thmanoy

@Hojo Yes I agree, maybe in dating it's more of a case because people can feel the vibe of a person. @Leo Gura In my case, I have noticed that doing mass approaches makes my interactions worse. While when I have fun or just chatting with my friends and I only do a few approaches, they go way better. If I am with a friend that I really get along, my chances of succeeding are even more. Of course someone new needs to gather a lot of experience though. But I find that doing a lot of approaches while my confidence is bad, will result in way worse interactions. And no results or measly. So I don't think that only a mindset that allows you to do a lot of approaches matters. Maybe if you are new you just need to start approaching a lot though. My friend who is a natural was never doing mass approaches either. We would do 5-7 per night out at most. And he is really amazing in game as far as results are concerned. @Zenterus I completely agree.

The tittle is just an observation of me after 5 years of game. When I am successful in game, it's either because one of the following happening: I almost don't care about results at all. Then, after 2-3 months of this state at most, I will meet one or two girls to have sex with. I do care about results. I am failing with no success at all and it hurts but I try, trying to force confidence on myself. Then, again after 2-3 months of zero success, I will have some success. Then, I will have a consecutive streak of successes for some time. (Stopped doing this approach because it's toxic to myself and to my friends). Not saying that social skills, looks and other stuff don't matter, but without one of the above happening they feel useless. I have gone a year without a girl because my confidence was in a crisis, even though I theoretically knew what works. It's like girls subconsciously choose me based on my mental state at the time. Note that I never cared much about technical game, but I was lucky to have a wingman really successful with women that I listened to. What do other experienced people in game think about this? Reminds me of two of Owen's teachings. To not have girls in the center of our life and the winner effect.