Spiritual Warrior

@CARDOZZO gracias

I'm interested in the things that you're talking about but I couldn't scroll back far enough to find the book title of this "Zan" guy, would you mind posting the book title again please?

How do I know if I like a girl or if I just want to have sex with her? Are they essentially the same thing, or can you have one without the other?

Exploring the Masculine Entry #2 The feminine wants the masculine to challenge her, not some guy that dotes on her and agrees with everything that she says, she wants him to be authentically himself. The feminine wants the masculine to go for what he wants, with confidence and integrity and honesty and nobility, no fake shit. Whenever you are about to text a girl something or say something to a girl, ask yourself, "do I actually want to say this?"

Alright, in the past two weeks, I've gotten two phone numbers. The first girl, I danced and talked with all night, probably for 3 hours total, got her number, texted her a couple of days later and invited her to a mutual friends party, no response. Second girl, I walked up to a cute girl at a bar and talked to her for 10-15 minutes. I felt like I killed it, had her laughing. A couple of days later, I ask her out on a date, no response. I'm determine to trudge on so I guess it doesn't matter, but is this a common occurrence?

@Migue Lonas I appreciate that man, I think there's a lot that I need to work on and Im sure you could help me out, just not sure where to start.. maybe I'll send you a message when I'm ready to talk about it.

@28 cm unbuffed lol dude everything you are expressing in this thread through your words and demeanor demonstrates a cry for help and we are trying to help you. People don't talk the way you're talking if they aren't desperate. I'm trying so hard to get through to you because I think you have way more potential with women than you realize. But I will stop now, you are capable of handling this on your own.

@28 cm unbuffed alright I just want to say one more thing because I just can't help myself. You are not frustrated and angry at women, you are frustrated and angry that you are unable to attract women and get laid .. I am the same .. I have never had sex.. I am also frustrated and ashamed of the situation that I am in. The difference between you and me is that I am trying to solve this problem head on.. you are running from it.. and you can run as long as you want.. but you will get tired.

Lmao nice dude! I never thought something like this could work. Props to you for going for it and succeeding, I'm sure you give her much joy and excitement as well.

@28 cm unbuffed Damn bro... I really thought I'd get through to you at least on some level... but alright then... I appreciate the honesty.

Dude she wasn't afraid of you hunting her down... She was nervous around you because she was attracted to you... in this sense men and women are the exact same.. we both get anxious when we like someone or feel attracted. Women can be very socially awkward around guys .. I find this cute and endearing about them ... You as the man in this situation have to take on the responsibility of making her feel comfortable and at ease with you.

I'd like to say one more thing because I really do relate and I want to help you. I'm sorry if it seems like I'm on this high horse, Im not... I am still recovering from resentment of women because of my many past rejections, how difficult they are to figure out, how I can't act authentically around them, etc.... I'm not better than you on this front... And I think we're all being a bit too harsh. The thing that I think we are all trying to get across to you is that you are not going to deal with this horniness problem and getting laid while simultaneously hating women... You can't skirt around this... Until you can learn to love women... You will not got laid... You have to deal with this reality.. I think you're too frustrated right now to make true changes to this so... Just channel your frustration and anger and resentment of women towards something that is constructive... Work on your physique, work on your enlightenment work, work on your relationships with your mom and dad and close friends, work on everything, absolutely body everything in life on a personal level.. this will make you feel good... eventually when you are ready.. hopefully you can open yourself up to women and see the beauty within. When you are ready, there are some really good outlets to get into in order to expose yourself to more women: Yoga class: This one is awesome, you will see how in touch women are with their health and bodies and you will start to respect them for that. You will learn to appreciate their bodies as a work of art.. and yoga makes your body and mind feel amazing Dance class: Great outlet, you will dance with girls left and right, you will learn how to lead, how to have a strong frame.. and most importantly, you will start to love making them smile.. Theres nothing better than doing a dance move with a woman and then looking down at her face and she's smiling from cheek to cheek... it warms your heart. This will also get you more in touch with your sexual and sensual side, not sure if you need work on this, but I know I certainly do. Toastmasters club: This is a new one that I am going to try. I just learned that I cannot act authentically when a woman's gaze is on me.. I am too concerned with how I am being perceived by her. Plenty of women go to toastmasters. If I can go up in front of several women and give a 5 minute speech, then I think thats a good start. Take a job in a restaurant or as a barista: Lots of women work in places like this. The objective is to expose yourself to them.. and you will learn that they are wonderful creatures. Good luck to you my man, I know this road is difficult.. more guys are struggling with this than you know... You are just brave enough to admit it and I commend you for that... just keep trudging along and you'll get to where you want to be

Lol it's not bullshit at all, this really happened to me and I empathize with your frustration because I've been where you are. There's a lot of great advice in here, but I don't think you're looking for advice, you're just looking to complain and vent. Although venting feels good, it does not help to solve your problems. You will need to take full responsibility for your situation if you are going to make a significant change.. not blaming women.. not blaming society.. not blaming your parents.. not blaming us.. this is your life.. start taking ownership of it... best of luck to you.

@meta_male ayyyy, thank you my man

Okay, so I have come from the exact same place that you are at right now. I was sexually attracted to women but also hated them at the same time. It was such a mind fuck. What I learned is that I didn't hate the essence of women, I just hated the fact that I was unable to attract them and get laid. This made me very frustrated (it still does) and I took it out on them. What do I do with this information? I can wallow and continue to hate women or... I can do something about it.. I decided to do something about it. I deliberately took jobs in which I was in contact with women constantly (host at a restaurant & dance instructor) over the next few months, I absolutely fell in love with the feminine essence. I love how they can be so fiery and emotional, love how they are able to be empathetic and genuinely care about me in a way unlike men, I love how they are able to surrender to a masculine man's presence and allow him to lead ( this was learned through dance), I love how vibrant and lively they are in meetings (laughing and smiling very easily), they are able to pick up on emotional signals unlike that of a man (if I am sad about something, a girl will pick up on it immediately), I love how they try to seduce me by using these subtle signals that are so hard to pick up on but are meant to penetrate my mind, I love when a girl cracks a cute little smile despite trying to hide it, I love how women are sexy without even trying, I am in love with their presence, I just want to make them smile. I urge you to expose yourself more to these wonderful creatures, you will find out a lot about them and about yourself... And you may even fall in love. God has not created men and women to merely get together and reproduce, he has created us to fall in love with each other. Open yourself up to them.

It's so easy to say this when you're on the outside looking in

Thank you @Lila9 I couldn't help but smile while reading this and I think you're right on all accounts. I appreciate you

This post was a wake up call for me as I am broke af and have a spending problem. Going to start tackling it today. Thank you for sharing @Thought Art

This game is hard brother, try to stay hopeful. Each rejection is a learning experience.

I want to fall in love. What is love? Where does it come from? Is it an emotion? What is an emotion? Are they colorful? Am I too dejected to feel anything that surpasses a light brush on the arm? Can i continue to behave like this and reach my goals? I cant help but feel insane I am shameful I am hated I am loved I am confident I am all that there is I can see the white snow crawling into my window What is snow but an icicle with arms An icicle with arms? Yes. What can it all mean? Where can I stand up on my own two feet Is it all going to change? Probably not. Probably Yes. My thoughts are increasing I can handle the tempo Its heating up now My thoughts increase with each stroke of luck My vision is blurry, no where to go My whole life is at stake Why cant I go over this some more? I am seen I am heard Why can't I get laid? Because Im weak and pathetic Nope Change the subject Let the subject be thrown in the trash I love my cat These are thoughts Thoughts have a voice A voice inherent to judgement? No. There will be no judgement today You are free to go But why master? Have I betrayed yee? What do you mean slave? You are free. Go ahead and live freely. But I don't want to be free Freedom is taxing And I want to suck the juicy nectars Maybe they did help her survive I want to thrive and succeed Empowering / Joy / Love / Knowledge / Freedom These are the emotions and thoughts that you want. Right here. I want to add to their experience really badly I am irresponsible I am responsible I can handle anything life throws at me Positive affrimatinos What are they though? Are they really that important? Im sick of thinking. Can I do something else? No. I will whip you with my thoguht stick until you bleed I want to focus on something extraterrestrial I want to quit every job and live in a cave I want to escape because I am afraid that I will be castrated for being a pervert I am a pervert I am not a pervert This is an ugly word Why cant I say pervert? Its just a word Just like any other word Why does it hurt me soul soooooo.... Im really the sadboy type Not for every body What are the other archetypes? What are the archetypes of women? Women: Im obssessed with you. Truly. You are so sexy to me. The way you can manipulate my mind. Seduce me with your eyes. Why cant you look me in the eyes? Why are you scared? Scared of falling in love? I'll dive in head first. I've gone way deeper than you've gone. This is green. This is blue. This is everything. I go deeper. Deeper inside your pussy.. and deeper inside your mind. My taste is contagious. I'm sexy as fuck. And I'm fun. You can't get enough. I am your slave. Thats what I want in the bedroom. I want her to tell me that there isnt anyhing left to say. My name is gold. I don't want him to die. I have to call my mans. I'm going to call him tomorrow. I don't want to be alone with anybody. Its weird. And I don't feel normal. This post will get deleted. My mind never stops. IT wont stop . Never. Stop with the distractions. Thank you itsadistraction.

Healthy stage red is equivalent to the bad boy archetype that women crave in a man.

Another banger! Thank you! Going on a run right now wearing pink and no phone, no music (red & purple) Just do it. You're a man, you're a warrior, you can handle anything. PASSION. DESIRE.

I love this! Thank you for sharing! I've neglected to put attention on purple and beige in my work, those posts were especially helpful to me. I completely agree with you, its more important to integrate all of the lower stages of the spiral than to climb as high as you can. In this way, you're able to sip on all of the different flavors of life and become a more integrated being.

Dear all women that hate pickup, I know pickup may seem slimy and gross to all of you, but we are actually doing this so that we can become a strong and compassionate partner for you one day. We are doing this in order to better understand how to lead, to understand what it is that women want, to understand what turns you on, to understand how to communicate with you. Pickup is a necessary part of a man's evolution if he is to truly understand the feminine. The only way that we know how to do this is to hit on lots of girls... And to try to have sex with them. Attempting to have sex with a girl puts your attention solely on the girl and what she wants, what does she need in order for her to feel comfortable enough with me. We both want to experience something next level, something deep and emotional or fun and playful... we both want sex... All I truly want is to love someone fully and for her to love me fully, that is literally it. But in order to get there, I have to go through the painful fun of hitting on random girls and consensually get them into bed with me... And theres nothing wrong with that. This is the deeper dynamic going on in pickup... We are trying to be better men for you ladies... And let me tell you pickup is far from easy. We go through the pain of this work because we love you.

Lmao I don't know what to make of this... Really though, if you want a boyfriend, get together with your girl friends, dress up real nice, and go to a bar(s). You will get hit on, take your pick.