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You can not hurt someone. They can only hurt themselves. Well... adults anyways. Maybe there is also a part of you that you dont accept yet. That you dont love. Seems like in your previous relationships this showed and you are still kind of caged by this. Do the inner work. Make a journey back in time and find whats still unprocessed and stuck in your body. Feel into it. What does it want to say? And then when its time, let it go. Its all internal.
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Im telling you; you dont have a problem right now. So how can we help you? Move out of your parents house and then, if you still have problems with doing the dishes or washing clothes, ask again. I have trust in you that you will find a way to manage.
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Come again when you actually have problems. Not when you imagine to have problems in the future. These things will sort themselves out, stop worrying. Its like the fetus thinking "How can I live the good life outside of this womb. Having to walk by myself, having to eat and chew food?"
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Yes, making others believe your ideas are their own is one of the best ways to get them realized. What was the problem, did they fire you? Did they stop paying you? When you work in a company all work you do there belongs to the company. In turn the money they pay you belongs to you. At least thats the way it is in my country. If you didnt like the job there, why didnt you quit? Why didnt you tell your friend you want more money or less work? Seems like there was a communication problem. Learn to say no to things.
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If you struggle with doing the work and find yourself consuming a lot. Look into dopamine detox.
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Our emotions come from thoughts. The story you tell yourself will determine how you feel about a situation/event. I recommend you watch this video from Leo about emotional maturity.
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Why cant they be your friends? You will make friends automatically if you dont actively try not to. I'd advise you to become very confident. Start with becoming confident in your body.
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Can you narrow down what you find draining when talking to girls? When was the last time?
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You really need to start way way deeper than simply nofap. Right now you have so many limiting beliefs and beliefs that are just plain hurtful and wrong. You have probably developed some trauma from your inability to get sex. Get to the core. Release your feelings and trauma. Its not gonna be easy. You might puke because its so hard. Get some sessions with a trainer or do the work yourself for a few months. When you are finnished go talk to woman, have fun. Learn some stuff. This not rocket science. Releasing your emotions is going to be 80-90% of the work. The rest is something a nine-grader can do.
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A nice sum of money can be 1.000usd or 1.000.000 or more usd. Can you be in a relationship with another girl at the same time? How long is this "contract"? If you are afraid of disharmony you should look into that. Accept that disharmony is part of reality. Learn to go into tension. This is a masculine trait. At first it might be scary but after time you will love being in tension. There is nothing to fear. The less you fear the more willingly you will go into tension. Do body relaxation meditation. And pay attention to the body and its emotions during the day.
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Maybe a small campus isnt the right thing for you. I was in a fairly large one that I liked. Then moved to a huge one that I didnt like so much. Eh whatever... You can either change your location or you can change your inside. The truth is, you dont need people to like you. If you dont realize this, people will make you aware of your illusion everywhere you go. On the other hand, when you realize you dont need validation from them you can be really free. Now you act authentic and relaxed. You say what is on your mind and do whatever you like. Do goofy things, enjoy the moment. Because you know that you are gonna be ok, even if they dont like what you say. Having nothing to fear will make you confident. Ironically this energy attracts people. To form an identity just find things you really like or love. Find out what you value in life. Really sit down and take some time to ask yourself what these things are. Having a strong identity comes down to telling people what you like and what you dont like. Because everything is communication. The world only knows from you what you communicate today. So maybe start doing this inner work and you can start to look out for another campus along the way.
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By choosing one path, you kill the other path. Letting go is the answer.
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When you have a business isnt the ultimate purpose of it to serve others? If you become good at serving people, you will be set for the future. I dont understand the problem.
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You are already pretty far on this path. First step is to become aware of this. Ultimately, yes you should stop give a f**** about what other people think of you. Your own self-worth should not be dependent on that. You can completely release that need for attention via the sedona method. This will have an dramatic effect over your whole life. In a good way. Because when you fear that others wont like you, you will do things you dont even like doing. Just to get their attention. Or you will simply not do anything. Whereas if you dont, you will make very fast progress. Doing the things you like and then adjust however you like, to get the outcome you want in life. Most thing are simple to understand and actualize but we dont do them because we are too afraid. Basic introduction on releasing:
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You did wrote an explanation they gave you. You are right, what they did to you was abusive, too! Thats why I wrote that they dont belong in your life. On the other hand look at your own behaviour. Did you try to control them?
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Some feedback (purely subjective) -Dont show your insta name during the whole video. Its distracting. -I want to know how I should train but you are talking about mitochondria. Then you go on to recommend further media on mitochondria that Im not interested in the first place. -Maybe talk about the right exercise in the beginning and then continue with the 3 systems and so on. -Use graphics. There are so many technical terms and so many systems. Its really good to have some drawings for better understanding. (e.g. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyyBwIW5UNw). -That goes with the above: Use less technical terms. They do make you look intelligent but also many people will find it hard to trust you when you use too many. Try simpler terms if you want to reach a broader audience. If you do use one make sure to explain it with simple words first. (In an entertaining way would be best). -Be more authentic, bring some personality into it. -Stand up instead of sitting down.
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Self-Love and Body Awareness Also look into self-acceptance. After all its about learning that you are ok the way you are. You dont need validation from others. And you dont have to prove anything to anyone. This is the work we all do here. Feel how it is when you are not in control. Imagine a situation going completely against how you wanted it to be. Then simply welcome how this feels for you. Accept the feeling. Ask yourself if you want to let go of that feeling. Then when you can, let it go. Make it a habit to let go of things.
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The underlying fear is oftentimes that what we want to say wont live up to the standards of the other person (validation), to our own standards (perfectionism) or that we could be attacked for what we say (risk our safety). We then show these symptoms: validation = being needy perfectionism = need for control safety = being inhibited/shy Becoming aware of this can be strong on his own. If you want to do more. Realize that you can never get control, protection or validation. The world doesnt owe it to you. And you dont need it. Whatever applies to you, feel the fear as much as possible. Sit somewhere quite and for example if you are needy, imagine a situation where someone is really dismissive towards you. Someone you want to like you who is now going to tell you to fuck off and calling you names, makes fun of you or just gives you a cold shoulder. Whatever elicits the strongest feeling inside you. Feel where it is in your body. Then accept that feeling fully. Welcome the feeling. Let it grow even more for a few minutes. Until you feel ready to let that feeling go, if you want to. See how you are feeling then. Repeat. This is also called the Sedona Method, its really effective for releasing emotions.
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How do you feel before you are smoking weed?
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I skipped through it. In the end he says self help can be good but not to walk into the traps he walked into. Can you summarize them here?
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Stopping communication can be very harmful. Not even just in the long term, but also short term. Like when you are with someone and they stop listening to you. Anyone who does this to you doesnt really belong in your life. But that is not the main issue here. The main issue as I see it, is that you have something inside of you that is triggered when people dont behave the way you want them to. Being controlling over people is abusive and will make people with a healthy self-esteem want to distance themselves from you. People who are controlling usually have a need for protection/safety in their life. My advice for you would be to look inside, feel where this need for protection is coming from. What are you afraid of? Let that fear come. Its just a feeling. Listen to it and accept it. Then the fear will go away. When you let go of the need to feel protected you will be better aligned with reality. Reality isnt safe and it wont protect you. No matter how hard you try. If you can accept that, life will flow easier. And when people harm you, you will be prepared to deal with it.
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I dont understand the issue. Do you need some kind of motivation? You take action now, the result might could have been 20-50% better if corona didnt happen. Still you are making progress. Its all in your head. You are the one who is responsible. Start building your infrastructure. If you are concerned that because working on your business you will loose time on modern warfare. You might want to rethink what you really want. No judgement, you can play all day. But then play and enjoy and dont think about starting a business.
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Dont think about it too much. Meeting girls is an expression of yourself. To spread love and be authentic. You can do that in other ways too. The ego might get involved. You can deal with the thought of that happening now or you can deal with it when it comes up. Just be aware.
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What drives the cell to keep from becoming boring and dead? What is its motivation?
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universe replied to ivankiss's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
30ug will be too much for work if you didnt have build up tolerance I guess. Heard from friends that tried microdosing at work but it actually sucks if you take even a wee-bit too much because of the effects lasting so fucking long lol. If you dont want to go full blown trippin, why dont just take 2x 50ug doses. And treat yourself