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@Danioover9000 You are right, the content and details are what make the behaviour stick. For instance, smokers are addicted to the nicotine, mainly. However, it's not just the nicotine. Nicotine is part of the larger context of being a smoker, which they are addicted to, including the specific internal images they see during smoking, beliefs about smoking (smoking makes me look cool or smoking helps me deal with stress), the specific feelings it creates, and so on ... And all of this sums up and creates the overarching context in their direct experience. But your response got me to think about people who think more analytically than holistically or intuitively ( I am an ENFJ, so a lot of intuition there). They may not be able to see the larger context and go on to associate the positive feelings with specific elements instead the context, like I said in the post. This makes thing harder for them as they would first have to see the broader context and then break it down from there. Exactly. Perhaps, this model works best for the Holistic and Intuitive types to work with context, something I do daily. And this method is great for the Analytical types. Yeah, that's the seductive lure of materialism. Many of these people have replaced one belief system for another and are masterbating each other for their heroic achievement. Anyways, I appreciate your thoughtful answer. Also, what is your MBTI type?

Here is something I have observed directly: our minds get accustomed to (and even dependent on) contexts. Give it some time, and you can get used to any context. For example, someone who grew up in a chaotic or unstable home environment may become addicted to this particular context, which they can become aware of in their direct experience and change. On the surface, it may look like they are addicted to the drama and excitement. Here are some other examples to reinforce this concept: Someone who grew up in a highly competitive environment may seem addicted to the pressure and adrenaline of constantly striving for success, even at the expense of their health and well-being. But that's just a portion of the broader context, which is more elaborate and experiential. Someone who has experienced trauma or abuse may seem addicted to the rush of adrenaline that comes with danger or risky situations, even if it puts them in harm's way. But that's just a portion of the broader context, which is more elaborate and experiential. Someone who has always been in a position of authority or power may seem addicted to the control and influence they have over others, even if it leads to abusive or manipulative behaviors. But that's just a portion of the broader context, which is more elaborate and experiential. Someone who has always been surrounded by people who reinforce their beliefs and opinions may seem addicted to the validation and affirmation of their worldview, even if it is narrow-minded or exclusionary. But that's just a portion of the broader context, which is more elaborate and experiential. Someone who has always been in a position of privilege or advantage may seem addicted to the perks and benefits that come with their status, even if it blinds them to the struggles and injustices faced by others. But that's just a portion of the broader context, which is more elaborate and experiential. Here is the key insight: it's not the particular environment or feeling that we remember. Rather, we subconsciously remember the context and associate the positive feelings we are experiencing with that context. Why is this important? Because you can become aware of the context and realize that it is illusory, allowing you to be more present in the moment, which will bring you more joy because you will be closer to the Truth. You will also be able to drop your addictions and become more productive and flexible in your life. Let me explain this with the example of social media. When we are in the context of the social matrix through social media platforms, we feel comfortable, at home, and safe (granted that some people are instantly able to intuit the toxicity of such platforms, but remember that the majority of society is addicted to it). It feels as if you are where you belong, which gets us highly dependent on this context of being on social media. There are many factors contributing to the manifestation of this feeling. But the most pernicious one is the ability of the social media platforms to exploit our need for novelty. Jordan Peterson explains this point eloquently. Humans crave order, but too much of it can be mind-numbing, and too much chaos on the other hand can be paralyzing. So naturally, we want to be in the middle of these two. The structure of the social media platform provides the order, and the constant chaos or novelty - in the form of unlimited content - provides this feeling of being in the middle of order and chaos. You can argue from a neurophysiological perspective that if we do something that is good for survival, we get our dopamine hit, we remember the behavior we were doing as we were getting this dopamine hit, and this is how behaviors are formed. Which is not wrong. But this way of thinking is too simplistic and abstract because it is not something you can observe in your direct experience. Yes, you can use this information conceptually to understand and justify your behaviors, but you cannot directly observe it. As I mentioned earlier, our minds do not simply remember the action or behavior we engaged in when we experienced this heightened state. We become accustomed to, comfortable with, and eventually addicted to the context. So, when we decide to do other things like reading a book, the context changes. The context of reading a book has a different feel to it, generally less chaotic, stimulating, and calmer. Suddenly, you feel the need to change the context to one that is more familiar and comfortable. While you can read a book in different contexts, some more pleasing than others, they generally do not compete with the power of the social matrix (or watching porn, smoking weed, and even experiencing mystical states), which is substantially more addictive. Perhaps you are a bookworm who is more comfortable with reading books, but you get the idea. So, what can we do to improve? Simply become more mindful and start seeing the context of the major activity we spend most of our time in. From there, start noticing how each context feels, which ones are your favorite, which ones repel you or bore you. Finally, realize that all of these contexts are illusory. This way, you will start living more in the present moment. Eventually, you may also decide to drop the context of the present moment and go beyond, but that comes later. At first, all of this will be difficult because you are so accustomed to living with various contexts, and there are various internal and external incentives for you to live that way. But with practice and awareness, you will become better at it.

@Yimpa It is unbelievable

@Yimpa Yeah. It's way ahead of other usual communities But every now and then I see two people arguing over who is enlightened and who isn't. And that's an instant turn off. Like how can you be enlightened ... and argue about being enlightened ?!

@tuku747 100%. I see this place turning into a place where everyone is engaged in understanding and sharing. A community without any twisted forms of Love. I know this is a Utopian dream, but I see the potential.

@Israfil I hope you realign with your goals again soon!

@AndylizedAAY Be very patient. Try to communicate with her authentically, without being confrontational or defensive. All she needs from you is love. And you can give that to her by communicating to her and care about her. If you already communicate daily, communicate more, and more authentically. Share deeper stuff with her and encourage her to do the same. Build a trusting relationship with her. And of course, create boundaries to establish a safe space.

Thanks for the feedback! You are welcome.

So true and counter-intuitive

One aspect that could be added to make the concept of distinctions more robust and powerful is the idea of context . Distinctions are not absolute and can vary depending on the context in which they are made. For example, the distinction between hot and cold water may differ depending on the context of the temperature range being discussed. Therefore, when making distinctions, it is important to consider the context and the perspectives of others who may have different interpretations or experiences. A distinction that is relevant and meaningful in one context may not be as important or relevant in another context. For example, let's say you are learning about different types of fish. If you are studying fish for a biology class, the distinctions you make might focus on physical characteristics, such as the shape of the fish's body or the color of its scales. However, if you are studying fish for a cooking class, the distinctions you make might focus on taste and texture, such as whether the fish is oily or firm. Another example is the distinction between a predator and prey. In the context of a nature documentary, this distinction might be very important for understanding the interactions between different species. However, in the context of a petting zoo, this distinction might not matter as much because the animals are not in a natural setting. Therefore, when making distinctions, it is important to consider the context in which they are being made. Understanding the context allows us to make more meaningful and relevant distinctions and helps us to better understand and navigate the world around us. In order to make accurate and meaningful distinctions, we must consider the context in which the object, idea, or concept exists. For example, let's say we are trying to distinguish between two different species of plants. We might notice that one plant has leaves that are broader than the other, but without considering the context, we might draw an incorrect conclusion. Perhaps the plant with the broader leaves grows in a shady area, while the other plant grows in direct sunlight, which would explain the difference in leaf shape. By considering the context in which the plants grow, we can make a more accurate and meaningful distinction between the two species. Similarly, in the field of language learning, context is critical to making meaningful distinctions between words and phrases. For example, the word "set" has multiple meanings depending on the context in which it is used. Without understanding the context, we might confuse the meaning of "set" as a collection of items with "set" as a verb meaning to put in place or adjust. By understanding the context in which the word is used, we can make more precise distinctions and avoid confusion. In essence, the context in which an object or concept exists provides important information that informs the distinctions we make about it. Without considering context, our distinctions may be incomplete, inaccurate, or even misleading.

B seems like the obvious answer

@Squeekytoy It depends on the level of abstraction you're observing at. It will appear as a narrative if you are deeply immersed in the details of your personal experience, but it will appear as a pattern if you step back and view it more metaphysically. However, they are both incredibly loopy and circular. If you pay close attention to the narrative for an extended period, you will eventually notice the underlying structure, especially if you are intuitive. But if you observe the deeper underlying structure of the performance for too long, you'll start seeing its beauty and art (both of which create the illusion of a narrative). It's like the mind is intentionally designing the pattern to create a specific aesthetic effect or convey a sense of narrative, and vice versa. The perfect self-deception

@Zion Depth of connection. Not having to worry about finding sex. The ability to practice my relationship skills with and being able to play a similar role in the other person's life. And yes, we're still not worrying about sex. The ability to be truly authentic and intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually "naked" with someone for extended periods. Having someone to comfort me during ego backlashes- and of course, being able to return the favor when they need it. Feminine energy to balance my masculine energy. I probably should've stopped at the 2nd point...

100%. Context is the narrator of the story, and distinctions are the characters on the page. We're all just solipsistic readers, trying to understand the plot and our own role in the narrative.

It's by design. He is aiming for depth instead of breadth, which is not necessarily a good thing.

@Consept It's not just competition you know? He has a meta-physics, some beliefs, and a world view that is radically different than the mainstream society (or even some of the occult societies for that matter) which means he gets attacked and criticised a lot more than your average person( for obvious reasons). Now, he is a human who has to survive (survival in the non-physical sense), and to do that he has to behave in this way or else it will be difficult for him to survive while participating in society while maintaining integrity. Because see, he can just water down his insights and worldview to mix in with the world and he will be fine for the most part, right? But as he described in his Socialization makes you stupid video, Truth is one of his top values, so watering it down is out of question. The way I see it, it's about his circumstances. If i were in his exact place, I would be the same.

I know this is a serious post but look what GPT did: Leo's fiery passion, a broomstick's lash, He won't tolerate falsehoods or illusion's brash, About the sacred task of Awakening, He'll beat with words, until you find its meaning. Games they play to fool themselves, He'll beat them, until they awaken from their mental shelves. His leadership may seem harsh, but he's on a mission, To destroy beliefs, help them climb spiritual condition. Emotion and intensity, reason falls on deaf ears, His words a nightmare, of broomsticks and fears. Not humble or pious, a warrior on a spiritual quest, To awaken the world, rise to their very best. They may not understand him, insane intelligence within, In time, they too will see the truth and begin to awaken from sin. For he knows Eckhart Tolle's and Rupert Spira's folly, Too conscious for their idiocy, his intelligence too jolly. Military-like priorities, higher than being nice, He speaks his truth, with wit and spice. For Leo knows, this work's not straightforward, It's a journey of awakening, something to be explored.

All of this is speculation, but nonetheless here it is: Leo said in his Gaslighting video something akin to "it is a war of realities". He also mentioned that he has been gaslit by the community (or other people before). So I think it is only natural that he developed this attitude to survive in this kind of environment. An environment where everyone is competing to assert their reality on you and your reality can be invalidated within the blink of an eye if you show doubt and are not assertive. In a way, he is establishing authority to compete against the other paradigms. And he is not doing this necessarily to win over other people, but to protect his own "reality" from being corrupted by others.

But you have to set boundaries, especially if you are going to be interacting with that person repeatedly. This is what I meant by ensuring their cessation of projecting emotions. Not immediately, but in the long run.

How do you guys deal with people that are not able to regulate their emotions and project those emotions on you (especially anger)? I have noticed that this projection can have slightly traumatic effect on the person being projected on (people say crazy shit when angry), even if the person being projected on is fairly emotionally stable. Answers like cutting them off are great, but in the heat of the moment, you have to regulate your emotions while responding to the other in a way that ensure their cessation of projecting emotions.

What are some of the most important distinctions one must make to have a fulfilling and successful life ?

This is something that I have been working on for the past few months. Taking back my power and authority. however, I was more interested in the distinction part of the question.

@Blackjack38 That's a good one. And one that is very difficult to make. Have you done this in your personal life?

I am very neutral with regard with emotions. If emotions come up, I can regulate them. I notice that when people see a vacuum, they try to project on it and fill it with their own emotions. usually people tend to show their grief and pain, but every now and then I see outbursts like these, usually from people who confuse neutrality and calmness with weakness. Right.

There is nothing to prove him my friend. Seriously. He doesn't mean shit. You might be dependent on him to validate your thoughts and beliefs for eg: "I'm not a cheater and I did love him with all my heart.", once you realize this, you'll be able to see that you need to develop more autonomy and become a badass! You made a great decision. Being loyal is not synonymous with being stupid. Let him go. It will be uncomfortable and you will have to face the unknown (Something you might have been running from), but it will be an adventure. You'll love it.