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I remember there being a post about this exact topic and issue of a guy being sexually traumatized after sleeping with a transwoman unknowingly and everyone shitting on him for it. It is an issue of informed consent and communication. It is impossible to have a healthy and ethical relationship without trust. You basically asked if she's "normal" and she got upset. What does that say? Probably that she isn't "normal" and that she has a complex over it. I do think that if this girl was trans that she should've told you. I don't think you did anything wrong. If she seemed to be trans to you then it was going to come up sooner or later. Better sooner IMO.

The book "Models" by Mark Manson has a section on how to develop a fashion style in the context of dating. Very basic but effective principles. In order of importance: Wear clothes that fit Wear clothes that match Dress to your personality Wearing clothes that fit is the most fundamental step. Well fitted clothes alone make a massive difference, so if you take anything away make it it this. Guys tend to prefer practical clothing with no eye for aesthetics and often end up wearing clothes that are slightly too big. It can be uncomfortable to wear trousers that are an exact fit if you are not used to it. My trick is to buy high quality pants that have an elastic fabric. My test is if you can squat without the pants obstructing you. Also, avoid cheap jeans, like from H&M and that tier of clothing stores. Cheap jeans are often very uncomfortable so it is better to invest in a good pair you can use for many years and which feel good to wear. Another pyramid for choosing individual articles of clothing (in order of importance). Fit Color Texture Color should match your other clothes as well as your skin/hair color. Texture is like the cream on top after a well fitted shirt that matches your other clothes. Example of texture:

It is just added flexibility. Of course there are people who abuse it, but they are more likely to be let go off.

The guys hypothesis makes no sense. Why would a group that depend on each other for survival start killing each other?

Seems like another wave of stage green type protests, similar to Occupy Wallstreet. Doubtful that'll achieve much.

https://uniavisen.dk/en/university-of-copenhagen-to-slash-admissions-numbers-by-789-places-annually/ There has been a general trend with our recent government to cut spending on education. Our grant system (SU) has been recently reduced from 6 years to 5 and there has been and various masters degrees have been reduced from lasting 2 years to 1. Thoughts? I know these standards, even when reduced like they have, are borderline utopian to many of you in other parts of the world but it is still frustrating to see this "generational theft". I can't help but feel like the current government is selling out the youth to an aging population.

I believe that putting on weight is what makes a person look the most aged. Like a "middle aged mom" is typically a bit round and squat looking as opposed to slender and fit. Staying healthy and fit and cultivating long-term relationships might be the best strategy for dealing with aging as far as I can tell.

I'm unironically grateful that I don't use Tik-tok.

I've been approached a couple of times in the past and in every instance I got confused and thought they where trying to solicit donations to an animal rights group or something like that. Only in hindsight did I realize they where flirting with me. Either way, just do the normal thing of being cordial and matter of fact when rejecting someone. Being a bitch is pointless. That or be so dense that the interaction itself doesn't go anywhere.

I just kind of wallow in it and then it goes away on its own after a while I guess. I rarely think about others in that way though. I do get what you mean because I often do this too, thinking "I think I could've said that better" but nowhere near to the same extent I think. I figured that I'm just a kind of an awkward person. That is normal when you are young. Perhaps the autism makes that feeling more intense due to rumination. When people talk about their internal states like "knowing themselves" the conversation is no longer in the realm of technical logic. It is inherently emotional and people who talk like this are just expressing a feeling more or less. There is no coherent logic to suss out, especially since different words mean different things to people. I wouldn't worry too much of what all this means if you find it more confusing than helpful. Have you considered journaling your thoughts whenever you are in this "mind spiral" moods? Getting it out on paper takes a bit of the wind out of the intensity of these emotions.

In my experience, repetition alone isn't sufficient to form a habit if it is something that is hard to do. It'll become a habit if there is a pressure present that necessitates it. For example most who have a habit of waking up early do so because of work or school. You need a good reason to do hard things in my experience.

It may not be medically accurate, but I do consider autism a sort of social disability. It is your genetic lot in life to struggle more with socialization. It is perfectly normal for autistic people. The core issue for a lot of the mental suffering of autistic people, from my experience of dealing with them, is rigid and circular thinking. Having a very hard time to let go. Kind of like being on a train with no brakes. It just keeps going and you can't steer it because it is a train. I have an autistic relative who gets stressed out over the slightest breadcrumb and can spend an entire day and a half thinking about how to decorate a room. From an outside perspective, it looks obsessive to a crippling degree. Counseling is something that has been a huge boon for the happiness of an other autistic friend of mine. There is a lot of advice you could give for improving confidence but I think that an autistic person would benefit a lot from having a safe person to bounce their thoughts off as a start. The counselor can help challenge some of the rigid thinking and re-frame things to be less severe in your mind in a gentle manner.

If by cult you mean religion then Islam is actually the second biggest religion in the world after Christianity. Religions are going to have a lot of elements of cults in them and there a lot of cults that sprout from any given religion, but religion isn't inherently a cult by definition. The biggest consequence of leaving your religion in a modern society is being ostracized. Not a fan of religion myself but I am speaking of a place of privilege relative to where in the world I live in. A lot of religion is centered in places that are hard to survive in, like the middle-east. Those flaws are arguably features in the sense that a religions primary function is to act as a social coherent. It is people who give power to religion because they believe in it. You are demonizing people for a difference in faith essentially, which is arguably itself pretty cult-like and zealous.

I believe a strong conviction is important for an activity to meaningfully become a habit. You have to intensely believe that something is important enough to do everyday. Otherwise, why do it? The thing with working out and eating healthy is that they are slightly antithetical to human nature. The body wants to conserve energy and eat the tastiest food. We have to be disciplined to be healthy whereas in the past it wasn't necessary. Our current environment is toxic in that sense.

While I don't like Tik-tok and I do think it is damaging to young people in particular, I don't want to see it banned in principle because people should have the freedom to decide themselves how they engage with social media. The government shouldn't just take that away though I get it is essentially just about the data. The US state is like a small child jealously clutching a cookie jar and pouting when the other kids try to take some of his cookies going "no, only I can spy on my civilians".

https://www.thefp.com/p/im-28-and-im-scheduled-to-die Terminal illness is one thing but this just seems like state mandated giving up. She is physically healthy and young. Thoughts?

Humans and primates (chimps, gorillas, etc.) are closely related but ultimately different in my opinion. Humans are part of their own genus. It is just that our species of human is the only surviving species at the moment. Humans, or homo sapiens, are extremely competitive and our complex social system and ability to create shared fictional myths (a social matrix) gives us the advantage over other animals. Our ability to create culture allows for cooperation across millions of individuals via shared identity based on fictional qualities, like nationality and institutions. Most social animals can only cooperate with other animals they personally are familiar with, I.E. their tribe/family. This is what makes humans unique. People always say that chimps are our closest cousin which I find to be an erroneous statement. Yes, they are our closest living relative genetically but only because we killed every other species that would compete with us, including other species of human. Cave lions and wolves used to be everywhere but where eradicated wherever humans went, the former being driven to complete extinction, because the species are competitors with humans, specifically for territory and prey/livestock. Neanderthals are a great example of another species that was most likely in my opinion driven to extinction by humans because of the conflicting interest. Humans won due to superior numbers and strategy as a social species despite being individually weaker than a neanderthal human. Point is, humans are extremely competitive and tend to kill their competition historically speaking. The fact that of all the species considered "primates", humans are the only generalist species. Arguably, the reason chimps have continued to survive despite of humans is because of how unlike us they are, I.E. a lack of conflicting interests. Everything that is like us, like neanderthals, where killed because "there can only be one" in our savage brains (and we rule the world as a result). I'm not rejecting the notion that humans are not "lowly animals" by saying that we are not apes, just that we are not apes specifically.

The real worry for me is what Blackpill will cost you in the long-term?

These self-defeating ideologies are like mind-viruses. Someone at some point convinced themselves of their own inherent inadequacy and then started spreading that belief with susceptible people. "Misery loves company". Good example of how social media can be damaging to young people. Also of how certain beliefs don't serve you. It is useless to think of yourself as helpless when you are young and able despite your looks. You can very much change your belief around attraction if you want to. The problem is the emotional intensity attached to the generalization that is Blackpill. If you can deconstruct your blackpill ideology and starting building a case for its antithesis you will theoretically start believing the opposite.

I think quitting social media would be an improvement to most people's life. Imagine how much time you would save.

This reminds me of the continuous de-funding of welfare programs here in Denmark. I'm sure there are more examples of such in West-Europe.

The market is so big that even if Tik-tok was banned wholesale, Facebook or some other company would fill in that gaping void with their version of Tik-tok. But it would be easier just to buy it.

I think you are mistaking Dutch with Danes lol. The Dutch where never vikings. I think we have a perception problem relative to comparing mental issues in the past with the present because we are much better at reporting and recording things like a being mentally ill. Mental health issues are increasing but does that mean that more people are actually having problems or is the problem merely better reported?

Not saying that humans are not closely related to chimps and company, just that we are our own thing. People keep saying how much we are alike chimps when what helps chimps and company survive is how different they are from us.

Polyamory has pros and cons but it is no mystery why most don't practice it. Less STD proof than monogamy It is more work and complicated Smaller dating pool of poly people Jealousy It is taboo currently