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Hmm.. I'm just leaning towards not telling anybody about it. Even on this forum I'm getting weird responses.

There is meditation in Christianity

Words are powerful. Never underestimate the power of your words.

@something_else They are not smoking weed man. I have seen your pictures and I guess you belong to certain groups and it is easy for you to meet new people but not everybody has access to these hippy groups. They just have their friends and acquaintances and do some sports. It has hard to find belonging for them especially for guys who grew up behind an ipad. If you weren't socialized at the right age it becomes harder later in life. Not everybody has the auto-didactic skills to do it. How would you turn out if your parents didn't socialize you in your teens and you had to learn these skills in your late 20'ies? Have you ever thought about that before judging them?

I never thought of a need as a hole. 🕳️ But it kind of makes sense and now I’m disturbed for having needs. 😭

There are more sexless and single men than ever according to statistics. Just throwing everything on the fault of men is kind of sad and demeaning. I know a lot of good guys with friends and shit and can’t get a gf to save their life. They do have good communication skills and they would good fathers too. They are just a little insecure and don’t know what they are doing. There are a lot of complex explanations for the current phenomenon of modern day dating problems but it is not that easy as you make it out to be.

That is true but at least they are getting something. The regular nice guy is not getting any. Most guys would have something than nothing.

In the game of survival, moral/immoral is not a thing at play. In love and war there are no rules. That is a very painful lesson that I learned. I wish I believed it the first moment I heard it but sometimes you need to suffer. 😅

Agreed but I don't think being a moral man is the gold standard for women. Look around how many women are swirling around immoral powerful men.

The whole point of life is not to under or overcompensate but to find the middle way which is wisdom. Most people overcompensate because they were under compensated in their youth. This is the story of most wealthy people but also spiritual people. I mean Elon Musk wouldn't be Elon Musk if he didn't have a terrible childhood.

Most important is not if you pay or not if you are dating in a western culture. Or if you are good looking or not. Or how much money you have. Although all of these are variables at play and they do have an influence, most important is if you can make a connection with her and provide her fun/emotional intimacy/connection/etc. But the thing is that not all women have this western mindset. What you don't have in emotional and social intelligence you have to make up for in other ways like with your wallet, looks, status, and so on. Most guys don't know how to develop emotional and social intelligence (granted it is very difficult to develop if you haven't developed in your teenage years) so they overcompensate with wealth, physique, status and so on. It does work. Imagine Elon Musk not having his wealth, status and money, it would be very hard for him to get a wife but if you have power women will give you a lot of leeway. The thing is that women don't know how much power you have the first moment you meet them so they go off pinging your emotional intelligence and social status because that is a good indicator how successful you are. This happens mostly subconscious. And if you fumble with who is going to pay, it shows that you don't have emotional and social intelligence but the thing is if a girl is a pain in the ass, you shouldn't care about what she feels about you. At the end you should do you and listen to your intuition which is of paramount worth, much more worth than some strange.

So how are you going to get your stuff after your stash is out?

Mean? I didn’t meant it mean.

@Princess Arabia is the type of woman that you should go 50/50 on. Especially on the first date after you know you are not going to see her again. One shouldn’t encourage this kind of behavior.

That is what I was saying but people weren't getting it. No need to rock the boat if it is worth your while. It shouldn't be a big deal but for some girls it is a big deal.

Just as simple as veganism, right?

Hop on the magic school bus, it is free and it gets you everywhere

@Princess Arabia Those unwritten dating rules are from the 90'ies. The unwritten dating rules of 2025 are very different. If you are young hot girl and you are riding the magic bus getting free stuff left and right - for just existing - you can make those demands but as you get older the story is different...

If she is an authentic nice girl I do actually pay because I want to. If I don’t want to it is usually because for some reason which I stated.

@something_else who says I said I’m a good guy? 😅 This was actually witty. Keep working and one day you will actually live up to your username.

@Something Funny excuse me?

It depends on what your goal is. Do you want to date for a relationship or just for sex? If it is just sex you don’t want to rock the boat If it is just sex that I want I always test them on toxic feminist traits. If they are very easily triggered by certain remarks… You know what you are dealing with These girls are usually very superficial and acting authentic with these kind of girls can actually backfire because they are not use to dating good guys. They want a different type of guy.

@Princess Arabia nah try being a guy for a day and you would understand. Men need to be better negotiators. A lot of western women who don’t get turned off if you play open card but with a lot you need to play the game to even make a chance.