Vali2003

@Carl-Richard To let the momentum drive you forward, so to say?

The way to be successful is to put myself in a situation where I have to succeed. Where there are real stakes. The question is: do I have the balls to do that?

I feel, I’ve made some progress in my decision-making today. I’ll continue to work my list on ways that will help me find my path forward. But the next couple of days will be pretty busy… I’m moving places so I’ll have to prepare quite a bit, and simultaneously my brother will come to visit me this weekend. Once these two events are done with I’ll have a bit more time and headspace.

Learning coding is almost as difficult as when I learned how to floss my teeth. But it’s a lot of fun. I did 3 hours of the course today, and time literally went by so quickly that I had to double-check if I set the timer correctly.

Some people are go-getters. They just go out there, and do it. Do something. I’m not that, if you haven’t noticed. I’m in my head, a lot. One instance where that’s not true, is when playing basketball. In the flow state of driving to the basket, and coming up with some random athletic finish. The split-decision of driving left or right, taking a jump shot or going to the lane. These are the moments where I’m not in my head. It‘s refreshing… haha

Maybe it feels freeing, because I’m actually in contact with the reality of what it takes to accomplish what I want, not some fantasy. It also feels daunting.

I’ve just realized that whatever path I choose to go down, there’s one thing that’s absolutely certain: I will need to work immensely hard. Much harder than I’ve ever worked before. I’ll need to sacrifice hanging out with friends, and any other time use that’s not working. That may sound shit, but somehow it felt freeing to realize.

I’ll write a list tomorrow of things I could do to help me with deciding which path to go down, or with achieving financial freedom in general.

I just watched a part of How to fall in love with life and I realized that I’ve fallen out of love with life for a bit recently. It’s weird, because I also feel confident on the other hand, with my self-esteem being higher than ever. I’m so preoccupied with ensuring survival that I’ve lost touch with intrinsic goals that genuinely ignite excitement within me. But it’s necessary, no? Doing CS50 makes me happier and actually is quite exciting for me as it’s part of the larger quest for finding my LP. I guess, the things I’m doing aren’t so much the problem, as is the pressure I’m putting on myself. Within all this pressure and neurosis, gets lost the genuine excitement I have about the mission of gaining financial freedom. It’s also just the uncertainty I have at the moment. I don’t know which path I’m gonna go down and that just feels… unnverving.

@Rigel We were referring to running past one’s limits, like in a race where you go all out. There will definitely be some pain or maybe call it exhaustion if you will. Like when doing squats. But apart from that I don’t have pain while running. It actually feels rather effortless for me.

I‘ve realized more and more now that the highest Level of athleticism there is has little to do with hard work, and much more with talent (how strong your fascia tensegrity network is). This is like people saying all that matters in dating is looks, just that it‘s actually true for athleticism. And what is looks in dating, is the state of your fascia in athleticism. Check out my first post about this if you have no idea what I’m yapping about. I suggest reading my latest comment. The OP was bad. I noticed the black pill in myself recently as strong as ever. I play basketball and I’ve been working on my jump shot for a while, making small steady improvements over time. Now, my fascia tensegrity strength has taken a big leap, and all of a sudden I can easily hit 7/10 threes, several steps behind the three point line without any additional training. It takes very little effort because the movement relies much more on elastic energy than it does for most people. I would try to explain the feeling more but it makes little sense as pretty much no one here will have reference experiences for this. Aside from my personal experience, it makes sense that the mainstream muscle-based view of athletic performance is missing something. Look at this nine-year old girl for example: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.milgrim/?hl=en She regularly beats BOYS in wrestling who are her age, and much bigger than her. Her muscles have reached nowhere near maturity obviously. So where is the power coming from to overpower a boy of her age who, judging by muscle-based theory, should be much stronger than her. And don’t say technique. Why would a girl of her age have such a big technical advantage over other kids the same age as her. Another example: Lebron James. Why was he SO SO much better than everybody else at his age? Like he literally was in another dimension compared to his peers. He wasn’t the only kid in the USA who’s 2,09m with a 2,13cm wingspan. And don’t say it’s because he may have marginally more fast twitch muscle fibers than others. There are many more examples like this, where the difference in skill/competency in an athletic endeavor is not explainable through the current paradigm. This new paradigm will completely shift the landscape of athletic performance, injury prevention and injury treatment. The mechanism I propose in my other post is likely highly flawed, but, really, it doesn’t matter. As soon as more people start to experience this paradigm of how the body functions, it will rush through the world like an earthquake. I’m looking forward to it, because it will level the playing field, but hopefully it won’t take too long. We all know how resistant humanity is to paradigm shifts — probably for good reason.

I don’t know about all of the west, but I can speak a bit for Germany. Everything here has been getting more expensive — in terms of purchasing power. Inflation always happens and the goal is to keep it at around 2% per year. But usually the GDP of the country also grows each year, which is why the purchasing power doesn’t change or even increases potentially — ergo: enough money to have food in the fridge. In Germany the GDP hasn’t really grown that much since 2019. Even before Covid if I recall correctly. Then Covid and Ukraine war happened, which again fucked the growth rate of Germanys economy, as well as rising costs of electricity and some other stuff, which again reduces purchasing power. Then tariffs coming in now from the US also help tank the GDP. Lack of GDP growth leads to the wages not being adjusted to the inflation, which is why you have less money in the wallet or, struggle to put food in the fridge. I could imagine that things are similar in Romania or in other countries. I’m not very confident that all this is correct to be honest hehe, but this is the best I could do.

And now the last two months I feel that I’ve changed so drastically. I visited my mom in my hometown now, during my semester break for the last 1 1/2 months. And for the last 63 days I’ve contemplated everyday for thirty minutes. It’s not that much but still I feel that the quality of my life has increased a lot. I’ve changed so much over this timeframe —not only due to the contemplation —, that now being back in the city I study at, everything feels different. It’s really weird.

I’m so thankful to be on this journey. I just continued listening to Leo‘s motivational speech from 2021. He said there, that the first couple years of doing this work will be slow. And that it will take time until you start to notice changes, but then the momentum will pick up, and the payoff will start coming in. I noticed it’s very true for me. I read my first Personal Development book at 15. At that point I was completely wasting my life, watching YT videos all day, not doing any sports, not being passionate about anything, horrible self-worth, doing okay but not good at school. Then I saw a YT Video from a German YouTuber called “Trymacs,” who usually does Clash Royal (a supercell game) gameplays and stuff like that. He talked about the favorite books that he read, and that every successful person reads 70+ books per year or some bullshit statistic like that . I literally caught on fire because of that video and asked my mom to buy me a book called “Miracle Morning” that he recommended. Through reading this book, I, for the first time in my life, realized that the quality (success) of my life is a function of how/if I develop my personality. And that my personality is the only thing I can influence and so I should put all my energy into doing that. Then I slowly started to develop passion for life. I started going to the gym, I started playing basketball, I started talking to girls more and getting better there. My confidence slowly rose. Then I got into Lucid Dreaming which was really my first project where I developed intense passion and persistence. I started doing better at school, I picked up some more books, started working on my sleep, realized how fucked my social media consumption was, I grew shrooms in my room while living at my mom’s still, lol, I got into meditation, I got into New Age spirituality… which is why I met with some new age spiritual people on Koh Pangan (Thailand), one of which recommended to me Leo Gura. My whole personal development journey started there, because of this YT video. This one, strong ass intention that I had — and it really was strong — shifted the entire trajectory of my life. The power of intention.

The funny thing is, I had all the time in the world to experiment and discover my LP (or something close to it) in the last two years. However, I wasn’t mature enough to really see and understand how I would do that. I see it now, though, and the hindsight stings. However, I’m doing the right things now. I’m slowly, but steadily building the strongest work-ethic I can. And I experiment.

I want to discover my LP, so badly. I want to love life to its fullest, so badly. I want to create the most beautiful thing I can, so badly.

Here’s an insight I had while playing basketball: I was doing a skills-workout, and the goal of my current exercise was to hit 9/10 jump shots on the left wing and 9/10 on the right. If you got that, you could move on to the next level. I really wanted to get it. It was probably the third or fourth time doing the exercise and it’s generally pretty hard I’d say to hit 9/10 consecutively on each side, but I had already gotten close the previous time. I had hit 10/10 on the right side, and then absolutely shit the bed on the left side and hit like 6/10. I have a tendency to choke in those moments when the pressure rises in little exercises like these (ironically more than in real games). Ok, now I did it again. One more time, I hit 10/10 on the right side. Left side also went well, I was 7/7 so far. “Just don’t piss yourself now” I thought. And I noticed that I slid into that same frame of mind as the last time. But then I realized, if I’m ever gonna not choke, then there’ll be a moment where I just have to do it. And that moment has to be in the Now. Cause I noticed then and there that I always lose concentration in such moments. And it was the realization that all I need to do is focus and that I need to break through it Now! I also hit 10/10 there and move on to the next level. The point is, some things that we want to learn are always in the future, but we’ll never learn them in the future. They have to happen Now. Sorry if this is a bit off topic. Let me know if you’d like me to post exclusively career-related stuff here, as that’s what I say in the first post.

Peter Ralston is really badass

One big insight I got through reading some Peter Ralston is that the fastest way to learn how to do something is just by trying to do it. There’s a barrier in us to do that, though. Especially if there’s some ambiguity as to how that’s possible. But exactly then do we need actual experience to refine our understanding of what we’re dealing with. For example: I wanted to do some sprint training. And I didn’t know how you do sprint training since I’ve literally never done it before in my life. So I did a quick GPT5 research for sprint training best practices. It was basically “sprint at 90-100% max intent for 20-30 seconds and then jog slowly or walk for 3-4 minutes and repeat 3-4 times.” I didn’t feel satisfied at all by that explanation. I didn’t feel well-prepared going out to do the training, but I did it anyways. Going out and doing it, I learned so much about sprint-training, so that I’d now feel pretty well-prepared if I went to do it again. I learned, just from doing it one time that I tend to go too intense, that I definitely need water, that I need to bring my fitness watch for a timer, that I need to warm up pretty intensively. Of course, I could know all of those things without the experience. But I wouldn’t know them. The satisfaction and confidence that we search from reading about how something works is not in the researching, it’s in the doing. You best learn how to contemplate by contemplating, you best learn how to write beautifully by trying to write beautifully, you best learn how to relax your body by relaxing your body, you best learn how to jump by jumping. The more abstract and wishy washy the thing we’re learning is the longer we tend to want to stay in the process of researching. Confronting the imperfection of not being able to do something properly is really uncomfortable. But it’s not nearly as uncomfortable as we think it is. And once that bit of discomfort is bridged, it gets really rewarding.

Lately I’ve been really having the desire to do psychedelics again, after I haven’t done any for three years. I would love to just sit in my room and contemplate all day then. The value I’d get from that would be enormous. However, since I’m a pretty ungrounded person and struggle with anxiety sometimes, I fear that it would be smarter not to do any psychedelics until I’m about thirty. Also my aunt had/has (we’re not in contact therefore I don’t know her exact situation right now) schizophrenia, which is why I have some extra worries. I, stupidly, smoked weed when I was a teenager and did some psychedelics in my late teenage years, which, I think, increases my risk for psychosis as well. So I don’t want to fuck around with my sanity, which is why I haven’t been doing any drugs. I had bad experiences on weed all the time. Nothing horrible, but I was anxious most of the times I smoked. However, I never had any bad experiences on psychedelics. They were positive every single time. But still, I think it’s smarter not to indulge in them now. There will still be plenty of time when I’m older, and I’ll also wrestle through those problems with a sober mind.

Here are my Top 10 Values btw: Health Excellence Creativity Truth Movement Connection Nature Spirituality Family Contribution At least that’s what they were 2 years ago when I took the LP course. They still seem mostly accurate though. Especially Health, Excellence and Creativity being the top 3.

As I currently plan it, I will dip my toes in 2-3 more domains (like Computer Science right now) that would likely be good for survival. These should also be degrees where a bachelor’s will suffice to get a good job / start a business. I still have to do research about what that could be. I will then pick the one that resonates the most with my values and that I liked the most.

There’s also still the question on if it’s smarter (for survival) to pursue a degree and then build a business — although, of course, there can also be overlap between doing the degree and starting a business — or just start a business right away. I’m tempted to say doing a degree is smarter, because it’s the safer option for me. But is safety even always a bad bias to have?

I have some feeling, like it’s unclear whether doing another degree in pursuit of ensuring survival (primarily) will actually bring me closer to self-actualization or further away. I do need money. And I don’t want to be financially dependent on my dad anymore. Obviously, it would be perfect if I knew my Life Purpose, and it would be covered by a degree that also ensures survival. Like if my Life Purpose would be to become a master in business, and help others achieve the same. But I don’t know that. And I don’t think I can find that out so quickly.

Here’s the connection between being decisive and feeling grounded for me: Throughout my days, there often comes up some stuff that I’ve been procrastinating. For example remembering that I have to take care of my university schedule for this semester. But I don’t decide if I’m gonna do it later today, tomorrow, next week or even not all. I just don’t decide. It stays an open tab. These things accumulate throughout the day, which makes me less and less sure of how exactly my day, the rest of my day or the following week will occur. Hence, I feel ungrounded