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@manuel bon Good question... Letting go of most of my family was clear-cut, but with my mother, I hoped for some kind of positive connection, even if small. After this recent interaction, though, I’m realizing it might be time to fully let go, as even limited contact stirs up old wounds. It’s not just about moving on, it’s about accepting that this relationship isn’t healthy, even in small doses.

@Ajax I appreciate your perspective, and I understand what you’re saying about the trap of needing to be 'right.' I get that in theory, both sides can hold their own version of truth, but in reality, when one side’s 'truth' involves emotional manipulation or trying to push beliefs that have caused harm, it’s not so easy to just accept and move on. My goal isn’t to be 'right' or to justify my decisions. I’ve älready made peace with those. It’s more about protecting my well-being and maintaining healthy boundaries. The pain of separation you mention isn’t about guilt for disconnecting. it’s about navigating the emotional residue that comes from years of manipulation and control. For me, practicing love sometimes means cutting ties when the relationship is doing more harm than good

Your attempt to psychoanalyze me is laughable, and here’s why: I’m not seeking guidance on healing trauma, especially not from someone like you. Your constant need to insert yourself into conversations with baseless confidence shows more about your insecurities than anything insightful. Confidence is not knowledge, and it certainly isn’t understanding. You’re not Matt Kahn, you’re not Ken Wilber, and based on your behavior here, you’re not advanced in anything meaningful - just in trolling and passive-aggressive nonsense. You throw around big names and ideas to look smart, but all you do is reveal how little depth or understanding you actually have. I never said a therapist needs to be 'nice,' but let’s be clear- you’re not a therapist. You’re just someone who enjoys stirring the pot while offering little of substance. You claim to be giving me your 'time,' but all you’re really doing is wasting mine. And as for your claim about being 'gentle,' I’m sure you’re the picture of gentleness as a 30kg boy in real life. You do have issues, and I’ve already pointed them out - you lack even the most basic level of self-reflection. Take a step back and please, stop pretending you’ve got it all figured out. You clearly don’t get the message - multiple people have told you to back off, but here you are, still wasting everyone’s time. We’ve gone way off topic because of you. You’re on my ignore list from now on.

Your attempt to psychoanalyze me is laughable. Trauma isn’t something people hold onto because they like it. It’s a painful experience that takes real effort to heal from, something you clearly don’t understand. You act like you’re some kind of enlightened guru, but in reality, you’re just a kid behind a keyboard, probably living with your parents, trying to sound smart by tearing people down. You talk about mental health, but your lack of empathy shows how little you really get it. Real healing doesn’t come from yelling at people or trying to scare them - it comes from compassion and understanding, which you clearly don’t have. From the way you respond to people, it’s clear you have your own insecurities - likely a need to feel superior because deep down, you probably struggle with low self-worth. Instead of dealing with your own issues, you try to act tough online. But this isn’t helping anyone, especially not you. I’m done with your BS. Time for you to take your ego trip elsewhere. Goodbye.

It goes much deeper than this. I mentioned that as a very vague example. The real issue is about having a connection with the only family member I considered marginally safe, who is also being dismissive and emotionally abusive.

@Schizophonia I’ve faced serious emotional, physical, religious, and potentially sexual abuse, so I don’t feel the need to explain myself further. Your dismissive attitude and lack of empathy show that you're not respecting or understanding my journey. This isn't a space for negativity or button-pushing, so I’d appreciate it if you refrain from commenting further. Thanks for considering my request.

Thanks for sharing, it’s great that you found understanding with your brother. I’m still working through my own healing journey, and cutting ties feels like the right step for me right now. @El Zapato

Understanding her story doesn't help me, as I'm currently on my own healing journey. For every two steps I take forward, this BS sets me one step back.

I am referring to Spiral Dynamics. Check out Leo´s videos on YouTube for more on this.

It's not so much about how I respond to her, but more about how she subtly triggers the deeply rooted feelings of shame and worthlessness that I’ve worked so hard to heal. It’s a constant battle to not let those old wounds resurface.

Her religious views deeply impacted my entire childhood and more, making it difficult to ignore. Instead of solely focusing on myself and my life purpose, I find myself actively working to repair the damage caused by her influence. It’s tough to overlook this when you're fully aware of how it has harmed you in the past.

Staying grounded, for me, means staying true to what I genuinely feel in the moment, as long as it doesn't involve violence or direct insults that would be purely reactionary. For me, a grounded response can sometimes mean saying, "Go fuck yourself," when it feels authentic and aligns with my boundaries. So, yes, i fully agree with you!

My intent wasn’t to offend. I appreciate your perspective, djust dealing with some brain fog. lol

@Schizophonia Maybe it's time for more French reinforcements?

People just need more psychedelics in their lives. @Lila9 @Keryo Koffa Your post increased my already high brain fog by 200%.

Nope. Freud’s Oedipus complex doesn’t fully explain the Madonna-whore complex. Stage Blue cultures, with strict gender roles and patriarchal values, reinforce this divide between “good” and “bad” women. Freud’s theory ignores these strong cultural and societal influences, making it outdated as the sole explanation.

It can be extremely hard to accept this when you grow up in a Stage Blue culture - this is where Madonna-whore complex comes from.

I’ve been struggling with heavy brain fog ever since I took a very high dose of 5-MeO-MALT. While I’m not 100% sure it’s the cause, the issue seemed to start around that time. The fog begins about an hour after waking and fully sets in after two hours, leaving me feeling disconnected from my mind and body, and making it hard to enjoy everyday activities. My situation: - Diet: Mostly diverse, organic foods with low sugar - Caffeine: About three times a week - Exercise: Weight training three times a week - Supplements: Taking brain detox supplements for several months, but unsure of their effectiveness - Work: I work in shifts, which seems to worsen the brain fog Things that have helped: - Mindfulness meditation – Provides some relief, though it’s not a complete solution - Short power naps – Significantly clear the fog, but naps mostly aren’t feasible due to my lifestyle If anyone has had similar experiences with brain fog, psychedelics, or shift work, or any advice on managing this, I’d really appreciate your thoughts.

I take it every day, it doesn't seem to make any diffrence.

Inner Child Dialogue: A Raw Path to Self-Love This is What Inner Child Dialogue Looks Like (With Influence from Teal Swan’s Self-Love Course) Things you'll need: - Notebook - Pen - Preferably an old photo of yourself as an anchor - Optional: A long-lasting psychedelic like 4-AcO-DMT Intention: I want to heal emotionally and learn to express my feelings better. Below is an example of an inner child dialogue. The handwriting in this exercise alternates between my non-dominant hand, which is supposedly connected to the amygdala (the trauma brain, the inner child), and my dominant hand, which represents the neocortex (the grown-up). Since the original is in Croatian, I’ve translated it into English for clarity. The conversation may seem unclear or irrational, but it’s deeply personal and meaningful to the one doing the work, immersed in those strong emotions. This is what raw, emotional work looks like: --- Start of the Inner Child Dialogue: Intention: To connect with the part of me that feels the most hatred, the part that stands between me and self-love. Before diving in, I connected with a very emotional childhood photo where I was forced to pose. On the right side of the picture, there's a hand resting on my shoulder. I call it the hand of the devil. It's clear that child was struggling, forced to suppress his emotions. That hand—on the one hand, it provided me with food and shelter, my survival depended on it. But that same hand could hit me, deprive me of food, lock me in, or even kill me. I still don’t know how it didn’t... --- **Inner child (non-dominant hand):** "Get away from me! I’ll fucking kill you!" (Scribbles ragefully on the page as the child expresses emotions it couldn’t express in that moment.) **Grown-up (dominant hand):** "Now it’s all okay." **Inner child:** "NOTHING IS OKAY!" **Grown-up:** "I will never allow anyone to make you feel useless or small. I will always protect you." **Inner child:** (Scribbles again, caught in loops of comfort and familiar patterns, binging, and repeating old behaviors.) **Grown-up:** "Can you try to let go of control?" **Inner child:** "I will die! I will cease to exist if I do..." (Moment of silence) At this point, I felt a surge of anger, fully immersing myself in it, releasing it into a pillow. After this brief but intense release: **Inner child:** "I am scared..." **Grown-up:** "Should we try together to let go of control?" **Inner child:** (Starting to trust) "Yes." **Grown-up:** "I am always here for you. I love you. <3" **Inner child:** "<3 Take care of me." **Grown-up:** "I will, always."

You did more than good enough! 1. I completely agree that Goku’s core is rooted in a healthy Stage Red, since martial arts is the center of his life. 2. It’s tough for me to pinpoint any real Stage Blue traits in him. 3. I also agree that he embodies many Stage Green traits, especially in how he sees the good in everyone, even his enemies. But if you ask me, he’s about 70% healthy Red and 20% Orange, given his obsession with becoming the best - not as a career, but as a passion. The remaining 10%? That’s up for debate!

@Lila9 awesome explanation of the shift from Yellow to Turquoise. You nailed it. You really captured how Yellow is all about curiosity and openness, but eventually hits a point where intellectualizing just doesn’t work anymore. And the way you described Turquoise as more about living, feeling, and experiencing reality rather than analyzing it? Also, using Osho and Zeno as examples, loved that! Made it super relatable. Now I can’t help but wonder... where would Goku fit into Spiral Dynamics?

I have been captivated by the books of Mark Sisson and his performance in real life. Interesting! Thanks for sharing. German supplements are generally high quality due to strict EU regulations. While the US vitamin industry may be less regulated, I guess it's still important to check ingredients and research side effects for any supplement, no matter the country of origin. Thanks for pointing that out! I believe it all started the day I plugged 70mg of 5-MeO-MALT. When it didn’t seem to work, I kept increasing the dose until I hit 70mg. I didn’t get the trip I was expecting, but ever since, the brain fog that followed has been unmatched I may experiment with some of the things you've mentioned and share my experiences here!°

Legalizing prostitution might help regulate it and make society safer, but it doesn’t solve the deeper issue. Prostitution exists because many people’s basic needs, both material and emotional, aren’t being met. To really address this, we would need to end conflicts, redirect resources, and focus on education and personal growth. By helping people move to higher stages of development, where they think more consciously and empathetically, industries like prostitution would gradually fade away.

Hi @Michael569 I tried a food-induced keto diet, and although I entered ketosis, I felt terrible, likely because I didn’t do it properly. Later, I did a 5-day water fast and felt great after entering ketosis, but neither provided lasting results. If you have any recommendations for a dietitian who could address my specific problem, that would be very helpful!