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wow very very insightful. It might be the answer I have been looking for ! I was afraid I might lose something when not listening to the ego/masculine drive but now I see how it can be used. I had a similar experience with saying my truth. Usually anger comes up and tells me my truth. But I do not need to communicate it in an angry way. So the vision ( anger shouts) and the action where not the same but afterwards I still feel pretty aligned... Maybe thats the same thing you are pointing at

Very helpful!! Thank you very much. So we keep the visions going in our heads but use the same energy not exactly for what the visions wants ( the ego wants to be seen and get the attention of course etc ) but more to build stuff ?

Yeah but gaining self worth from the outside doesn't sound like the best idea, like a common trap

For me that would mean that I would try to climbe the social letter, be more dominant, want attention form the outside, seen as the cool guy, get the nice car , get the attractive woman,. And I know that this is not only what I want since I am also looking for meaning and purpose. But Then it feels like these two energys contradict each other

Don't really get what you are trying to say here

Hey guys, I notice more and more that I am cut off from my own power in a way. Fear of maybe being to much, to dominant is holding me back which leads to the opposite, feeling less confident and feeling like I see my self as less. The Problem I have: I have a big energy inside me that wants to be the hero, wants to dominate, wants to win, wants to push etc. Its not there cause of trauma or something it feels more like a natural instinct I have. But I am also very reflective, wanting to act from values, wanting to meet people at a human level and doing something thats meaningful to me. I often hear that there is a more mature from of this masculine energy, but I can't really believe that. It seems like lots of men have these visions of being the hero, lots just have them buried and others are not really 100% honest with themselves. It annoys me because I dont know how to use this energy inside of me really, its always getting blocked off because I dont want to act from ego so much etc.. Maybe some of the guys here can help me ?

Hello, As I can see so far there are basically three things that helps with stuck emotions: 1) working with belives and understanding what's going on -> Results in a feeling of freedom from old belive (cognitive therapy with psychologist) 2) Radically leaving ones comfort zone and facing scary situations in life -> resulting in freedom because more trust and courage 3) Emotional releases -> resulting in an overwhelming energetic feeling which frees one from his stuck emotions Does anybody know when which strategy is the best and for what scenario? I See a lot of new age "spiritual men" getting stuck in introspection searching for triggers, getting more and more into a feminine frame, instead of actually getting strong and feeling capable in life. Being on his own mission etc. Maybe some of the other men have some experiences. So far opening up to all this emotional work feels unnatural to me. Thanks !

I mean I identify as a man and I see that as having a healthy ego foe example. Maybe letting bo and developing both is needed ?

How would that roadmap look like ? I am very aware off the basics you mention

In your video 9 Stages of ego development you said yourself that releasing emotions can heal lots of different diseases..

Hello, I have problems with a chronic condition. By trying to heal it I eventually stumbled upon spirituality and emotional healing. At first it was just more mainstream new age spirituality. Over time I got more and more knowledge identified some traps in spirituality and really understood that non duality is portably the hardest thing a person can pursue. I also realised that healing my "shadow" or emotional body is key to getting my health back. So for now I just try to do the emotional work. In that work there is of course already a lot of letting go. For myself I identified different categories. Personal development, emotional healing, spirituality (non duality), spirituality (being connected as an ego to a higher purpose etc), developing values, morals and ethics and lastly developing a life purpose. I now want to have more clarity on what I am actually doing right now? It feels like by working with my emotions more and getting more distance to for example to fear, I already went through some kind of awakening and it still continues. Is the emotional healing and personality development needed to actually go to higher levels ( enlightenment) ? Is what I am doing right now cleaning my ego from all the "bad" stuff and I create a healthy ego? I am in my mid 20s right now and heared opposite views on the context of enlithenmnet from @Leo Gura. In his FAQ2 he said that pursuing enlithnemnet early is the right way because it has immense benefits. In his video "250 Traps" he said he whished to not go so early in spirituality. He says going this path at the end of ones life is more natural. So I am a bit confused right now. It seems like a lot of people that healed that way made tremendous jumps regarding their spiritual progress. It seems like evolving spiritually is key to really letting go of one emotional baggage. On the other side I am thinking if aiming at getting a healthy ego first is the "better" goal for now. I had one LSD experience paired with reading hardcore non duality book right after. That crushed my worldview big time. It still has me a bit destabilised. I can see how much things can come up when you really go more and more meta. Is the some kind of order or roadmap for people in their mid to end 20s to how to navigate all these different topics? Thanks a lot !!

That’s exactly what happened/happens to me. I look at my surroundings and sometimes get the feeling of being „to present“. Like before I was imbedded into somekind of stories I viewed the world threw. But now it just seems to be me and this building for example. I am just here standing here. It is indeed a freaky feeling. I never knew what it was but your explanation hit the nail on the head ! I text you a PM.

Men in our society today are the most likely to feel compared to other societys in history . I would definitely say there is also biological factors at play. Men know intrinsically that showing weakness can cause less survival potential because of setting one self in a lower hirachy. So I believe its both.

yeah I agree. Just in connection to enlithentment it seems like you only need the feminin energy for that ?

Okey interesting. Would you say this lust for being authoritarian is coming from a lack or from a joy ? Because I can it feeling in me coming from a lack often. My question is, is that feeling if lack maybe needed for men to get to these authoritarian positions ?