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I don't agree that menopause was created because of male preferences for young women. As stated in the article, all primates go through menopause. It is not clear how the "evolutionary" researchers concluded that the reason for menopause in humans and other primates is different. The reason for menopause is the same for all, and it is simpler: it is a natural process as part of aging, which every living organism experiences. Men also experience fertility decline around their 40s. This is just less talked about, but men around this age (and even earlier) begin to suffer from signs of infertility. In fact, about 50% of unsuccessful pregnancies are due to male infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/menshealth/conditioninfo/infertility The desire of younger men for younger women is natural and harmonious, as both are at the peak of their fertility. Meanwhile, the desire of older men for younger women is unnatural and socially constructed by patriarchy. It is about power and submission, not about love or healthy offspring. A young woman who sleeps with a young man, fertile as she is, is more likely to get pregnant and have healthier children than a young woman who sleeps with an older man. For both older men and women, there are hormonal changes and a decline in fertility as they enter a new period of their lives, the wise period. However, patriarchal societies treat older men with respect, while older women are shamed by patriarchy for simply aging because older women are wiser and not easy to control and are not eager to please. This social shaming of aging women causes much of the pain and discomfort experienced by modern women during menopause. In pre-patriarchal, Indigenous cultures, menopause was celebrated as a “second spring,” an entrance into a wiser and more mature period of life, with women’s wisdom and life experience channeled toward occupying respected leadership positions in their communities. The process of transitioning from being fertile to experiencing menopause was smoother and more seamless in those communities because women were not shamed or ignored as human beings merely for aging.

Chakras are real, and spiritual entities and helpers are real too. If you try to heal certain imbalances using the chakra system, you are very likely to succeed. Some people may rationalize it as placebo or something else, but these are just rationalizations to explain mysterious things the mind can’t comprehend. Entities and spiritual helpers simply exist. I can’t convince anyone who is too rational, but I know there are more dimensions, and certainly there are beings who live in them and communicate through them. I have had various experiences in which entities or spiritual guides communicated with me. In 100% of those cases, their messages were very sober, high-vibrational, and wise. We are usually more receptive to communication from other realms when we are in a state that makes our brain naturally open to this sort of contact (typically deep theta or delta waves, which can be achieved through meditation, yoga and breathing exercises, psychedelics, or sleep). The majority of humanity, most of the time, operates from beta waves, which makes us very unreceptive to intuition or any otherworldly communication most of our lives.

Most men are not interesting to women because they don’t really put in the work to be. Men have a privileged position in a patriarchal society with masculine values, which puts them in a comfortable position to begin with. This position of privilege and comfort ironically makes their character weaker, flatter, boring in the eyes of women, and more conformist to other men in order to preserve the system in which they have privilege. True nonconformity in men at the level so radical that questions the legitimacy of patriarchy is dangerous to this position of privilege. Expecting women to want to be romantically involved with men in this patriarchal system is as absurd as expecting a poor man to like a greedy rich man. If there is any affection between the poor and the rich, it is not a healthy or natural form of it but survival mechanism. Usually, men expect women to do emotional labor and cater to their needs without providing the same in return. This is called the empathy gap between men and women. Many men are completely blind to it. Additionally, there is also the orgasm gap, in which men think only about their sexual needs and see women as a device to fulfill them without considering women as beings with sexual needs as well. Again, many men blind to it. This obviously alienates women from wanting to date men and making so many men undatable. Some men will do everything to avoid facing the root cause and would opt for even more alienating and unhelpful solutions like pickup, which is based on manipulating women. This makes it even more absurd, because here you don’t only expect the poor man to like the rich man who has taken everything from him, but also believe that what will make the poor like more the rich is to manipulate him further. Instead, of simply distributing the power and wealth equally so men and women are in a truly egalitarian position to begin with, which was the natural order of hunter-gatherer society for the majority of human existence. But this already sounds like too much for the privileged. They don’t really want to lose power, they even want to gain more. Egalitarianism feels like a decrease in quality of life, which many men would not accept. They rather whine and blame women.

For me, awakening is a radical transformation. Emotional awareness and processing is one of the things that can lead to it. But as I realized, the genuine will to surrender to the transformation of the self is the way I can best describe as the major thing that triggers the awakening, at least from my experience. It is not easy to surrender to radical transformation, to shed the old skin, old identity, behavior, patterns, beliefs, perceptions, like a snake shedding its skin. It requires courage, overcoming the fear of the unknown and allow everything from the old self that needs to die, to die. Even if we are very attached to it. There is backlash from the ego. The skin becomes sticky, tight, it resists the sedding. The transformation. Like an old person who wants to live a little more at the expense of the newborn. This may be a very difficult and painful process, and at the same time very liberating, because the old skin can be very suffocating. Limiting, like spiritual prison. And once done, we reborn. With new skin. Fresh like a newborn. Looking at the world with new and fresh eyes. Alienated from our old identity, unidentified with the past, strangers to it. Until the next transformation.

Exactly, I think that the internet has very good and positive potential and benefits, like more access to high-quality information (which was gatekept by the minority elites for the majority of human history), and it is a perfect platform to build high-quality businesses and share one’s gifts, wisdom, and art. Unfortunately, it is not used by humanity rationally and intelligently enough. Mostly, it is used as entertainment, or as a way to receive attention, or to fulfill low-conscious selfish needs.

The modern world is terrible, in my opinion, as well. Almost every aspect in this society goes against my values and internal inclinations. If performance and facade are valued in this society, I value authenticity and connection. If power and status are valued in this society, I value character and hard, dedicated work. If arrogance and narcissism are valued in this society, I value vulnerability and humbleness. If mediocrity and conformism are valued in this society, I value individuality, creativity, and courage. Besides that, I feel like a wild animal stuck in a zoo. I am a highly sensitive individual (which is considered a flaw). I have a fear of big cities, roads, and cars. I hate it. It feels so psychopathic. I can understand how animals feel when they are forced to be in this artificial environment.

Attachment = suffering

I’m scared of both hahaha. Its existence makes me want to froze myself and unfroze myself in X years when this shit will be irrelevant.

@BlessedLion Well said, I couldn’t describe it better.

100%! Well said (as always). And on top of that, women are pressured to spend lots of time and money on beauty in order to receive basic respect and job/relationship opportunities, which men can get without all that labor. Women are poorer than men in general, though they work more than men on a daily basis, while women hold only around 30% of the global wealth. And that’s without even including the invisible emotional labor women do. Given all the burdens women endure in society, who the fuck has the time to care about UFOs and philosophy and all this shit? Seriously?? Most of my life, like most women, I worked in low-paid jobs, and a good part of my small salary went on clothes and makeup just so people would take me seriously at the workplace and dating, in a naive period in my life in which I believed in romance. (Deep inside I was always burning with passion to create and to feed my curiosity, to literally be FREE, but I wasn’t able to do that until I chose to be single and started to work remotely and have more work-life balance). Our unique and natural beauty is not enough, so we learned. We feel pressure to constantly “upgrade” our appearance according to the trends so we will not be left behind in this social matrix. Because good character, intelligence, being literally superwoman, none of that ever compensates for female “ugliness”, which according to society, is the most horrible thing a woman can do, a true crime equal to murder. Of course the “ugliness” is more of social construct which changes according to time and era, not really an inherent thing that we posses. Ugliness according to society is not having enough plastic surgeries or the “right” plastic surgeries (not looking Kim Kardeshian enough or any famous super modal or Tik Tok/porn trend of the current year) not wearing enough make up on the face, not having enough clothes (and the trendy ones) in our closet, can grantee us with the label of “ugly”, “unattractive” “neglected” and unworthy of anything worthy in the world. Of course non of it will be said, but we will feel it, and there are multiple ads and social media to pressure us, and people (the brainwashed herd so to speak) will treat us accordingly, until we obey and run to the nearest clothes store, makeup store, or the plastic doctor. We must religiously follow the cult of beauty otherwise… (reminding me the dark ages?). And we also must do it in a way that it looks effortless, as we are just born that way. Because God forbid if we show the truth, of the hard work we do to attain the unattainable beauty standards. This devalues our worth already because we are not “natural perfect beauty” (How dare we to born imperfect??) Society always tries to make us feel insecure and flawed in this unwinnable game. Even if we look like an AI model, society will invent new insecurities for us to be distracted by, so we will NEVER be too focused on the more important things in life, like making money, developing character, learning, seeking truth and wisdom, achieving goals, and making real changes in the world. This is the anti feminist backlash for the all the feminist movements, because patriarchal society can’t really tolerate “too free” women, so it had to invent a new distraction and tool of oppression for women, the chase after unattainable beauty. Capitalistic toxicity combined with religious dogma. Most people are unaware of it, especially men, they see this as the “natural” order to things. Even the most rational men who question everything, will never question the beauty oppression women are experiencing. And dumbly (and very naively, in a very annoying way) will believe that they somehow inherently superior to women because of some divine natural order (rather than politics and systemic oppression).

@Nivsch 100%! She is so charismatic on stage and such a talented vocalist. There’s so much meaning in the song, I feel proud. I’m amazed she’s doing this after everything she’s been through. She comes across as such a strong human being. Hopefully, she’ll go far and continue to grow artistically after Eurovision. I’m really curious to see her future development. I also really enjoyed the songs from: Austria – the combination of opera and trance is dope. Portugal – love the hippie, chill vibe. Italy – so much depth (though I’m not surprised, Italy always brings great songs). Latvia – such magical forest nymph energy, there’s something spiritual yet grounding in it. Switzerland – a beautiful song. Netherlands – so full of life! Lithuania – loving the rock.

I love your comment. This is so truthful, fierce and sacred in my eyes ❤️

Thank you for sharing! I think that feminist theory is a gift for women and offers a very critical and enlightening view of gender as a social construct. The freedom of choice and opportunities for women that resulted from feminism is invaluable. Just from looking at countries like Afghanistan or Iran and even India, places without feminism, you see that it is a kind of hell for women. A woman can be murdered, sexually assaulted, or raped, and it all would be swept under the rug, justified by family members, and ignored by authorities. Yet, the way feminism is applied in Western society is imperfect. First of all, it still receives a lot of backlash. Women fear identifying with it, or even saying they support it or agree with gender equality, just to avoid threatening men, don’t lose their validation or simply keep surviving and thriving in the patriarchy. It also doesn’t help that many people don’t even understand what feminism is and often create strawman versions of it. Very few people have actually read feminist literature or theory to begin with. They also confuse equality with similarity. People think that when women say they want to be equal to men, they mean they want to be similar to men, and that there should be no differences between men and women. But equality refers to equal opportunities for both men and women, while acknowledging the undeniable differences between male and female bodies. There are even women who identify as feminists who don’t fully understand it and end up developing toxic masculine traits (narcissism, entitlement, superiority, competitiveness, etc.) because, subconsciously, they believe that’s what a valuable human should be, think and act like a man. And women who don’t do that are seen as still deep in the patriarchal conception of being a weak, feminine woman. But this is also a sneaky form of internalized misogyny. First of all, who said femininity is weak? And why is being feminine considered inferior? Why, in order to be worthy, do we have to be masculine? It also doesn’t help that there is confusion about what femininity really is. Patriarchy defines femininity as malignant passivity, hysteria, irrationality, and toxic self-sacrifice, a believe that a woman should be giving herself up for everyone but herself. But that’s not true femininity, it’s a distorted version of it. The divine feminine is something very different. It is creative energy, authenticity, fierceness, expression, nourishment, intuition etc. But how many people know that? I didn’t know that when I was a child or a teenager. In my view, it was either strive to be as masculine as possible, because that’s what society values or be a weak, feminine woman conforming to the patriarchal distorted version of femininity. I hated both but to inhibit masculine toxic traits felt more practical and safe in this crazy society. There was no in-between. Until I learned that both of those extremes are very far from the divine feminine and the divine masculine. And that both exists within me, like in every other woman or man or being, and express themselves in me in a unique way which makes me, ME. It also doesn’t help that feminism has been commercialized in the Western world, watered down, lost its original purpose and meaning, became ineffective, co-opted, and “embraced” by capitalism in order to monetize it and make women believe they are the ones in control, while in reality, they are still fighting for basic rights like abortion. There are also many types of feminism, and there are differences between them. The main ones are liberal feminism and radical feminism. Liberal feminism is about fighting for more rights and equality for women within the system, while radical feminism seeks to create an entirely new system because the system is deeply rotted. Both have some truths and blind spots of course. So yes, there is a lot of mess, and I don’t know how we’ll figure it out. I’m glad your grandmother had such an experience. It may depend on the era. My grandmothers were unhappily married. One of them was beaten by my grandfather, while the other was constantly cheated on. Both my grandfathers were immature and toxic men. However, my great-grandfathers, from what I’ve heard, were more decent men and showed more respect toward my great-grandmothers. It’s not that there weren’t men who treated women decently before feminism or its beginning, it’s that women were much less protected from the bad ones back then.

She did it and is in the final. Such a queen ✨

Ok, I get what you mean. There are women I don’t feel safe around either, not because of their jealousy (which is normal in people), but from how they handle their emotions: catty, hostile, chasing male validation at the cost of self-respect. Some even betray close friends for it. I say this as a woman who believes in feminism and sisterhood. I wish it were different. While there is the aspect of what we call human nature, and the development of consciousness and ego, we can’t ignore the weight of culture and conditioning. As women, we’re all shaped by a patriarchal, capitalist system built to divide and control us. From childhood, we’re taught our worth lies in beauty, marriage (the ultimate form of male validation), and motherhood (the ultimate form of self sacrifice). Healing from that, misogyny turned inward, distrust of other women, takes time. The fear of losing approval and not fitting in runs deep (the brain interprets it as risk of death). But even if women overcome those fears and push back, even in 2025, women still face backlash for pushing back. It’s not like women are conformists while men are not. Men are conformists too beause this is the human nature, but they don’t like to admit that. Some women awaken and seek spiritual growth, though it’s hard in a world built to dim us. In spiritual and creative spaces, I’ve met women who are wise, tender, ego-light. What stands out is their authenticity, self awarness, courge, unapolegetic feminism, their intention to heal, and open hearts. I have seen that we are all a little broken, trying to find wholeness in a world that often forgets we’re human. Just feel the energy of this woman, from my home country. That’s the kind of spiritual vibe I’ve mostly experienced from spiritual women. When I compare her energy to that of spiritual men there’s often a clear difference in my eyes, more ego. It’s not that men value knowledge more, but many seem less willing to surrender to the unknown. Spiritual transformation requires humility, a deep trust in intuition, emotion, and direct experience. Emotions aren’t noise, they’re messengers. That’s where real transformation begins. Yet men often cling to certainty, using “knowledge” as a shield against chaos and vulnerability. They collect teachings like trophies, treat spirituality like dogma, chasing status or admiration and even sex. Even profound experiences, like psychedelics, often become fuel for ego rather than healing. Of course, women do this too, but I’ve seen it more often in men. And it’s not to say that all spiritual men are like that. Not at all. I love to learn from both men and women if I find them genuine. And It’s not because men are bad and women are good, but because of the gender roles we’re taught, social constructs that we were internalized. Women are conditioned to underestimate and suppress themselves, men, to overestimate and dominate, and it plays out exactly that way. I don’t think this is evolutionary. Frankly, I see evolutionary psychology as pseudoscience, deeply biased. In fact, evidence show many ancient societies were more egalitarian, with both men and women sharing power. That’s not to say there aren’t psychological differences between male and female brains. Honestly, I don’t know for sure. Hormones definitely shape our brains in subtle ways (I feel it at least with my menstrual cycle). But we are more than hormones, more than biological machines. Humans are really really complex.

Thank you Shree ❤️

Lol, I like it

Me too. I love life. I feel passionate about life. I feel deeply. I cry heavily. I laugh loudly. I create obsessively. I love to love. I enjoy the fine, small things in life, like the sun on my face, the water on my skin, staring at birds and being in awe of life, feeling connected to a body, being surrounded by loved ones, sharing this one time unique experience. Cynics say we don’t need to feel sorry for the dead because they rest in peace. Some even envy them. But I don’t envy the dead. Yet, there’s a curious part of me that wonders: What if life continues after death, just in another form? A form unimaginable to us now? Maybe dying feels like dreaming at night. Maybe it’s like an acid trip, surreal, infinite. Maybe it’s emptiness…. Or nothingness that stretches forever. Or maybe… it’s a galactic journey… a passage into another realm of being. Maybe we reincarnate instantly without anyone asking our consent? Maybe we’re gently greeted by spiritual guides, who lovingly review our life…… to understand our spiritual growth And maybe they decide where we go next. I don’t know exactly what happens after death. But I honor my fear of it, the fear of the unknown actually, because that fear is what motivates me to live more fully. To love more fiercely. To take care of myself and my loved ones more tenderly. To be a better human being, in every small and sacred way. To be more conscious and responsible. Maybe fear isn’t a problem, actually. Maybe it’s not a bug in the system, it’s a feature. But I can understand that this fear of suffering and death can be so crippling sometimes. Such a burden.

I don’t understand. What happens if you throw a guy between two spiritual women who are both attracted to him? I don’t see the same spiritual arrogance in women as I do in men. Spiritual arrogance exists in both genders, but it seems that women care less about how they’re perceived. They simply enjoy spirituality and live it, even if it seems odd or misunderstood. They’re also more comfortable with not knowing. If they don’t know something, they’re often more willing to admit it and stay open to learning. Men, on the other hand, tend to argue and try to prove they know something, often signaling dominance and authority, even when they may not know much.

This is the point, the absurdity of it. That men often treat awakening or spiritual development as another competition in the external world, which it isn’t. It’s as if you have an imaginary ladder or something, and you usually place yourself near the top lol I’ve never heard a woman proclaim she is the most awakened person in the world, nor have I often seen a woman too concerned about those definitions, because women are often too immersed in spirituality to care about such definitions and this false “spiritual hierarchy.” This is a man monkey game.

I agree. I use Instagram only as a platform to showcase my art, as a sort of portfolio for those interested in my work, but I’m rarely active there. I don’t have the mental health or the desire to invest energy into promoting myself or playing the cruel marketing game crafted by greedy tech bros. I usually post once in a while and then log out. I can’t stand the atmosphere. Everything feels fake and shallow, and it’s like my body is screaming in protest. My heart fills with a deep, aching sadness. It feels dystopian. Apocalyptic, even. So I teach my brain to resist the fear of missing out. I remind myself that in this era of overwhelming information, I don’t need to know everything, especially when so much of it is low-quality, fragmented, and deeply biased.

It’s difficult for me to believe that a man, especially in this era, can be God-realized or spiritually developed in any deep and meaningful sense. It exists but it’s more rare than proclaimed by men, in my opinion. Men often tend to overestimate themselves so it’s hard to take their claims about spiritual development seriously. Just by observing men, especially straight men, most seem consumed by sex or money, and are emotionally repressed, even in older ages. It’s hard to imagine that this kind of person would be open enough to evolve spiritually or achieve higher states of awakening. The male brain tends to be more conservative and closed. Just look at the current major religions, the Abrahamic religions, even science and capitalism, they were all created by men, for men. These systems are anti-spiritual in many ways, especially when compared to ancient traditions rooted in feminine energy, which were far more spiritually advanced. I believe women possess deeper spiritual gifts, natural curiosity, and sharp intuition, yet these qualities are repressed from a young age. In ancient times, women were often the spiritual leaders. Some even believe it was women who developed practices like yoga, designed around the rhythms of the female body, including the menstrual cycle. Women who continued practicing the old, earth-rooted religions were branded as witches, demonized, hunted, and burned by patriarchal powers. That fear of women’s spiritual power runs deep. It’s ancient. And it’s still here. Since the rise of patriarchal religions, women have been collectively socialized, under the threat of violence, to suppress their natural curiosity, their spiritual hunger, their creativity and intuition. Instead, they were taught to be pleasing, beautiful, and subservient. Their sacred fire was replaced with the hollow role of servant. And this is devastating to the soul. Unfortunately, many women are still trapped in that prison. They’ve forgotten their powers. They’ve been taken hostage by spiritually immature, repressed men. And when it comes to truth… I find it hard to believe that men care for truth in any deep or sincere way. Most don’t even consider it. What they care about is ego: to be seen as someone who seeks truth, to appear virtuous. But beneath the mask, they cling tightly to their biases. It’s about the appearance and being socially accepted by other men, not the substance. They compete with one another, not for wisdom, but for dominance. And while that competition might sometimes push them toward spiritual practice, it just as often corrupts them. Women, by contrast, don’t tend to care about appearing spiritual. They don’t chase spiritual status. They live it. They sink into it so deeply, so instinctively, that they don’t even glance around to compare. They don’t have time for ladders. They’re busy swimming in the ocean.

Maybe it has something to do with being present. When I’m truly present, time seems to slow down. Moments stretch, details sharpen, and everything feels more vivid. Like life is breathing in high definition.

We literally have a similar ignorant collective mentality and crude human nature as in the Dark Ages but now with better technology, social media, and more advanced weapons. This is dangerous. Hopefully, we experience a renaissance in our lifetime

Yes, our scope of seeing and appreciating intelligence as a collective is narrow. Our definition and view of intelligence is incomplete. It would be great if we could appreciate other types of intelligence, because it is such a nuanced and multifaceted thing.