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Then, maybe you should find any other thing that would decrease your sense of loneliness by engaging with it. And, maybe you should live with loneliness. You may view its pain as a chronic physical pain that will last for your entire life period, so maybe you can mindfully detach yourself from it.

The thing is that If you have any goal that requires socializing in certain degree, maybe you can focus towards that goal, so that you will have strong willpower to force yourself for socializing. Nevertheless, everyone's psychology is different. This advice might not work for you.

Hi! Your case is very similar to mine, with the exception that I am very social with my family and close relatives. I am afraid that I don't have any significant solutions for your case. But we know that the fundamental mechanism that drives humans to do something is motivation—the expectation of joy or pleasure. Maybe by contemplating a lot, you can find something joyful in socializing. Additionally, sometimes motivation arises after initial attempts rather than in the pre-attempt period. You might think about that. Kind regards

Thank you so much! I agree with you. My current career is the most suitable one for me; I have a passion for political science. So I am continuing to work on it. Thank you for sharing! Regarding the first video, I think that I don't have the willpower and strong psychology to make myself responsible for everything. Actually, his suggestions don't seem realistic. The question is: how is it feasible to maintain the same level of intense dedication in all areas of life as one does when striving for expertise in their career, considering the significant demands of becoming an expert and the subsequent limitations on time and energy? Regarding the second video, E. Tolle brilliantly analysed the mechanism but didn't express any tangible solution. 'Letting go of victim identity' seems like empty advice. Thank you so much for your detailed response. I really appreciate it. I am afraid that I would have a different opinion regarding the possibility of building 'confidence, masculinity, a sense of humour, charisma, playfulness, and adventure.' Actually, I don't believe that these traits can be built. Mostly, men aren't transformed into being masculine, but they are born with this trait. I've tried to use affirmations, and fake it till you make it' tips, but I've failed. I discovered that personality traits can't be changed significantly, at least for me. In popular dating advice, everyone says you should develop masculinity and confidence, but how can you be confident without good looks, a muscular body, or significant wealth? Visualisations are nothing but illusions of the mind. How can I base my confidence on mental images? For example, if you are the head of a state, how can you be confident against aggressor states without enough military capability to back your country? In this case, you can't say, We shall destroy you, to your enemy because you lack the necessary resources to do that. Romantic attraction wouldn't be different. If you don't have any valuable resources, inevitably you will be unconfident or insecure (I am not shy or 'a nice guy' type of person at all, and I am partly assertive but also very insecure). So, how can I feel confident If I see girls mostly with handsome or rich men. In every media post, every movie, every advertisement, and every epic story, as well as social norms, it is bombarded that the only way to a girl's heart is either to be handsome or rich. So, how would you expect me to transform into a confident man? Let me tell you that, actually, I've already given up on dating long ago because I couldn't find any tangible solution. Therefore, I want to be a person who doesn't care about being single. Thank you for your response again! I am here just to get a lot of perspectives on whether I have made a mistake at certain points.