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This is an interesting talk. He went deep into evolution, history, psychology, and biology. I didn’t know that Neanderthals were peaceful and that only three animals experience menopause. There were some minor things that I wasn’t sure about, but I liked how he sees an egalitarian society with a diversity of personalities and people as an evolutionary advantage, compared to a patriarchal structure in which only a few at the top enforce sameness upon the rest. This point about diversity in personalities connects me to the different temperaments people naturally have, which can be mapped through the lens of extroversion vs. introversion, various MBTI types, Enneagram types, the Big Five, and more. This is not a mistake but the wisdom of nature by design. This is why even within the same family, siblings can have such different personalities, which represent different survival strategies. If one fails, there are many others to ensure that the species survives.

This is a beautiful post. I have learned that boredom is about experiencing nothingness. Nothingness is the fertile soil from which our imagination can go wild, from which great creative ideas are emerged.

Definitely. I feel nauseous because of it. Fuck them. My heart is open to abused children and victims of sick predators, but not to the predators' sick desires and weird fetishes. I probably will not be a Buddha in this incarnation, and I am okay with that.

Perhaps. I’ll watch those documentaries and reflect. Though I don’t expect myself to have extraordinary levels of compassion for their desires.

It sounds like an addiction. All the compulsion and sense of FOMO you describe. You can get free support for recovery through SAA. There are also Zoom meetings. https://saa-recovery.org/

I understand where you are trying to lead me through logic. I can understand the general urge to act on desire, any desire, but especially for murder or sexual abuse of minors, I don't have emotional empathy. I can't get there through logic or abstract intellectualization. I just don't feel empathy for those desires the same way I feel empathy for abused children, for example. I can distinguish when I feel empathy from my heart and when I don't feel it at all.

@Natasha Tori Maru ❤️🌹

Thank you for sharing your experience and bringing to my attention other aspects that you think I may have missed. My original response was to a user who portrayed the life of attractive women as caricaturally ideal and perfect. Such beliefs among men can fuel even more hatred, resentment, and lack of empathy towards women. My intention was to share my authentic life experience, to show that not everything is bright, and to offer my own feminist perspective, which adds nuance and diversity to this forum. Without it, it can become an echo chamber of male bias. I think it is important to bring diverse life experiences of women, which may contradict or challenge common beliefs and misunderstandings men have about our lives.

I see, but I don't understand why you think that I am arguing with you? I also didn't say that you claimed those things, I merely shared my view as part of the discussion. Your experience is very valid, and I am not here to deny it or attack you. Just because I have different views or experiences doesn't mean that I am dismissing yours. I am sorry if you feel attacked, but please rest assured that this is the last thing I want.

It may depend on the role, but many times attractive women are perceived as less competent and face discrimination, especially in more "masculine" jobs which usually have higher pay. Though there are jobs in which attractiveness is favored, such as the beauty industry, modeling, and fashion etc.

I don't like to rely solely on my appearance to achieve things. I value hard work, authenticity, truth, and genuine connection above all the social shallowness and manipulation. This feels fake and is not part of who I am. Beauty fades at some point, and I don't want to be too attached to it so that when it fades, I will not feel that sad or powerless. But I don't judge women who use it to gain status or power because life is already difficult, especially for women. We are highly judged on our appearance so it only rational to use it for our benefit if we can. With all the advantages, beauty is a double-edged sword and attracts unwanted attention, judgment, projection, harrasment, hatred, isolation, and objectification. It is not all good, at least from my experience and from observing other women. Beauty doesn't protect us from misogyny and systemic oppression.

Cool. I am glad that this is your experience.

Hahaha

Do they support pretty women even past their 30s without expecting anything in return or causing any misery in the women’s lives? What saints.

What forms? Do they include selling the body or soul?

Just 50s? Why not until 90s? Or 100?

Being physically attractive does not ensure wealth, stability, opportunity, or freedom from hardship. Financial outcomes are influenced by many other factors, such as family background, education, location, health, social connections, discrimination, and luck.

Are there desires that you don't emptize with? Or can't emptize with?

As I said it depends on what desires.

I shared only from my lived experience. I may be unaware of my privillage, yet my live experience is real and valid and worth sharing. I don’t understand what you mean. Can you give me an example?

Depending on what desires? Do I have to empathize with all the desires of all people? Will God strike me with lightning if I won’t?

What about him?

Yes, understanding the psychology of sexual offenders is one thing. There is such a thing as intellectual empathy. One can understand the psychological mechanisms that may have led someone to become a sexual offender (like childhood trauma) in an attempt to heal it, maybe, and prevent this behavior, which is very important and beneficial. I also agree that not everyone who targets children sexually does so from a mere sexual desire or attraction toward a minor, and many times it is just a form of violence and control. I am just being honest when I say that I do not have empathy toward men (or women) who have sexual desires for children just because they have sexual desires for children. This does not raise any feelings of empathy in me. Nor compassion. I simply don't care. As long as they keep it to themselves and don't harm children. I can empathize with their difficult childhood, with their mental health issues, with them struggling to have their basic needs like food or shelter met, or any other struggles. But not sexual desires for children. Same, I cannot emotionally empathize with psychopaths who have the desire to kill Just because they have the desire to kill.

The result is that you just don’t want to be men but rather whining victims, not because of feminists and women, as you like to blame, but because of yourselves and the self-destructive system you support.

I responded to the assumption of men that pretty women somehow escaped patriarchal oppression, dehumanization, mistreatment, and objectification, and gained some ultra-unique privilege above all humans just because they are pretty. Where did I say that attractive women have it worse than unattractive women? Can you please show me when I wrote it? Kindly refer to my previous posts in which I addressed how women who are perceived as unattractive are treated: