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  2. Posted

    On 07/06/2023 at 2:53 AM, hyruga said:

    In my opinion, there's no ideas that's 100% wrong.

    Even Black pill is not 100% wrong. For example, there's nothing wrong with man going their own way instead of being led by females. If a man is super obese like 150 kg or something, then obviously many females won't be attracted to him so black pill was right. Females won't be attracted to you if you are obese, lazy and poor.

    Similarly, for red pill, most of the stuff isn't wrong. People who said it is wrong should just walk up to the father of red pill and tell him that his book sucks instead of saying 'Hi, I read your book. It was amazing.' I would say red pill is around 80% correct but because our mind is usually focused on the negatives, we tend to remember the negatives mostly.

    Yeah voila like for example i believe looks and money definitely does not matter but height does

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    3 hours ago, charlie cho said:

    Of course, Napoleon Hill is shallow. But that's where you should start. And if you can't appreciate the shallow waters, how can you appreciate the deep ones. It's as if you can't appreciate shakespeare if you can't appreciate K1 English reading books that were handed out to you. 

    Judging any book, no matter how bad it is, no matter if it's 50 shades of grey, appreciating the grosseness is often important to learning the more difficult and higher ones of the same category. 

    Like Boxing, if you can't do any side stepping, weaving and bobs, you can't truly go sparring with anybody can you. What you are trying to do is spar from the start. But I tell you, anyone who just practices punches, bobs and weaves, without sparring, can beat the hell out of somebody who does no practice in the boxing ring, but simply tries to spar, albeit unsuccessfully of course, because he practices nothing of the gross facors of boxing.

    Like Basketball, if you don't practice dribbling with the left hand, you will be incapable and impotent in the games. And if you are stubborn to only play in games, without appreciating the grossness of dribbling and shooting from the 3 point arc first with practice, before playing in games, you will be never able to appreciate the games more. 

    You think this is different with books my dear @koyadr3??

     

    Okay, where should I start? What should I read?

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    1 hour ago, charlie cho said:

    @koyadr3 You should read Napoleon Hill. 
     

    No why do you like this guy? Everything that he teaches is nonsense and doesn’t work visualization, manifestation, or even like the secret it’s all garbage

    Anyone who’s a 14 year old boy has visualized what they wanted  to do with their crush and guess what? For most of us It didn’t happen

    They where 6 millions jews in holocaust campus they visualize getting free and guess what? didn’t work so well!!

    Visualization by itself is useless this is why the book Think and Grow Rich is garbage, it should have been called Do and Grow Rich there’s a huge difference

    You’re not gonna make money by just sitting there in your couch visualizing be there « um i’m gonna make money » that’s not reality  

    Also, I don't like his concepts about sexual transmutation. He talks about it like it's some secret magical thing for men to succeed, and he makes it unnecessarily difficult to understand. I don't get why he does that. He could have simply said, « All you have to do is refrain from masturbating and engage in productive activities instead. That’s what sexual transmutation is  » That’s it. He just complicates it, and honestly, even that it's all nonsense

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    Anyway, too bad you don't read.

    I’d rather watch Youtube videos and do mental masturbation rather than reading self help books

  9. Posted

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    You need a life purpose or some creative project to work on so you don't have free time to watch junk.

    Be extremely careful of wasting your life just watching endless junk on YouTube.

    Well, right now I can't focus on my life purpose, my mind is completely obsessed with girls. My plan is to first get a girlfriend and experience a romantic relationship and then once I've had that need fulfilled, I'll be able to get back on track with my life purpose

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    The best thing for you would be to seriously undertake pickup and socialization. Then you will have no desire or time to watch that junk, and you will be actually getting success with girls.

    Yeah, I've been planing about starting day game soon. The only issue is that I still have some inner resistance when it comes to approaching girls, especially if they're taller than me. But I've come up with a simple solution - I'll focus on approaching girls who are my height or shorter. THAT'S IT. That way, it'll be easier for me. Also, I don't know how people do it to approach girls on streets I personally can't, I'll only do it on malls, parks those environments are more relaxed and socially acceptable and that's where I feel the most comfortable with

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    1 hour ago, charlie cho said:

    @koyadr3 self-improvement doesn't ruin your life. It's one aspect of life.

    a philosophy of success. is self-improvement. And a philosophy of success does not ruin people's lives. Depends on the way you use that philosophy. 

    Much like reading fiction. If you read weird fiction all day, without reading any classics, or any fiction that provokes critical thought, of course that genre will destroy you. 

    What type of books or content of the philosophy of success have you been reading or watching? That's the question. Because the philosophy of success, or as you term it 'self improvement' as a genre had existed from the beginning of time. 

    You're just not watching the best items that comprise the classics of self improvement. There were content of self-improvement 2000 years ago, it wasn't only written 80 years ago by Napoleon Hill. So many have written about the philosophy of success throughout history, Napeolone hill wasn't the only person who'd written about it in the span of 3000 years of human history. 

    I don't read books and I don't like Napoleon Hill so don't worry

  11. Posted

    1 hour ago, Enlightement said:

    Maybe it's a cope for loneliness

    Yeah, it's probably this tbh, but I just can't stop man

    1 hour ago, Enlightement said:

    Much of this stuff is exaggerated anyway. 

    Absolutely, especially when it comes to black pillers and incels. A lot of what they claim, particularly about looks, money, and their overall mindset and way of thinking, is total nonsense It's all just a bunch of BS

  18. Posted

    I'm too scared to cold approach girls. No matter how much I try to work through my limiting beliefs, I'm still too scared to take action. I have really low self-esteem, and I've been spending a lot of time on incel forums lately, I really want to find a girlfriend and hook up, but it feels impossible.

    It's pure torture, I'm suicidal as fuck and the frustration and suffering won't go away it's a never ending suffering, but I was wondering is there a drug out there who eliminate all fears and limiting beliefs? I'm hopeless

  21. Posted

    22 hours ago, flowboy said:

    Those are emotions. Or rather, negative thoughts stemming from emotions that you’re not fully feeling.

    you’re not a “chill dude”, you’re repressed. You don’t feel safe or good enough to express yourself. In the company of friends, or strangers, outside you act as a chill dude but inside your mind it’s a horror show.

    That’s because of emotions.

    This is why people are recommending emotional mastery to you.

    This is why I recommend shadow work.

    You’re very emotional, you just haven’t gained the awareness yet.

    But I don't like being emotional

  22. Posted

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    Do what I said in my How To Get Laid videos.

    I only watched part 1, and I skipped some parts during the video... I need to rewatch it again and finish part 2 & 3

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    You were given all the answers. Now just do it.

    Stop wanting this to be easy.

    I want to do it, but I don't feel good enough, I have very bad inner game I don't know If I'll ever be good enough honestly...

    But even after that I still hate cold approaching and social circle I need to find a new strategy, there are so many obstacles to overcome...

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    In the meantime jerk off to porn and enjoy it. Real sex is not that superior to porn. And often even inferior. So stop beating yourself up.

    But still, the frustration is still there porn sucks when you're a virgin...

    You can lock this thread if you want

  24. Posted

    11 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

    @koyadr3 When I was in your shoes, I tried being an asshole. And, it kinda worked, but not in a good way. Let me explain how I did that. 

    I participated in a chess-tournament with my friends. There, we performed well. All of us won some cash prize or the other. My prize was the biggest. And, we met a girl there, she became our friend. She wanted to hang with us after the tournament, cuz we were supposed to be partying after winning a cash-prize, right?! 

    We went to a restaurant. And, they gave a treat, but I didn't give a treat. I decided 'I don't want to waste my money partying, I want to be smart with my money'. It was non-conformism to people being nice, in a relatively low-stakes situation. And, it was an asshole-thing to do, let's just be honest. And, I saw the effect that had on the girl. She started being really nice and kind to me, in order to placate me and 'fix' me! But, the problem with this is that I felt disrespected. That's when I started feeling fatigued because of the inauthenticity of what I was doing. Because, let's face facts - I did want to give the treat. Who wouldn't?! And, because of my fatigue, my frame self-destructed. I didn't do or say much, I acted kinda petty. 

    I don't regret this too much, cuz the stakes weren't too high. I wasn't really into this girl, she was just the first female-interaction I'd had in a long while and I took my opportunity to try out something I thought would work. And, I didn't do something really horrible to her. It was just a little step towards being mean. And this was the reaction it had. (What this also did for me is that it killed off any future impulse I could've had to be a simp.) 

    I'd suggest you do something similar. If you think that 'being nice doesn't work', fine. Be the asshole and see what happens! 

    I think the best way to attract a girl is to find a balance between being mean to a girl and being nice at the same time, like a push-pull effect

    I watched a video today about a technique called push-pull flirting method, seems to work very well to attract a girl, and you don't need to be completely asshole