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I prefer honesty and tbh I already know this. She has so many options and I didn’t do a 10/10 approach or flirt much.

@Ishanga i agree but disagree bro. Im asking about if i would regret it and if my “psychology” would be able to get over it

@Human Mint what careers or courses are you talking about with writing (fiction) though since im not sure what you mean to be honest or where to find them. I cant find any. Could you help me out with this

Hey guys I’m struggling with an important life decision and need help. Im basically deciding which college to go to, and my own spiritual development depends on it. I can either go to a college which is closer to me, (which does not have many people there because it is a small college) or the larger college which has lots of people (to give some quick context: I’am 19 and the last few years have done YouTube, which i no longer do because i realised that it was not authentic to me. I do not have any qualifications past GCSE (which you get at 15-16 in the UK). And so now I’am heading to college at 19 because my parents quite understandably want me to. I also want to be a professional author, but there isn’t any writing courses and so I’am doing humanities and social sciences instead, just to let u know… my plan after college would probably be to work a normal job anyway, but for now I’am just going to college because i have those type of parents who i kind of have to “please”…. (I do want to go to college anyway tbh since it will be a nice experience also and give me more time to work on writing stories, than if i instead worked a job 5-6 days a week). The larger college is further away however and takes more time to get to. Iam someone that’s current purpose layer (from “The way of the superior man”) is definitely to be sociaizing more etc. I’am only 19 and have spent a few years barely socialising due to work et cetera (just like Leo has said was similar to himself in the past: he used to focus on work rather than socialising for years even - so he is similar to me in that respect). However i do have something which impacts the decision i make: its the fact that ive been taking SSRI’s for 6 months (because previously i was dealing with a lot of anxiety and sadness in my life). This is no longer the case btw. I was struggling a lot and got on them (not by choice)… this is because if i had not, then with the state that i was in, i would have been kicked out of the house. The reason this fact is significant is because I do not believe they are heathy whatsoever for us. I think they are not good for us to be honest (theres stuff online about if but i wont share here incase im not allowed). And so in summary i want to optimize and focus on my heath (especially rn in this “acute” phase where im Taking antidepressants), so as a way for my body to “fight against it” so that for the rest of my life i may live healthier and function better overall. This is where the decision with which college to go to becomes trickier. I feel like if i don’t go to the further college (and get the social experiences, parties et cetera) there, that i would be missing out on something that i would never get again. if i did go, i would be sabotaging my health longterm for it, due to the fact that i would have a lot less time to put into improving health. And so in the end, I’m wondering: “will I be able to live with that regret of not going”… more importantly… Im wondering if anyone can tell me: if i do not go to this college, however, is there any chance that if i really did regret it, that i would regret it forever (and that my psychology would be unable to “complete the purpose layer” of socialising etc/living life). Im not sure would so appreciate everyones advice. Thanks so much ❤️

I know I shouldn’t be overthinking but tbh I just don’t have the abundance just yet to do that. And I am also genuinely unsure what to do to get the girl on a date after the cold approach

I recently cold approached this girl at college and got her Instagram She is very pretty and has over 4,500 insta followers so obviously has a lot of guys going for her she has red flags, I don’t care about that, I’m trying to improve my game and ability to get girls on dates. That’s my goal I would like to ask you for help for what I should be saying next to lead my text conversation with her to a date at college Here is mine and her text conversation below: me: “What days did you say you went to college again?” her: Wednesday, Thursday and Friday me: guess you won’t be lonely Wednesday lunchtime (SIDE NOTE: I found out she has like 1 friend in college so when I approached her she was lonely so I used this to make my text a bit flirty above) her: maybe me: That’s basically a yes, you just don’t want to admit it yet 👀 her: it depends on how my day is going, if it’s going good then yeah, if it’s going shit then no END OF CONVO In her last text she is telling me that she will meet me if she is having a good day and doesn’t want to meet if she is having a bad day In my current mind the best text I can think of is: ”Message me when you’re having a good day and we’ll meet” I think this is a good message because I’m leaving her to decide if she is going to meet with me because I’ve invited her and if she is interested in me she will go out with me and if she is not she won’t. So this way I can find out if she is interested without wasting my time but I’m also unsure if maybe this is the wrong move? I don’t want to just ask you what I should text her next, but also what I should be saying after to try and lead this to a date. I appreciate your help so much, thank you

Apologises if this post seems oblivious, I don't use the forum as much as I'd like to, so if the course is already out, please let me know I'd really love to see the course as soon as it's out, so if anyone has any information on this, please let me know

@OppositionlessI think I’ve finally found a way to quit. Look at @woohoo123s reply to me above His comment really has helped me its made me realise how much I hate feeling tired and disgusting when eating junk food this has helped me realise how much I like feeling clean and healthy This was only possible after Leo’s awareness video called “awareness alone is curative” because using the awareness when you’re doing a bad habit means you get to truly experience what you are doing to yourself instead of doing the bad thing without thinking. You get to feel yourself feeling ugly for doing the bad habit. and the 3rd thing which is massively helping me is i made 10 affirmations I’m now reading everyday and it’s not just about reading them but also seeing their truth in them. Here is my list below. Affirmations are very powerful. Don’t let anyone tel you they aren’t. Trust me. Make your own. If you don’t know how to. Watcha video because they are powerful we can both quit our addictions. I’ve got a lot of hope for myself from just a few days ahha. here’s the affirmations ✳️My NEW beliefs about junk food and binge eating Junk food tastes disgusting to me Junk food makes me feel disgusting and weak I enjoy eating healthy foods and hate eating junk food I easily ignore junk food each time I see it I always can easily stop myself from eating junk food I am more than capable of quitting junk food I am free from junk food and binge eating I barely eat junk food or binge eat I easily go for days without thinking about junk food I love eating well and feeling healthy I release the past—I enjoy each new day fresh.

I can’t believe I didnt reply to this. Ty for the help I have to ask, Did you make up that tip about saying “i love you but you gotta go” yourself? And does it actually work? and with your last paragraph, I have to ask, what do I reprogram my mind with instead of just trying to stop my current program of eating junk food

@woohoo123 hey I forgot to reply to you. Apologises just been eating so much junk food this last month everyday and it’s awful I swear haha I have to ask you. Have you quit junk food completely now and how long did it take? And Did you have a lot of junk food aroud you, specifically your house, when you were trying to quit i have a lot of junk food in my houses kitchen and i fail everyday to it and I don’t know if I’m just making it impossible for myself to quit since it’s so hard to have the willpower to not eat it i will try use your advice of preferring to be healthy and feeling good since I hate feeling low energy and depressed after eating this crap. But I’m scared how long this will take 😓 thank you for all your help btw and please help me as much as you know currently. I seriously appreciate it and need all the help I can get. 🙏🏼

I’m not really in the position to cook for my family. Would take too much time and tbh I want to fix this addiction not by removing it but by actually beating it to the point I can look at junk food and say “no” to eating it instead of just hiding it from myself yk? And thank you I will try to use the mindful stuff like you’ve said. my problem is that I’m not really sure I’m even using awareness correctly or doing awareness correctly? like what makes awareness different from thinking about something? I understand awareness is kind of like noticing something without thinking but I don’t get it tbh And because I don’t understand how awareness really works it makes it hard for me to even tell if I’m doing it right because I don’t understand awareness Fundamentally I can’t really apply it to anything haha apologises I dragged that explanation a lot but I want to make sure you understand what I’m asking Thanks for your help previously

@LordFall hey Ty for this. I just recently got insane motivation to build my body to an absolute monster body and wow it’s really making me feel like not eating that rubbish Have you got any more tips or more advice on using this tip you’ve given me i guess I can just think of all the reasons why I want to not eat it. E.g: looking more attractive which makes me more attractive to women, more energy, less depression

Any help Is really appreciated 🙏🏼

For the last 6 months I have developed multiple addictions I am still trying to quit I’ve managed to quit my addictions to video games , phone addiction and porn addictions by using an app that locks all my apps on my phone. However, there is no way for me to “lock myself out” of junk food. I still live with my parents and they eat bad foods and so I can’t avoid them I decided to watch Leo’s video called “Awareness alone is curative” and I think it might be my only shot at quitting my junk food addiction If you haven’t seen the video, Leo talks about how you can quit any addiction simply by just being aware of yourself when you indulge in the addiction/bad habit Using this method I’ve run into a few problems id really appreciate help with 1. I’m unsure I’m even using awareness correctly. Like how do you even be aware when you do the bad habit, I don’t understand what the difference between being aware and not being aware is. 2. Am I meant to let myself do the bad habit as much as I want? Leo says in the video to not stop yourself from doing the bad habit as long as you use awareness whilst doing it. But am I really meant to let myself do my desire 24:7 because if I do that I’m always eating since I have the desire to eat bad food A LOT. 3. Is there proof this awareness method used to quit addictions/bad habits works? Leo never mentioned any proof of anything using it so I feel like I can’t fully believe it works tbh. 4. is it normal that I’ve been eating triple the amount of bad food. My addiction feels like its just gotta worse because I’m doing the addiction way more now ever since Leo said in the video not to stop yourself from doing the bad habit but to just be aware of yourself doing it. I understand the idea is that you keep using awareness until your awareness becomes very good that you quit the habit, but I’ll honestly get diabetes at this rate bruh 5. I’m just worried this bad habit will never end. I’m stuck with what to do and I’m trying to cling onto this method for hope but so far not getting much results. please help me. I want to quit my addiction but I just don’t know what to do. please help answer my questions and give me your best advice on how to quit addictions 🙏🏼

interesting. With my anxious attachment, I can talk to a girl for 5 minutes and then be crying the next day because she doesn’t like me. This has happened like basically 3x now for me lmao. not like crazy crying but still crying ty for the advice. I’ll try it out and tbh I’m not sure why she even became unnattracted to me. The only thing I can think of is because I kept mentioning the date. But that was only at decently reasonable times. Feels weird knowing that I have no idea exactly how I messed up lol