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@Growly Brother, you need really to stop consuming those materials because they only remind you of the negative aspects of life. Hopefully, you have other positive elements in your life or can engage in activities that promote positivity. When you feed yourself with negativity, it diminishes your capacity for positive feelings and attitudes in your daily consciousness. Try to maximise positivity, and negative influences will lose their grip on you. Then, you'll likely notice that there are other valuable aspects of life beyond relationships and socializing. To release sexual tension and fulfill your need for feminine energy, consider seeing high-quality escorts. It can really help you. I regularly meet a girl who is too sweet to be escort, and it helps me release tension and refocus on other aspects of my life. I am practising both, thus, gaining benefits despite being black pilled. The principle here is to maximise your quality of daily life. Additionally, you can seek out like-minded friends. When it comes to friendship, wise individuals don't judge based on looks; who are only people you would want to be friend.

Therefore I said that he has no idea about being involuntarily celibate. This isn't advice; it's merely lazy commentary. The only potentially effective advice lies in maximizing one's physical appearance and traveling to non-Western countries. At 171 cm, I receive some attention from financially disadvantaged girls in my home country. However, in Europe, I receive virtually no attention and sometimes girls intentionally ignore my presence in order to avoid my potential romantic invitation. There have even been instances where girls arrogantly turned their backs on me when I glanced at them.

In theory, suffering is inherently bad in a sense that we, as rational and healthy minded humans, would ideally choose not to suffer. I would also say that there is no need to romanticise suffering which can gradually devastate your life completely in its high levels.

Exactly! Feelings of disappointment are normal, but when it is combined with immaturity, it inevitable leads to toxicity. Transform a chad with immature personality into sub5, he will be in the same situation as some misogynists. This is not personal. If a significant portion of rejected men gravitate towards such communities, it suggests that there are inherent characteristic features shared by most men, which become apparent when triggered.

I am grateful to all of you for your comments! 🙏 @Izzaldin I found this very practical and I'll try to practice it 🙏 @Eph75 Thank you for detailed and careful response! It really sounds like spiritual mumbo jumbo. But it would be amazing to be in this state of consciousness. Perhaps it can be gained through taking psychedelics (according to the anecdotal evidence). These substances are illegal + hard to find in where I live. Otherwise, I wouldn't wait for to try them. Love this! Having the right emotion is the key. @WonderSeeker It is great to hear your method of dealing with this issue. I am curious about which methods do you practice in order to keep your state optimistic. There are many advises in the internet, which mostly sound like impractical or unverified. Therefore knowing your first-hand experience is valuable! I haven't ever practised a bombarding myself with positive affirmations. But the way of your doing it seems very reasonable. You only empower optimistic thoughts and let go negative ones.

@Someone here It seems to me that you simply have no idea about incels.

Thanks all of you for attention and responses! @Eph75 @Hojo I am, in fact, trying to practice the non-attachment that you've mentioned. I also figured out that It was only logical way of response to this challenge. ACT therapy also basically assert this point. But let me tell you that it only helps me to bear for life, but doesn't give any joy or satisfaction. Living in a monk mood in my 20s doesn't sound a good way of spending my youth period of life. But anyway.. @Princess Arabia Do you suppose that such issues can be solved in 2 months?

@meta_male I wish you health and healing brother! It is unimaginably hard, and I even can't find anything to say. Let me mention that I frequently fall into the depression and sometimes suicide seems very attractive option to me. In such times, I try to practice acceptance that everything is fucked up with my life, and then I remind myself that 'this is the situation that I don't have anything to lose, so why not to try again? why not to try to improve and to see what happens just for the sake of curiosity? given the fact that death will come to me one day, then why accelerate it?' Maybe this can work a bit for you.

I am just amazed that how mentally healthy people confidently judge others who have serious psychological problems. How they easily make distinctions between mental and physical problems in a way that they invalidate people's suffering. Being ignorant and unaware (being in a 'ghaflat' in Islamic terminology) can make people to adopt such stupid attitude.

Hi! I just wanted to know your opinions regarding my case, which can also be common for some members of this forum, I guess. The issue is that I can't allow myself to be more optimistic or positive. Namely, when I feel some motivation and optimistic emotions for my near future, another internal voice or awareness arises and tells me: 'What a stupid person are you that expects good things will happen in such a brutal and uncaring world', 'life is unpredictable and you don't know what will happen tomorrow, so being very optimistic is so stupid', 'in the face of having a lot of problems, being positive will bring only a disappointment to you!'. But I see that without a sufficient degree of optimism, it is hard to feel motivation in the way of improving my life, career, etc. So what are your opinions on this matter? How do you create optimism in your daily consciousness without deluding yourselves? Edit: I would be happy to hear your personal attitude towards this matter in your own lives.

Reading Schopenhauer helped me a lot. It hurts to be not good enough, but I often remind myself that the purpose of life was not to make me happy. In such a cruel world, everything can happen. So being able to contemplate on the life beyond my own survival interests in a theoretical manner, helped me lot. I am just a tiny, weak and extremely vulnerable being in this gigantic world and there is nothing to do about it. Everything is out of my control and it was supposed to be in this way.

"being free from outcome" is a myth.

It is practically impossible to apply. 'When you are talking, you need to be listened, otherwise there is no point to talk' - that's a basic constitutive element of an interaction. So you even need to influence / impress other people to be listened firstly. The guys who 'seem like not giving a fuck' are the ones who somehow are in abundance and have many options. If you have too many options, then there is no need to be concerned about what the specific individuals' or groups' think about you.

Guys I wonder how social skills can spark romantic attraction in a girl's mind. Given the fact that the act of sex is done by a direct bodily contact, then how being very charming and funny in a social setting can fuel the attraction alone? It seems to me that those skills can make people to be your friends, they'll love you very much in a friendship sense, but where is the sexual desire here? *** I would also like to emphasise that, in my opinion, the key to improve one's social skills can directly be related to his strong desire / passion of influencing and impressing other people. Here even one's subjective meaning of life is somehow related to being engaged with other people in a meaningful way. But if you can't feel a deep value in impressing other people like me, you'll struggle to find a motivation to continue socialising in the face of many rejections.