Spiritual Warrior

I'm sure you have more skills than you think. However, almost all of my jobs were offered to me through friend or family or just walking into a business and getting lucky, (they were short-staffed and desperate for help.) Don't stress too much about the resume, you can fill most of the resume with a "career objective" if you want, in which you write in your vision for your career trajectory, I can tell you like to write. Then at the bottom, put your education history, some skills that you have, and any work experience that you've had. If you don't have work experience, its fine. You are selling yourself as is. If an employer sees potential in you, they will hire you, don't sell yourself short, you are valuable.

How would you know beforehand though? What types of feelings do you have for the woman before sex if you truly like her for her and not just because your horny?

Ayyyyy good shit dude! You killed it. Very confident, smooth approach. Inspiring!

Life purpose should be priority number one in my opinion. I don't understand why you can't fit both into your life though... there are 24 hours in the day and you aren't going to be working all day every day. Is she asking for more attention than you feel comfortable giving to her based on your current life purpose goals?

@Sabth Stop blaming others and take 100% responsibility for your life, thats the only way to get out of your situation. The future is bright, but you need to grab the bull by the horns and stop using your parents as a scapegoat.

Stage green:

This is your life purpose statement 👏

I'm scared of love

Stage Red: Your not the real hero, I'm the real hero.

Lol okay, I'll try the meme, I'll have fun with that.

A girl wouldn't be hanging out with you for 2 hours if she wasn't interested. It is our job within those two hours to get her to invest, display high value, plan a future with her, etc.

Yeah thats spot on, hes got a point, but the main point is that its not a big deal that 2 girls didn't text me back. I gather lessons learned and continue grinding, thats all I can do.

Yeah thats good advice, layers. And each experience that I have will add another layer, then another layer, then another... until I'm the king.

Transcending the Spiral - Journal Entry #15 - Thur Nov 2nd '23 : How would a stage yellow character act in Pickup? How would a stage yellow person act when hitting on women? He would put his own insecurities to the side and focus on the task at hand, he would act with integrity and nobility (blue) he wouldn't let a girl be rude to him or ridicule him (red), he feels icy and confident and dresses nicely (orange) he is filled with love in his heart, ready to surrender if he can (green) He understands the male-female dynamic and how it works on a systemic level. He understand that there are reasons that attractive people are difficult to find. There are reasons that attractive women don't like to walk down the street alone. There are reasons that guys are frustrated and struggle with attracting women. There are reasons that women will not fall for the nice guy. There are reasons why women find bad boys so alluring. This is stage yellow, understanding the dynamics on a far reaching level, not just for your own agenda. (Yellow)

Hmmm... Okay that's an interesting perspective, I get where your coming from now. I would say that I didn't get either of them to invest, I was just entertainment for them for the night. Yeah I actually think you're right ... That makes me feel crappy, like I'm a toy being used... Of course I am using every other girl that I hit on as a toy as well.... I don't want that one particular girl... I mean I do... But it's just for the experience... To put another notch on my belt.. so I guess we're both using each other.. that's how this works.

This is such a negative way of framing the situation. It is uninspiring. Why do you think like this? Wouldn't you rather inspire people by giving actual advice or encouragement?

Start working on yourself, use her essence as motivation to be a better man. Get to a point where you're so fucking sick that she doesn't need you to change religions. Why is she trying to change you anyway? To become that guy, you have to meet new girls, become more mature, improve your looks, improve your physique, improve your relationship to your mother, improve your relationship to God, improve anything and everything that you can. Aim high, very fucking high. This work is beyond just one girl, but use her as motivation at least to start.

And I think of you growing old and it breaks my heart.

Lets focus on the first three points for now: 1. Get her to qualify herself: Girl one: Completed. She approached me directly through one of her friends on the dance floor. I did not show immediate interest and continued dancing around. Her friend approaches me again and again, making eye contact with me. Eventually I walk up to girl one and dance in front of her for 10 seconds, then put my hand out, she grabs my hand and we dance for 30 minutes straight. She is hooked. Girl two: Completed: She started talking about the job that she hates, then she starts talking about the pottery that she makes and shows me her Pottery Instagram page. I am allowing her to qualify herself. As a matter of fact, I would not have asked her for her number if she was unable to qualify herself as an interesting person. 2. Set the premise for future plans Girl one: Failed. No future plan talk. Girl two: Failed. No future plan talk. (Next time a girl says that shes into pottery or the arts, I'm going to say we should go to this pottery place near my work and make some artwork together.) 3. Get you name and # in her phone Girl one: Completed: I put my number in her phone with my name on it. Girl two: Failed: I took down her number into my phone. I didn't feel comfortable enough with her to grab her phone and put my phone number in it. Thank you @Raze , this was helpful.

Could it be possible that you are just afraid of either loving someone fully or allowing yourself to be loved fully? That is why you are not going after the goal / girl? If you engage in pickup with integrity, then you won't be crossdressing, you will become your authentic self. I'm not trying to please a random person, I am in love with the feminine and want to explore this field.

Transcending the Spiral - Journal Entry #14 - Thur Nov 2nd '23 : Stage Yellow Trigger Attempt I will be playing in a basketball game tonight and I am going to use this opportunity to trigger stage yellow. A stage yellow basketball player will be able to take his own success completely out of the equation and will be able to focus on the systemic success of the entire team.

Principle 1: Take 100% Responsibility for your life Write down some things that I blame other people for: I had a difficult childhood. It's my family's fault My friends aren't very ambitious, so neither am I. It's their fault. up until now, I have blamed women for my lack of success with them. I blame them for being difficult to talk to, for not giving me a chance, for only wanting the hottest guy in the bar. I blame D***** and Y***** and I*** for me not being happy right now at the dance studio Now, let's flip this around. How would I think about these situations if I were to take full responsibility for them. 1. Instead of blaming my family for my difficulties, I could focus on and be grateful for the value that they have added to my life. I take 100% responsibility for my life because I have 100% control over what I do about it. 2. Instead of blaming my friends for their lack of ambition, I can take full responsibility for my own ambition and motivation in life. I am a warrior, a warrior that is geared and ready to take down any demon that dares cross my path. 3. Instead of blaming women for my lack of success with them, focus on what you can do right now, right fucking now to improve. Focus on talking with them more, making them feel more comfortable. If you are resenting them, feel into the resentment, and then later ask yourself why the resentment. 4. Instead of blaming the workers at the dance studio for my unhappiness, I could take my own unhappiness into my own hands. How could I do that? If I am feeling useless because I don't have any lessons to teach, I could start writing down what I am going to teach in my next lesson. I could have a plan when I go into the dance studio, "this is what I am going to work on today because I want to accomplish or achieve x, y, and z."

When I'm angry, I direct my anger towards God I find this to be the perfect outlet for my anger. Instead of directing my anger towards another person, I direct it towards the all powerful. I blame him for the situation that I'm in, and I blame her for making the world this way and not another way. I don't hold back because I don't mind teeing off on God, I know that he can take it. If I am angry at another human, I always hold back, I am unable to let my ego rip into them because deep down I know that they are doing the best that they can.. God is also doing the best that she can, but I don't think his feelings will get hurt if I yell at her... or maybe they do... Anyways, I think that this is the perfect outlet for my anger. I believe that every tribulation and difficult time that I go through, God is putting this obstacle in front of me so that I can either successfully jump over it... or so that I can trip and fall flat on my face. I try to learn a lesson from every fall, but it can be frustrating when it feels like I've wiped out on the past seven hurdles. God, its noting personal, I still love you.

@gettoefl Hahah I love it. I've been wanting to do something like that as well. There's something about letting out physical aggression that is a great release for frustration and anger.

Yeah that's a great point. I wasn't being playful or funny at all in the text, it was all logical, mechanical, boring, like a robot asking a girl to hang out with him.