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Such a good question. A non-patriarchal society would be centered around motherhood and children. Children are the life force of society, they are the future! And mothers, who bring children into the world, do difficult and sacred labor that is overlooked under patriarchy. Look at how single mothers are treated, and even non-single mothers. They are not appreciated enough, society doesn’t care about mothers much, even though they perform some of the most difficult labor in the world. Under patriarchy, society is centered around the male ego and its will to be immortal. There is a severe issue with surrender and the acceptance of death. Women and children are used as mere tools to protect men’s ego and “continuity,” rather than being recognized as the life force they are. Patriarchy is a cult of death, of old men. Of materialism, of rationality, of capitalism, of colonialism. Death for everyone else but patriarchy, it is like a malignant cancer that would kill every single healthy cell in order to thrive. There is an accumulation of possessions and greed rather than sharing. This is not human nature. Healthy humans share once their basic needs are met, sick humans hoard at the expense of everyone else. There is an emphasis on artificial hierarchy rather than a natural one, which is do disconnected from truth. Repression of emotions and creativity. Have you noticed that the most intuitive, feminine, creative, and highly compassionate people usually would be the poorest and most under appreciated people under patriarchy, while the most egocentric, narcissistic, psychopathic people are the biggest winners. Imagine a society in which compassion and creativity are among the top values and how advanced such society is. This is a non-patriarchal society. It has nothing to do with misandry or female supremacy. In fact, when I criticize patriarchy, I do it out of love for humanity, women and men, children and animals, and everyone on this planet. I want everyone to thrive. I am seeing the potential of what we could become. If you are open enough, I can share more resources like this: https://celestemdavis.substack.com/p/the-antidote-to-patriarchy-and-patriarchal?utm_campaign=posts-open-in-app&triedRedirect=true

The language you use, such as men being “denied” sex, is incel and red pill rhetoric of entitlement. This is problematic and shows a lack of empathy toward women, which may be the reason you are “denied” sex to begin with, because you are not emotionally safe. I can empathize with your pain and romantic needs, but you don’t have to turn them into such rhetoric and blame all of your problems on women while never holding men in power (and the men and women who enable them) that reinforce the system which hurts everyone, accountable.

I see this among conservatives, the pro-life dudes, the incels, the red pills, the religious authorities, but also among liberal men and even “normal” dudes, in the way they consume women’s bodies in the form of porn and talk about women when there are no women around. The dehumanizing and degrading way it happens speaks entitlement. The covert and subtle misogyny, the two-faced nice guy. And this is not a black or white issue. Men are certainly victims of patriarchy, but also the enablers of it. Women enable it too, especially the right-wing conservative ones, but there are various women who enable it without realizing. Patriarchy is a system which enables male and female toxic behavior, which protects first and foremost the most immoral men and the women who unconditionally support them. But the issue I see with men who get hurt by patriarchy is that they rarely blame it on the patriarchy or the elite men who reinforce those patriarchal beliefs, they admire them! They always blame women. They rarely look inside, or in the right direction, to understand it and to make life better for everyone.

😂 Brazilian Portuguese is beautiful. One of my favorite novelists is Brazilian. If I had enough time, I would study this language only to read her novels in her native language, to experience her art through this complex and poetic language. I am also not perfect with English, I write better than I speak.

I am happy for you that you have reached this level of peace. I don’t think that all men feel entitled to women’s bodies either, but there are enough men who feel entitled enough to cause serious damage across the globe, regardless of their background.

I can understand what an intense sexual drive is. Women experience it as well. I know how it feels. I don’t know how strong it is compared to men, it is difficult to compare. But I can’t imagine hurting someone and feeling entitled to someone’s body just because I feel an intense sexual drive. It doesn’t make sense.

I can accept that there is a biological male sexual drive, which is more intense for biological reasons. But I also can’t help but notice an additional layer that increases male sexual competition, and that is the social one. The social pressure put on men to chase sex as much as they can, as a tool to validate their status and masculinity within the society. Sexual energy can be channeled into human connection and bonding, great inventions, creativity, and contributions to humanity, or it can be channeled toward the destruction of life, children, women’s bodies. I feel that since we live in a patriarchal society, it is far more lenient with men doing the latter. It enables it. So I don’t think that men’s entitlement to women’s bodies is justified just because they have a strong sexual drive. Men’s entitlement is more due to misogyny and dehumanization of women.

Hahaha they talk through me, occupied my mind entirely, could you believe? I speak Russian, Hebrew and English. Those are the main alien parasites. But now when I think about it, I have MAP (Minor Alien Parasites) like some Spanish here and there, some Arabic, some Korean and even Sanskrit. How do you live with your Portuguese Alien parasite (are they nice to you)? Is your English alien parasite is the american or british one? 🤔 Now I’m curious.

Looks interesting. I would like to read this book. I don't want alien parasites stopping me from perceiving reality. I have 3 aliens parasites (that I am aware of).

Beautiful. That's why I'm attracted to emotionally mature men 🙂 I see what you mean, that it is less socially acceptable for men to connect with women by directly expressing emotions, so the only thing left is sex. I still don't like the way men talk about sex and the entitlement around it.

I think that women view sex more as a way to connect with men emotionally, while men tend to view it less that way, if I am being realistic.

Men who want to emotionally connect with women, just put the effort to do that. People can emotionally connect in multiple ways. Sex is not the only way. Men can sleep years with their wives, never feel emotionally connected to them. They can feel more emotionally connected to their male friends than their wives.

Sexual needs can be easily satisfied with masturbation or be channelled to other things, you don't really have to sleep with women to satisfy it. When you talk about men being denied sex it only shows that you see women as machines who are obligated to give men sex. Naturally, a man who cannot attract women to sleep with him will not procreate. That's nature. It is brutal but this is how it is. Men who didn't put the effort to attract women, died virgins. And there is nothing new about it. There is no one to blame. You may sleep with a woman who you are not attracted to but you will never be willingly in a relationship with her and you will never see her as a human. Many men tend to actively disrespect and bully women who they don't find attractive rather than simply leaving them alone. Which is worse than being "denied" sex from the random woman you find attractive and feel entitled too. This is a problem. If men view sex and women this way, why would women want to sleep with them? It only makes women more picky. But then you delude yourself that women are pickier because some stupid reasons. You never want to look at the root issue and work on it. You never dare to de construct the patriarchy and question it deeply. No, no. You just whine and complain and keep following the same people who benefit from it, like Elon. You get fucked by such people in the ass every day, ignorant for your entire life that they perpetuate the system which hurts you. But you will ever blame women. For everything. Do you think people like Elon give a shit about you? Come on.

This actually happened a lot in the Oct. 7 attack by Hamas. Arabs saved Jews, Jews saved Arabs. Arab and Jews died to save lives of each-other. This is rarely talked about outside of Israel. People often talk about Jews protecting Arabs, i.e, Jews trying to protect Arabs in the WB from violent settlers, but the opposite happens too.

I am sorry you went through this. It sounds like a nightmare, as if someone hacked your brain and you lost control over it. I would assume it’s a sign of schizophrenia (which is still a very mysterious phenomenon), but since you are no longer experiencing it, that may not be the case. Still, your experience is pretty frightening and mysterious. My father is diagnosed with schizophrenia (since age 25), and it has basically been his life since then. Entities talking to him, commenting on everything, no escape, even with medication, which only makes it more controllable. Sometimes the entities say positive things, sometimes negative. Recently, when I talked to him, he said he heard a voice saying I would be on TV, which was nice and even flattering, haha, though it made me wonder for what reasons the voice said I would be there lol, hopefully for a good reason.. But there are also voices that made him believe I said negative things to him and hated him (which is not true), and he was hurt and confronted me about it, until I reminded him that those are just his voices and not reality. He is very aware that there is a separation between what the voices tell him and reality, but sometimes they mess with his mind so much that he forgets it, and it takes a while to realize it, just as it takes time to realize we were only dreaming after we wake up.

I am glad that there is Teal, it is pleasant to encounter a spiritual leader who is not a man. As a young woman on a spiritual path, looking at someone like Teal gives me an idea of what I could be and what I could strive for. It gives me hope. I see myself a lot in her, she feels like a more polished version of me. My impression of her is that she is a prophet, a truth-teller, a woman who has a divine role that she has accepted and owns. She is very confident in this position. I also sense a prophetic presence in myself, but like many women with this gift, I accept it reluctantly. I see it more as a burden, something that attracts negativity toward me and puts me in risk, which I can’t emotionally handle, yet I also can’t help it and can’t be someone I am not. On the other hand, like many people, Teal confuses me because of some people’s claims about her narcissistic behavior. I don’t know whether people say this because they envy her and feel threatened by a woman in power (a very intelligent and attractive woman, which may be intolerable for many people in our close-minded patriarchal society, in comparison to a man with the same gifts), or because they are genuinely trying to expose her true nature. This is very crucial, because vulnerable people in vulnerable states are drawn to her and if she is a narcissist, they can be easy targets for exploitation. I don’t know if it will ever be clear to me. But it doesn’t interfere with my enjoyment of her content or my appreciation of the value she brings to people, at least for now. Like with any spiritual leader, it is always important to be conscious, not to give our power to any authority, to think for ourselves, to be exposed to various teachings etc.

I am not built for modern life to a very large extent. It is responsible for the majority of my mental health issues. I am worried about children, animals, the elderly, people with disabilities, autistic and highly sensitive people trying to survive in this environment.

I believe that humans are very spiritual, kind, curious, creative, empathic, playful and gentle at their core. But humans are also very flexible and opportunistic, they can be shaped by whatever their current environment is. If the environment values money, status, hierarchy, dominance, and narcissistic behavior, which has been the case for the last hundred years, then people will unconsciously adapt to it in order to survive. But they will be miserable, because these values are not optimal for human happiness or for a happy and fulfilled society, but only for a few individuals who “win” in this system but those are miserable as well because they don’t live in alignment with human nature. I believe that those among us who don’t accept society’s values can cope with this by opting out of it psychologically (not believing in the matrix, being aware of its artificiality and illusion, lies and doctrine, the cult of capitalism, patriarchy, materialism and rationalism, deconstructing it), and by creating our own little psychological safe space in which we can cultivate kindness, love, curiosity, open-mindedness, creativity, play, connection to the divine, truth, and integrity, and look for people who are drawn to our values and share them.

In the days around my period, especially during the 10 days before it begins due to the hormonal changes that make the psyche so chaotic, these are the days when I sometimes can’t recognize myself. I feel like some wild and dangerous animal cosplaying as a civilized woman, trying not to get caught. I try to isolate myself from people as much as possible in those days.

What makes me sad about people, especially in our “non-conformity is cool” era, is that everyone says they are nonconformists, that they are independent thinkers, open-minded, and original, but when they meet people who truly have different opinions from theirs, people who express original ideas or propose alternative views on life or existence, they bully the shit out of them. What I have learned, unfortunately, is that most people want to be praised for being nonconformists without really carrying the real burden of nonconformity, which mostly includes tons of loneliness and misunderstanding. I also don’t think that humans can fully escape conformity. We can be highly aware of it, of course, but the thing in our brain that makes us conformists is literally biological. We can observe this in ourselves and others with compassion and try to make the most conscious and best choice in the moment. There are advantages to conformity too, and it is not a sin to conform in some cases, as long as it comes from a place of awareness and not ignorance and the conformist action is not evil.

I think that after thousands of years of patriarchy, after a systemic war against femininity that cannot be denied and hasn’t ended yet, it is very reasonable that men would receive a backlash. It is sad, but I am not surprised. Yes, patriarchy is not men, but it is a system created by men for benefiting men, and men for thousands of years enjoyed the privilege it gave them (though it also hurts them in ways most of them are ignorant to) at the expense of women and children. They did nothing to change it, and still don’t do, and don’t care much beyond their survival and selfish interests. I also don’t think that misandry is something common or as common as misogyny. Yes, women are angry, yes, women are hurt, yes, women tend to avoid men more and focus more on putting themselves first before relationships with men, but this is not because of inherently hating masculinity. I don’t think that men really know what true gender-based hatred is, what systemic hatred is, to the degree of spiritual, emotional, and sexual abuse and murder by the other gender, simply for being born female. I think that men complaining about misandry just because women don’t want to play with their dick anymore (for valid reasons), is so insulting to the true recipients of gender-based violence and hatred. I don’t say it to be an asshole, I say it to put things in perspective. I also would say that honestly, from the depth of my heart, that women actually crave healthy, kind, and strong masculine energy. Even the most radical feminists, the 4B girls, and even lesbians (in some platonic ways) crave that and admire that. I, as the radical feminist I am, admire the healthy type of masculinity, the one that will never try to manipulate me, exploit me, talk down to me, or dehumanize me, the one that will see and value my femininity and ensure that I am emotionally and physically safe around him. But, to be honest, how many men are like that? Realistically speaking, not many, because of the effort it takes to become this sort of man, and also because most men in the last thousands of years of patriarchy didn’t have to embody these healthy masculine traits to survive in the system. The bare minimum was enough, and even, as we came closer to modernity, it is actually the bad guys, the most horrible and sociopathic men who get the rewards, who become billionaires, and the other men just try to imitate them. And women are groomed from a young age to try to appeal to those men, even if they actually don’t really like them. How screwed up is that, isn’t it? Another note about the hierarchical thing: I, as a feminist (which is a Goddess fragment of consciousness who believes that women are as much human beings as men, yes, different in some ways, but should be equal in the love they both receive from the system, like two siblings who are different but deserve love from their parents regardless of their uniqueness), believe in natural hierarchy, and I don’t think that most women or feminists are complaining about that. I think that the complaint is about the artificial hierarchy, like people who have power and authority because they decided by some arbitrary rules that they are competent for it, without actually deserving it or having the required skills to handle it with responsibility and integrity. I actually, and I speak very honestly here, believe that most men have issues with natural hierarchy when it comes to women. I.e., a woman may be a great natural leader, but a non-competent man will be biasedly chosen over her because of the artificial hierarchy in our society, where men are placed above women. Through this lens, the most random and average man deserves more power and authority at the expense of a woman who is actually more objectively fit for this position. This can apply to other things like art, science, spirituality, psychology, etc. Women have actually experienced it so much in the last thousands of years under patriarchy, the preference for artificial hierarchy over natural one. So I believe that this is the reason why we, as women, are so much focused on celebrating our achievements, unique talents, and quirks, even if it looks like female supremacy. This is not female supremacy, but women collectively trying to reclaim a sense of self, individuality, and self-actualization, beyond the traditional gender rules, which every human deserves. Women are actually STARVING spiritually. After so many years of surveillance under patriarchy, women have been and still are in a psychological prison, and the freedom is intoxicating. The sovereignty that we craved for so many thousands of years, here it is now, in front of us, and you say that we need to compensate for a man who does us a favor by listening, is addicted to child pornography, and sees Elon Musk as some hero? Come on dude… I also see that many women reclaiming their femininity outside of traditional gender roles, and it is beautiful. Wimen and men deserve to be whole and explore there masculine and feminine unique aspects which makes them: them. Did you know that in pre-patriarchal societies, there were initiation rituals for boys to become men? Teaching them to be ruthless enough to kill but kind enough to contribute to the tribe? To take responsibility? To be a MAN? It seems that there was a forgotten wisdom at that time, so simple: boys are boys, and they will keep being boys until there is a focused effort to make them men. I say forgotten because there are no such rituals anymore. Boys remain boys, and society enables it, “boys will always be boys,” they say. No pressure to become a man, in fact, there is a pressure to remain a boy, to be even more of a boy: emotionally immature, entitled, selfish, ignorant, and spoiled. But this is branded as being a man. Twisted, isn’t it? That’s it, this is what came to my mind after watching this video. I know it’s too short, don’t worry, I may add more later.

I don't agree that menopause was created because of male preferences for young women. As stated in the article, all primates go through menopause. It is not clear how the "evolutionary" researchers concluded that the reason for menopause in humans and other primates is different. The reason for menopause is the same for all, and it is simpler: it is a natural process as part of aging, which every living organism experiences. Men also experience fertility decline around their 40s. This is just less talked about, but men around this age (and even earlier) begin to suffer from signs of infertility. In fact, about 50% of unsuccessful pregnancies are due to male infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/menshealth/conditioninfo/infertility The desire of younger men for younger women is natural and harmonious, as both are at the peak of their fertility. Meanwhile, the desire of older men for younger women is unnatural and socially constructed by patriarchy. It is about power and submission, not about love or healthy offspring. A young woman who sleeps with a young man, fertile as she is, is more likely to get pregnant and have healthier children than a young woman who sleeps with an older man. For both older men and women, there are hormonal changes and a decline in fertility as they enter a new period of their lives, the wise period. However, patriarchal societies treat older men with respect, while older women are shamed by patriarchy for simply aging because older women are wiser and not easy to control and are not eager to please. This social shaming of aging women causes much of the pain and discomfort experienced by modern women during menopause. In pre-patriarchal, Indigenous cultures, menopause was celebrated as a “second spring,” an entrance into a wiser and more mature period of life, with women’s wisdom and life experience channeled toward occupying respected leadership positions in their communities. The process of transitioning from being fertile to experiencing menopause was smoother and more seamless in those communities because women were not shamed or ignored as human beings merely for aging.