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So they are rejected for exuding red flags that scare women away but actually abusive, narcissistic men attract women with no problems. So why do these red flags not show up with one set of men but show up clearly with another? It comes across to me as vilifying unattractive men, so women don't feel guilt for not being attracted to them. It's nothing to do with actual red flags or vibes. The deciding factor in whether or not a man does well romantically is not how much of an asshole he is or his vibe.

It's very clear from everything I have seen and experienced that being a good man means absolutely nothing to women. If women care about the qualities they say do, they have a funny way of showing it.

@Emerald I have found a lot of value in your post on here and your youtube channel. However, you are not listening. There is a gap between how you explain attraction and what men are experiencing and your responses are becoming increasingly dismissive. You seem to assume the best of women and see every woman as some enlightened, intuitive, morally perfect person who can only make bad decisions when manipulated. What men are are saying, is even when we develop and become self aware, emotionally intelligent etc it doesn't change the fact that women actively choose the most attractive, narcissistic and sometimes abusive men while gaslighting regular men about what they are attracted to. If you spent one day as a man you would see how demoralizing this is. Every time a woman complains or has a problem it's because of something men are doing but when men share their experiences and struggles it's because they are thinking about things the wrong way. Do you not see how this is hypocrisy?

@Miguel1 Netherlands?

This. Nothing to with morality, kindness, emotional intelligence etc The gaslighting is hard to take seriously. Men have eyes and share experiences, we can see clearly a vast gap between what women say and how they act.

I share the experience. The more narcissistic and destructive you present as a man the more women seem to like you. Also, there is a vast gap between what women say they are attracted to and who they choose. The funny thing about all this toxic masculinity talk is that actually toxic men have zero issues attracting women, while regular guys are gaslighted into thinking there is something wrong with them. Maybe there is something wrong with women, maybe women are the ones that need to change, their preferences across demographics don't seem to be helping them.

I agree. The most positive experiences I have had with women, have come when they have showed initiative and active interest. Even then, the juice is not worth the squeeze. Always feels like your one word or step from doing something wrong but you get no communication from supposedly the better communicators.

Ideally, I would like to meet my other half and get married. This is what I daydream about. However, I never got to have my wild phase and sow my wild oats, so that would be nice. To be desired SEXUALLY by many women.

Put yourself first unapologetically. Detach your self image from the opinion of others. That's basically it.

Fun fact. I attended the same high school as Assad's wife in London. Not at the same time but she would have been there at the same time as my much older cousins.

What I have noticed in myself is that I have a very strong reaction to any perceived self righteousness and moral superiority in others.

At the bolded. Women's biggest complaint across social media is the guys they DO find attractive don't seem to see them as people, don't offer commitment or get to know them. Women openly acknowledge that the men they find most attractive, are indifferent to them. So how true is this really? I have never observed in my personal experience or anecdotally, that genuinely getting to know a woman or enjoying her company leads to attraction. It seems to me that attraction comes first for men and women but women want to push a narrative that their attraction is more complicated and based on the whole person when in reality, raw physical attraction is just as important to women. The problem is that few men who trigger real raw attraction in women have no incentive to play the role women want because they have so many options. Basically seeing women as people, getting to know them is healthy and good but it will not make you more attractive, actually it can lead to the nice guy entitlement that women complain so much about.

I think social media has decreased the mystique of beautiful women

Women are not worth the effort

Women want to feel that the rich, attractive, globe trotting man of their dreams is their soul mate because they simply are that special. The so called female intuition stops working in these scenario's and is suppressed to feed the feminine ego.

I don't think we are meant to be perfectly compatible with our partners, there are trade offs in every partnership.

Suicide is a solution.

What I have learned is that nobody really knows anything and everyone is making it all up as they go, according to personal biases and desires, some innate and some conditioned.

I think it's reductive to say men's loneliness is strictly tied to getting laid. Actually my friends who have had the most sex, with the most women have struggled a lot with depression and mental health. Many famous who have slept with thousands of women don't necessarily feel good about it although I would like to be in their shoes.

You have to be attractive already for mystery to do it's magic. Mysteriousness in itself won't attract attention.

Men and Women are lonely for different reasons, why is it a competition.

Commit a crime and watch them flock. Sad but true. My criminal friends are always involved with a woman, the women come to them.

Red Pillers like most men talk a lot but will fold if a pretty woman gives them some attention, single woman or not. Most men don't have the options or clarity to have such specific requirements.

I can't post it. It's literally files of explicit clips of this one politician having sex with 400+ women being shared around the internet. It's made it's way to mainstream news, who knows maybe a documentary will be made. Google the name Baltasar Ebang Engonga.

Are we allowed to share that kind of content here?