems, however it doesn’t mean the terrain suddenly changed on the availability of information, the questioning of societal norms and the amount of denial projection that would result from undesirable consequences from simply combining those two alone. I am not saying there are not terrible parents, I am saying that it needs to be compared to societal norms at that time not now and also with all of any aspect weighed against who the human is underneath simply being called a mom or a dad. That’s what we want them to do for us, so at the very least we can take it upon ourselves to learn all the information we can in the world to ensure we don’t make the same mistakes if not towards our own children but continuing the problems within through a lack of self education in an age where we are in knowledge overload over how to handle inward struggles like these now. For anyone struggling, I totally get all the struggles above including wanting to judge a parent this or that way becsuse of this or that we didn’t get that we believed we deserved for the simple fact of being their child. But it’s not going to be the path towards full closure, only self education and doing the personal inner work will set a person free and not only reclaim their own sense of well being but also be able to view their parents through the same lens following their renewed sight. I’ll inspect the resources anyhow maybe theres a little something I can learn. And for anyone struggling, you have my sympathies but please take an honest look within both yourself and your parents, then take proactive action on a small steps today in preparation for the practical step of tomorrow. Human ignorance is usually the issue first and foremost over the failure of being human, even for the most selfish of parents that shouldn’t escape accountability, unless they’re pure psychopaths theres usually a little something there to bring context to. Thank you. Best wishes.

@Cred Hi Cred, Just reminding you to keep that fire alive. Every obstacle is a potential new insight, in at least one direction with our own development always being one of those. Best wishes, oOo.

I think it’s excellent you’re asking such questions thats point number one. Reflection can come just as easily as it can go depending on one’s environments influences and changes in states of consciousness overtime. This makes reflection, in part, better to be thought of as a value more than a personality characteristic, it also puts a fork in the road for people that feel that reflection isn’t an intrinsic part of who they are. By turning it into a value, it becomes something that one covets and grows over taking for granted snd getting too much of a big head. Moreover, thinking of x as an intrinsic part of who we are, especially when we’re taking it for granted in the absence of acting on that part of ourselves, is actually just the self’s ego projection. This kind of self-referentiality is not who we actually are, and therefore it is best to be seen as an instrument of self-actualisation rather than purely what we think about ourselves and life which can grow and change overtime, and often, gets completely misused (i.e. political, religious, institutional alliances). https://www.forbes.com/billionaires/ So there’s some extroverts in there, however by nature I would say most are introverts. Where I would place the contradiction as a reflection, is environmental influences weigh massively in terms of where someone’s values lay. Personality can also change based on values in a way that reveals pre-existing tendencies and how those tendencies for the simple fact that different cells are multiplying within the system. This turns the question of what to do with our time on its head, where “Which cells do I want to multiply within myself?” Actually becomes not just a geeky question; Dispenza and someone whom others may be less familiar with, Harvard professor Dr. Ellen Lenger. I am more of an ambivert relative to my present chemistry, some would view me as extremely introverted to those that know me less, however I view my nervous system leaning towards extrovert at this time of my life. I am very much like my father in this regard. He had many periods in his life where he was extremely extroverted based on different pressures, as he was also so business orientated (environmental influence), however he could just as easily occupy himself alone, and as my father got older he became a comfortable introvert with his wife (together for over two decades, she from Beijing, lovely woman, had a massive positive influence on my upbringing). I am very money driven, however it is for various motivations, I am not a materialistic person however I want freedom, and I strive for freedom in every aspect of my life. Existential decisions I would say play the biggest part for some peoples lives concerning some of these characteristics you mentioned more than introvert and extrovert. Can you think of any ways your mind would be changed to instead value these things you have so far shown you prefer to reject? What are positives that come with more money that you would genuinely value, especially in areas where you only dont value those things as much due to negative experiences? Personally I love being extroverted becsuse it offers me such a massive range of experiences to reflect on, moreover when I can share those experiences with other creative people I get boundless opportunities to have fascinating conversations that move me emotionally and cognitively. Evaluation I would argue, in light of the fact that our personality can change overtime and values can change our personality with environmental influences being a pressure point for both, should question automatic inclinations and allow creative perspectives to enter into the reasoning choice on chosen values. Often it’s a very healthy process that can in return force the integration of alternate internal experiences we were not previously aware of. It is important to recognise as well, that any inclination change towards money, shouldn’t be justified by the change in preference itself if it’s driven instinctually. It’s the instinct thats being questioned, while at the same time you wanna finish by encoding instinctually so that it turns into a healthy motivation that doesn’t need to be thought about nearly as much the more it is practiced. That’s true freedom, and that’s what I go for. Best wishes.

Surrogates, 2009. At lesser degrees of integration, it becomes too fragmenting for the psyche to actually see itself accurately. It only views the world (aka unhealthy mainstream views) that has absorbed the very psyche it relies on to see itself clearly. As it is impossible to view anything outside of what was has been trained to see, like all of one’s flaws, or the flaws of a potential someone, more than where integration of the mind meets unity with another. That is maturity thereabouts, and where society by comparison is the smoke in the mirror itself, which ruins what otherwise could have been amazing relationships. In this frame, relationship compatibility thresholds have been devastated in society, as the minimal breakage point of the bridge that normally connects between people has been lowered significantly. Choose your company with care and wisdom. Otherwise, I recommend watching the film. Followed by the film Arrival 2016, purely for contrast.