David der Adler

Your Ego is the one who is suffering. (Keep in mind the Ego is no entity it is just like a program) For example, you have a week where everything goes right. Girls like you. Your coworkers are friendly to you and so on. Simply put you get a lot of validation from outside. If that happens your Ego identifies with the outside validation. That is good as long as the outside validates you. If you get negative impressions the next week your Ego will be destroyed and you feel "unworthy". Why? Because your happiness and confidence and so on are dependent on the outside. You feel shit because you dont reach your own expectation for yourself you constructed a week ago. So you have to disconnect from the outside and recognize that you are complete from within. Do you see how you give your power away when you try to identify with validation FROM THE OUTSIDE? Solution Every time you get positive outcomes in real life. Dont identify with it. Dont let your Ego think: yes baby I am so cool or The girl likes me I am soooo sexy. Just have a blank mind (like in meditation) when things like that happen. Dont think you are better than anyone if you have a "good day" in whatever manner. Dont identify with impressions outside of yourself. If you do that you will be independent of your surroundings. If you dont do that you will be dependent on your surroundings. Dont let the outside evaluate your worth!!!!!! Positive or Negative. It will be hard to get used to living like that. There will be a lot of Ego Backlash. Your Ego will literally try to get you under its control. But under its control suffering happens. So disidentify and identify with the present moment. With the observer. With that what is unchangeable. Incorporate meditation so you get used to having a blank mind. And try to incorporate the disidentifying in real life. This will be hard because the more you are not dependent on the outside, the more girls and people will respect you because you act out of self-love. And that brings more things your Ego can identify with. And lastly, just observe yourself when you do that and get your own conclusions.

@integral Establish boundaries. If she does not respect your boundaries. Tell her that in a nice way. If she still doesn't respect your boundaries. Kick her out.

Hi, Thank God I found this thread because most of the time you only find people who overhype this or are clearly biased because they can't get their hands off themselves. So I think confidence will be enhanced through SR because you resist your reptilian brain. And the more you can trust yourself not to fall for pleasure and temptation you begin to trust yourself = confidence. I don't say this because I have lots of experience in SR, but this is just true overall in every aspect of life. And of course, pleasure is part of life but I think you should be able to choose those consciously and not with your reptilian brain. So I started SR and I am currently on Day 7. To get this cool thread going I will share my experience if I am at Day 90 or something. Because trying out for yourself is truly the only way to find out.