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This is low-conscious, unloving, and untruthful behavior. We share the planet with other species, and we should treat them with dignity and respect. I don’t eat meat and never will. This way of treating animals is unsustainable.

This man-child behavior has a term. It’s called “Weaponized Incompetence” and it’s a form of abuse and exploitation. “Weaponized incompetence” refers to the tactic where men intentionally underperform at domestic tasks or childcare to avoid responsibility, causing their partners to take over. It is a form of inequity that creates unequal labor, resentment, and “shadow management.” While some argue it stems from poor socialization, it often manifests as a power imbalance that can lead to the end of relationships and divorce.”

Thank you! I appreciate your curiosity and open-mindedness

Hahaha this world is hijacked by delusional men. They are the real problem.

Maybe men just don’t want to listen. Maybe it’s easier to call women crazy and delusional rather than seeing them as human beings worth listening to. Maybe they act crazy because they don’t feel seen or listened to enough. He took naked pictures of her without her permission. She didn’t consent to that, and he didn’t respect it. He wanted to sell those pictures or share them in some group of nasty men. This is very violating behavior. Imagine if someone did it to you. They are not doing it because they are going to lose, but because they don’t see a point in it. Most women see men as human beings. In order to dominate and objectify someone, one has to strip the other of their humanity. This is what men do to women. Men don’t care about truth or love. They would destroy women to death if they could.

Yes, if a man does something to a woman and another man holds him accountable, it neutralizes him at the moment. Basically, the abuse thrives because of men who don’t actively abuse women but remain silent and don’t hold abusive men accountable.

Women as a collective are not interested in dominance over men. If they were, they would have committed serious crimes against men on a large scale.

Because she said so, and that is enough. Very few women do false accusations. It is not easy. Besides, this is a famous case, and when the police checked his phone, he really did have naked pictures of her.

Because we are too intelligent to seek power for the sake of it. True leadership is not about dominance but service.

Very sad and not rare, unfortunately. And then those men are praised by other men, never held accountable, and free to commit more rape, while women carry trauma and shame for their entire lives and are slut-shamed. In my country, there is a recent story of a woman whose partner took naked pictures of her without her permission, which is illegal and she went to the police to complain. Then they came to her partner to hear his story, who claimed that she was crazy and lying and that she hit him in an attempt to take his phone. It ended with the woman being arrested for attacking her partner, while they didn’t even search his phone. They automatically believed the man. Even when he actually was the one who committed the crime. Policemen hate women.

Mothers can be ruthless when they protect their children. Women can be very ruthless when they are pissed off. There are many women in prison for killing their psychopathic, abusive partners.

Women don’t choose who they birth. Patriarchy which is build on toxic masculinity reward monsters. Men collectively protect this system more than they protect women and children.

Because of whom there are wars to begin with? From whom men protect the babies?

Moving towards a more matriarchal structure is not a fantasy. It is just a matter of time. Things that today may seem impossible can be the new reality tomorrow. People in the past couldn’t imagine a reality without slavery and without human rights, but now people are taking this for granted. People also couldn’t imagine that one day we would all carry a small computer that is also a camera and calculator and many more things, which connects us to the entire world. But here we are. It all started from a fantasy, from someone who was crazy enough to imagine a better reality. You don’t have the solutions to the systematic oppression of women and femininity because you are too biased and too unloving to care.

True. I appreciate this mindset. This is a good read. I’m glad that there are some men who are talking about the flaws of hierarchy, the forgotten ancient wisdom, and the healing of the nervous system. Because when the same information comes from women, especially feminists, this is easily dismissed by men. Some men would rather stay stuck in a toxic, unproductive, untruthful and harmful mindset than listen to a woman.

I was about to respond to your previous message, but it disappeared. There is archaeological and anthropological evidence that humans were more egalitarian for most of their history and that we evolved because of our ability to imagine and cooperate. This is not to idealize pre-patriarchal cultures. They were very collectivist and conformist, and they were brutal in their own ways, but they also appreciated motherhood and fertility. For example, after women gave birth, they rested and were taken care of by the family and tribe while others took care of the infant until she recovered. A child was raised by many adults and received a lot of attention, which helped to build a more rounded and healthy psyche. This is in comparison to the nuclear family, which is a more recent and patriarchl sturcture, in which only two people are taking care of the child, mainly the woman. She has to take care of the infant as soon as she gives birth. No wonder there are so many mothers with depression after they give birth. Giving birth takes a serious toll on the body and the soul. My mother had depression too and also had suicidal thoughts. This is very common among new mothers. They don’t have the support system they used to have, they are dependent on the mercy of a man, basically hoping he won’t leave them. Also, for a child raised in a nuclear family, childhood can feel like a prison, especially if both parents are traumatized or toxic, which many parents are. On top of that, there may be a lack of attention because both parents are working, fueling the capitalist machine, while the child undergoes a kind of ongoing indoctrination from childhood to become a submissive follower who maintains the artificial order. If they were raised in a community, having unhealed parents wouldn’t be such a big deal because they would have access to various other healthier adults and role models. But not every community is healthy. It requires conscious individuals with integrity, green and above.

Is that something that we need to just accept quietly? Like, you talked about how corrupted society is and how untruthful it is, how power works, and how men systematically don’t believe women. What do we do with that information? Aren’t there better ways to organize and resolve the problems we deal with? Socoety may not be collectively conscious enough or thoughtful enough to give up on the current structure yet, but at some point it will get to a dead end with it. It is already touching that dead end, and we will have the choice to evolve and do better or to collapse or regress. Harari said in Sapiens that humans evolved because of our ability to imagine and cooperate, and we lived like that for millions of years. The violent turn is something relatively new in our history, starting in agriculture, when we adapted a scarcity mindset due to the increase in population. But now we have resolved the scarcity problem through all this brutal journey of building civilization, and we have abundance, but we are still stuck in the scarcity mindset. It is masochistic and sadistic to actively support it or turn a blind eye of it.

Of course, this is very unconscious. But they are dealing with people who are no more conscious either. I mean, Christianity and Islam are the largest religions in the world and have been responsible for the killing of millions.

Humans made up all the other religions, it can be said about anything. The Jewish identity is just one identity trying to survive among other identities that are trying to survive as well. It is not more false than Islam or Christianity or Scientology or Buddhism.

It feels real enough for us to define it. Dark and light are experienced as real enough to be defined as dark and light, and they have real consequences in our lives. For us, as beings immersed in the separation of illusion, it is real enough. We also need it to survive. We need to define things like safety versus danger in order to survive. Are contradictions absolutely real? I suppose not.

I didn't say that everything would be perfect. I said that there is a solution to the problem you mentioned in the post. It is not about women ruling; it is just a replacement for a collapsing system. I am not blaming all the problems on men. Though men are largely complicit with the system that exploits women, this is not about hating men for the sake of it. Please read my previous posts, I explained why patriarchy and matriarchy differ. Matriarchy is not about women dominating men, such thinking is just a myopic patriarchal projection. Is it legitimate to force women into motherhood? Women who may have other aspirations in life? Who may not want to be mothers? Who may be bad or harmful mothers? This is what happens in more primitive patriarchal societies like in the ME and Africa. this is wrong to force women to give birth. The point is, patriarchy is not sustainable for the lives of women and children. It either forces birth rates or creates unbearable conditions for mothers and children to live, because at its very core, it is about the father’s dominance over women, children, and everything else. Why not create a society in which women are not forced to have children, but those who do want to will have all the conditions to do so? Such a society would be more matriarchal by default, because it values motherhood and children over the father’s dominance and control. That doesn’t mean the oppression of men, quite the opposite. It allows men to truly be men and protect and nurture their communities, rather than stepping on them as they are currently encouraged to do in our patriarchal world. Toxic masculinity is rewarded more than healthy masculinity today.

Patriarchy values hierarchy and dominance, which fuels the corrupted spirit you are talking about. People with those traits, like narcissists and psychopaths, are rewarded in such a system- unsustainable for life. Maybe when patriarchy was “young,” about 10,000 years ago, during the transition from a more matriarchal structure to a patriarchal structure, it was more sustainable for life. There are still cultures with traces of this era that preserved some matriarchal values. But as the dark ages came and it evolved into what we know today as neo-liberalism, it is no longer sustainable for life. We can create something hybrid, something unique, but it requires more “stage yellow and above” individuals in positions of power. As of today, however, we need more matriarchy. I have idealistic and visionary qualities, so I can imagine a better world vividly. My goal is not to go to extremes for the sake of it, but to think about systems that are beneficial for all and practically resolve the problems we are dealing with, like declining birth rates. I understand that you, like many men, may have some rejection of the word “matriarchy” because of unresolved misogyny. But I would like to clarify that this does not mean women rule. Often, men are just afraid that women will treat them the way men have treated women for the last thousands of years. However, please refer to the work of the woman I posted earlier, and you will see that matriarchy is not about women ruling. It is simply an acknowledgment that mothers are the beginning, and that building a community around raising healthy, strong, and educated children creates a stronger and better society. This also includes wise women and men in positions of leadership who are pro-communal and true leaders, not anti-social. It does not force women or men to conform to strict gender roles. It does not force women into motherhood but provides all the conditions necessary for those who do choose to become mothers. It also may work better in small communities of up to 100 people rather than in bigger numbers.

This is because of cultural pressure and tradition (patriarchal), which is not good either. It just creates more traumatized and poor children. Statistics show that 1 in 4 children in Israel is poor.

I see. I will check your work. I just want to clarify: I didn't say that just because the illusion of separation feels real, it means that this is the absolute truth. As I see it, the illusion of separation feels real enough for most living organisms to perceive it as the sole reality and forget about the unity (the absolute truth or part of it). Which is why survival and the absolute truth can be contradictory (though I am not sure to what extent).

I don’t know. May be just a hallucination, which is what the illusion of separation might be. But it feels real enough to believe in it and perceive it as real.