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Where and how can you do that when you don't have any trusting people around to guide you in this? I have a few trusting friends but they are not near me, I've been wondering how to do this nevertheless. Me too

@Avi thanks for the little stories. But I'm confused, why can't you use sex and physical intimacy as a mean to solve personal problems?

I'm jealous. The only one waiting in my bed is my pillow.

Haha I like this one. I have had this thought before but not in this context. And yes that is selfish. Nothing wrong with it until it hurts someone/thing else no? Now the baby, what do you think about that? The baby grows up and realises it never wanted to be alive in the first place.

That's not what I am adressing here. The question is not wether or not we should maintain the human species, the question is: is it selfish to bring a baby to life? I believe so yes; its my personal opinion. You wouldn't even know what you're missing out on because it's just emptiness.

Life I guess. Random evolution. I don't know, I think it's a soup of feel good hormones that make us believe it's magic. And no, they don't. But as they grow up they will.

For me it was not working on my life purpose, and doing other trivial things that don't matter like organising and cleaning everything, going out with people to clubs I don't even like, Internet browsing etc etc. This is a great reminder, thanks!

Nice this is going to take me a while I feel. And yes i should be in bed too ..It's almost 2am but at least my mind was off for a while, thanks peeps <3

The cinema screen?

What popi said Absence of unhappiness is happiness

Haha yes indeed! I'm jealous Im learning that now ..

Damn, you'd need reincarnation for that then

Yes I know Ill go sleep, I'm not in a good place in my mind right now

@Matthew LamotOK ill check it out, thanks buddy!

How do you do that? Is it like just "being awareness"?

@popi that really helps ! Thank you!

Yes please

@popi so the theory is whatever you didn't get as a child, you will look in a partner. But how does one take the thoughts of this partner away? Because that's essentially what I'm trying to do.. I tried just sitting with the thoughts but I'd end up sitting for hours with them and procrastinate so much and it angers me

I see... that's interesting. Where can I learn more about this?

Don't worry I appreciate the help Matthew

I'm in my twenties. It was very deep connection with him. And it ended well. But I'm in a vulnerable moment in life and craving for this deep connection again, that no one else can fill. My relationship with my dad is okay.. I don't look up to him as an example in my life though.

This is true Not so true, but tonight I'm in a highly neurotic state of mind, I don't have much time to look at deep insights right now because I have a deadline so I'm just looking for a quick fix that lasts until the deadline. But you're right, it doesn't go to the core of the problem, I'll check the you tubes when I have more time, thanks for pointing the direction

@Matthew Lamot your answer is very vague again. How does it help knowing I'm an illusion? Because I do understand it on some level (that everything is one, like the cinema screen) but knowing this doesn't take the addictive thoughts away..