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Reflecting on it recently I’m starting to see that any kind of social anxiety whether that be from talking to strangers, speaking in public, hitting on someone attractive, it’s really down to a feeling of separateness The greater the feeling of separateness, the greater the anxiety. So I believe connectedness with others comes from having a well developed exstrospective side This I believe is the trap of being too introspective at the expense of your exstrospective side. Yes, you may have the divine consciousness in relation to your own inner world, very content and happy alone in solitude, but amongst others, there’s a disconnect Of course vice versa if you have an underdeveloped introspective side then you will struggle to be alone in solitude with your thoughts and emotions so they both should be developed for you to be a well rounded, mature and spiritual being. It’s all one in the end - the outer and inner world must meet. There’s no separateness. You are one with yourself and one with others I’ve found that LSD really has helped me connect with my exstrospective side - to feel more connected with the outwardly experiences. This is what my 30s is really going to be about now. Developing this as I already have a well developed introspective side. Good to hear perspectives on this

@thenondualtankie I’ve had similar experiences where I’ve gone through phases dipping in and out but I can honestly say it’s now starting to stick and I’m back in the game committed to it This for me is more because I’ve made a conscious decision to really develop my extroverted side

@BlessedLion I used have respect for JP but with his bs views on politics I just can’t hold him in high esteem. Bit like musk really. Thought he was doing good with space travel and electric cars but I can’t stand the guy now Yeh it’s basic self help material with a strong conservative leaning. It’s okay if you need a kick up the ass to get on with your life. Admittedly I have not read much of his stuff but from videos etc it doesn’t come anywhere close to Wilber Also, I think he’s gone deeper into conservative ideology because of the attacks he’s received from the identitarian left. There’s an ego backlash going on and he’s double down on those views. Same with musk.

@Leo Gura definitely

@caspex Find what you really want out of life but the preamble to that is to connect with the divine. It’ll help guide you But don’t take life too seriously. Life is supposed to be playful. Rather than serious it’s being dedicated and disciplined in service of your ambitions. The universe won’t hand it to you on a platter

@cjoseph90I drink quite a bit of coffee. Go for straight black now. Coffee does have a good amount of antioxidants and is good for the gut biome so I see no problem with it as long as you moderate and don’t drink it too late Don’t think there are any inherent benefits of decaffeinated over regular. It’s just coffee with less caffeine innit

@quantumspiral If you look at mass market games and the archetypical gamer yes I would say they are mostly immature. Gaming is very dumbed down for the mass market and the mass market is mostly made up of young inexperienced men and kids. Tbf it’s not much different to streaming services which is also dumbed down but it’s more pronounced in gaming I myself used to play quite a bit of video games. This didn’t displace my career and business ambitions but it did displace social time and developing my extrospective side. The style of games I am into are more mature grown up games imo. Strategy games like Civ, Anno, total war, Prison Architect etc. But it’s not just a maturity thing. The key issue for me was life priorities and time. Sinking hours into a virtual world at the expense of real life development will start to sting when you want more out of life I am actually thinking about selling my gaming PC. I’m going to hold off on it for now in case I feel like playing during the colder winter months. I’ll see how it goes

@NightHawkBuzz If you are going to be a Republican please for the love of god bring a bit of sanity into it. The only Republican that I have any respect for is Romney even though I disagree with his views. At least he has principles. He’s one of the last old school republicans In ref to campaigns, I have canvassed for the greens so I know about it at a grassroots level. Just old fashioned door knocking and canvassing in town centres. Connecting with the people

@spectra I’ve recently been accepted on to teacher training. Something I want to do but will have to defer until next academic year because of the company I am committed to I know a couple of teachers/former teachers. My mate used to be a college teacher but didn’t get on with it. Another friend of mine is jaded by it lol But I really like teaching though. The only thing I don’t like is the bullshit curriculum where you are boxed in and made to teach what they tell you to teach. They have deprived teachers of their freedom and creativity which kinda fucks with the job satisfaction. Kids can be a nightmare as well but can be good fun if you can handle it in the right way

@Evelyna I admire your tenacity and persistence to keep on plugging away at it. Must have been hard moving to the Uk from another country to get set up here Yeh thanks for that it’s appreciated. It’s putting one foot in front of the other. I’m just jaded by it now so I need to rekindle the spark. This is what I hope this investment will do for me as to be able to focus on it full time without having to hold down a job as well will be huge. To have 100% dedication into it Then if it doesn’t work out after a year of that then it’ll be time to move on. Chatted with my neighbour the other day and she said just don’t move those goal posts after you make a decision

@Javfly33 at the moment I’m in business development but I do have experience into project management. Normally you might be working on a project/programme and you need to properly coordinate to ensure it is a success. This is why it often involves a lot of meetings as you are discussing with teams eg sales, admin, marketing etc keeping it in budget and on time Often the best approach with these roles is not to over complicate it. It’s pretty standard stuff

@integration journey Okay I ask because LSD is more of an extrospective drug and mushrooms introspective I’m more introverted so I actually prefer LSD. Helps me connect with the more outward going side

@Buck Edwards Don’t worry about it. These tests don’t factor in creative intelligence or emotional intelligence

@integration journey Out of interest would you say you are more naturally introverted or extroverted?

@VictorB02 This is very blessed. I need to do this sometime

@Hardkill Stay in America and stand up for what’s right. America has the potential to be a massive force for good in the world unlike any other. In terms of modern culture, the US is dominant If moving you could move to a more progressive state? California? Countries go through this kind of turmoil. It’ll pass after karma takes hold. Even in Europe we are seeing a rise in right wing nationalism primarily due to migration

I have had a conscious insight that this is actually how reality works. Sure, go through life taking action as if it was in your control, but ultimately it isn’t You can’t connect the dots moving forward only by looking back. For me this is not a belief, it was a conscious shift in understanding about the universe. If you contemplate deeply all the things in your life that were not in control they are the most fundamental aspects that have shaped you This is where the premise of letting go comes from and just doing what is in accordance with your heart. As for anything else, it’s up to the universe. Suffering and karma that is also up to the universe pushing you to awaken

@Butters Yoof if you had any idea how hard I’ve worked you wouldn’t be saying that Anyway case in point is that having half a million from your parents does actually massively help. The majority of start ups fail because they run out of cash. This is how it is You have to get real sometimes. It is easier for some and not others. Does this stop me from doing shit? No else I wouldn’t be here. I am pretty senior at my place of work and have no problem with my financial position. I am also the director of my own company. Damn that’s a lot more than most people can say One thing I will say though is that working your ass off is not always worth it. When you get older priorities change and I am not as career orientated as I was. The corporate world is quite shallow actually and money does not fill the void. I’m not sure how old you are but as you get older you will realise this more Sure you need money but how much do you actually need to be happy? I can tell you not much actually. I’m just stuck with a commitment I made contrasted with the person I am today. My priorities have changed and they surely will for you too In rgds to whether you are in control over your own destiny. Yes and no. Mostly no. You are absolutely not in control of most of your life

Well I’m showing vulnerability by discussing about something I am not so great at. A lot of men over exaggerate how good they are with women. Having a gf doesn’t make you good at hitting on women successfully. Actually few guys are good at that I find that women don’t like voice/video messages

Anyone got any tips for getting better at text game?

@NoSelfSelf I said projecting because you’re assuming I’m low self esteem. You still have to learn the techniques with the text game. Im not hiding behind text game because I prefer to meet the people f2f . As mentioned at the beginning of the thread I second guess the text game. I really don’t need advice on inner game that is always a work in progress. I have other bullshit that needs figuring out with my career, business etc more practical advice I am after but I appreciate the comments. Obviously I just need to trial and error into this to understand the procedure. I do have some theories actually I’ll figure it out with time no problem.

@NoSelfSelf I can build more value in myself surely. That is a journey But I’m not that bad lol. You’re projecting a bit there. I’m just being vulnerable in this forum by mentioning all this. I perceive myself as high value. I don’t have self esteem issues. Remember this is over text not f2f. She might flake and that’s okay. I’m just understanding best approach. In hindsight I hadn’t secured an insta date and could have been more direct when I met her. Still might be game on. She is up for meeting Tbf For someone who has only just got back into the game and is actually very introverted so I have not socialised anywhere near what the average dude does I’m happy with my progress here. I’m changing

@Heaven I’ll give it another year once we have the investment. I need to stick to that and not move the goal posts Yes has taken a hell of a long time. The last 5 years of the journey has been the pre start up so this actual start up stage has only been going for a very short period relatively. It requires a lot of development and brand building. I also have a developer who completely fucked it up so I had to start again. that was painful That moment was actually the last time I felt like walking away. It’s like I’ll find an investment or that’s it. I feel like I’m here again though for different reasons

@Ramanujan To know, create and understand infinitely With infinite creation there is infinite knowing and understanding because of endlessly new manifestations

@fabger I’d much prefer to have a wing man with me. Better to head out to meet-ups and meet the people who don’t mind going out