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It's like with friends or with dating. People want the best they can get. In a Job Interview they look mainly for two things 1. Do you fit into the team 2. Can you do the job (Positioning might change, depending on the job) Best way is to get to know the people who hire you before the interview. Second best is during the interview.

Please refrain from making too many assumptions about others here and stay on the topic. I think it is interesting how we define rape. A few hundred years ago the definition was way different. For example rape was seen as something that could only happend outside of marriage. Nowadays we have a broader definition and I'm sure a hundred years from now the definition will change again. And every person has a different understanding of it as well. People living in North Korea and other less developed countries will have a different take again. Then there is the question of what is rape fundamentally. A feeling? And what are the driving forces behind rape? What makes it more prevalent and what makes it less prevalent? This topic seems to be hitting a spot where people don't feel comfortable. Where emotional trauma is at play. Where there is a sense of feeling powerless and fearful. This story comes to mind. The Rape of Yeshe Tsogyel Yeshe Tsogyal is considered the Mother of Tibetan Buddhism.

Great insights! Now keep going...

I wanted to post this here as well. I think many guys can benefit from it and can get a better understanding of the opposite sex. Notice how there is no concern about how to meet and attract a partner. Instead it is all about choosing the right partner. You can clearly see how dating advice for women is radically different from dating advice for men.

You can download the mp3 version for each video here https://www.actualized.org/ There are no bundles I'm aware of.

You don't need to have sex 1-2 times a day. You are already enough. See what you are identified with and what you want to be identified with.

Order something you like to drink. Water is one, if not the best option when it comes to drinks. Otherwise juice, tea or non alcoholic cocktails. Be prepared that your friends might not like it (many tend to discourage people from change).

Of course, everything is a delusion! What is good is what is happening right now. There is nothing to do or to go to. Because everything that is, is already an authentic representation of what God/Infinity wants to display.

You could be asking if chocolate ice cream tastes better than sushi. Everyone is different and will have different tastes. Is a career better than not having a career and working for example at McDonalds? Probably... But still there are many people who have a career and are not happy. And there are many people who are in relationships that are not happy. It's all about what you like. Are you happy with your career or relationship?

The film is super well done. You can watch it in full here. https://wisdomoftrauma.com/movie/?fbclid=IwAR3UgEfFBkjD13PuvB3IVMjgNSvFLlAl5aM-7YpJ1wP5HlL1biOd8HtIjlo

The first step is to be comfortable in tension and not try to run away from it. The rest will follow automatically.

Haha yeah, for woman it happens naturally Don't worry about the specifics to much. It's like jumping from a 10 m springboard. You either decide you want to do and do it. Or you are too afraid to do it (Like I said Mindset and Tension). You don't go and analyse the right angle you will jump from. Maybe if you are competing in the olympics.

A few years ago religions where pretty popular and people rarely talked about sex and where quite prude. This was a popular woman people looked up to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary,_mother_of_Jesus One of her greatest traits: Being a virgin. Now the sentiment seems to change and this woman is quite popular https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kendall_Jenner Being a virgin is not even listed on the wiki page anymore. But this change happened quite recently so naturally we still carry some of the collective values from the past with us. To add to that. Very high or very low numbers can be an indicator for the lifestyle that a person has. So if you want to know more about your date/partner it can be good to get these numbers. Another point than the virgin mary on why we value sexual active men more than woman is because of the difficulty in getting sex. A woman who has a lot of sex doesn't impress much because it is quite easy for women to get it. On the other hand, for a man it is more difficult so it is an indicator of perseverance.

You can break this situation down to tension and mindset. Tension Engaging in a kiss is building up tension. Mindset How you think about the whole situation. Is it O.K for me to kiss her? Will she reject me? And so on. So how is your relationship to tension. Are you good with tension or bad with tension? If you want to turn any situation into male/female pretty quick it is by going into tension. And how is your mindset. Are you constantly worried or think it's a big NO NO to kiss a girl? Do you think you don't deserve to kiss her. Or do you think it's natural to kiss a girl you are dating and that girls enjoy kissing. Do you think a rejected kiss is bad? Do you need her validation so desperately that if she rejects your kiss, you would drown in an ocean full of tears? Or do you think it's normal for a kiss to get rejected and it is not the end of the world. This kind of stuff.

For anyone wanting to try it out. I saw it is free if you have an epic games account but only today for a few hours

Sure, many times. I just don't dwell in thoughts too much anymore. Face the fear head on and become O.K. with the worst case scenario. These stories will loose their grip on you. Realize how these downwards spirals feel and if they really benefit your life. It's a shift in perspective. Have you ever held a certain perspective about something you care deeply about and then something happened which never let you see the thing in the same light again? This is what we want to achieve here, nothing less. You will have to let go of that worldview, thoughts, beliefs. Let go of the one who holds that perspective. Saying "It's allright, you can go now". Bye bye forever. The question is do you really want to? Emotional Mastery, Self-Love and Truth are good helpers to smooth out the transitioning phase. Always there for you. ❤️

Don't try to minimize the tension. Be playful with it. The closer the distance between you the more tension. So you can experiment with that distance. It takes very little moving, you will feel it if you look for it. Eye contact can increase tension, while looking away can decrease it. Once you start feeling the tension you will find out more and more ways to be playful with it.

Great video! Keep em coming! Quick Video Pro Tipps: -It's good that you used the interior light because it is a big and soft light source which makes a nice image. But you have to change the white balance to work with the indoor lights. -Something with the frames seems a little off. Make sure to set your shutter speed to around 100 when shooting 50fps and around 48 when shooting in 24fps. Looks better to the eye.

Kinda... say for example you need alcohol. And you know you need it to stop yourself from feeling sad. You can feel the sadness so deep and fully that the need for alcohol goes away. That is very simplistic of course, reality is always more complex.

I don't know where to fit all of this. And I think it's 50/50 we either find out by the government or by a random YouTuber who does prank videos. But when we find out they made contact, this is the song I will be rockin

This is some good self-reflection and it seems like you already know what you should be doing. That is to release on the need for her to love you, to validate you. Also it seems like you either don't trust her or you guys are not very good at communicating. Does she say she loves you and does she say she isn't into instagram-boys? If yes, then why don't you trust her? If my girl would be getting secretive about who she texts and likes on instagram while we are together she would either be playfully teasing me or be kicked out very soon. Everyone has their own vision for how their relationship should be. It is also totally O.K. to tell her to stop talking with other guys if it makes you feel bad. Some relationships are quite open and some are quite closed, there is nothing more to say here. And then of course there is the element of not getting lost in a train of thoughts. For example: You see her on instagram and giggling > Is she flirting with someone? You take her phone and see she likes pics > She is definitely flirting with him! You make a joke and she doesn't laugh > She doesn't love me! She is dating him! While what actually happend is you just made up a dream story that has nothing to do with reality. So be mindful not to get your imagination going crazy, that is why open communication can be great as it shuts these dreams down quite easily. Now, I would invite you to take a step back. There is a deeper story going on here and if you don't understand what is happening it will repeat itself over and over. There is a reason why you have these issues. And the reason is not because you have so little self-love, a shitty girlfriend or because your mother didn't hug you enough as a child. No. It is because you want to have confidence and insecurity issues. You love feeling that way, it gives you security. It makes your life easier, or maybe you just like to be a victim. Or to feel less. I don't know exactly why, you will have to find that out yourself. As soon as you understand that, you will be able to bath in and enjoy having these confidence and insecurity issues. Ah, don't they feel great? Cool... Then you will wonder what was so special about feeling that way. And you will move on. You will get bored by it. And your identity will change to fit a new want, a new narrative. A conglomerate of new sets of beliefs, desires, wants and needs that is a mix of everything but confidence and insecurity issues. That is real Growth ❤️

How do you want to be awakened while needing to be out of fights, need to be free from your dad yelling and need to avoid the police? Realize that you don't need anything. You are already complete.

Noticing how complaining makes you feel is a good start. Have you looked into Emotional Mastery?