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There's a book called Mastery by Robert Greene. He touches on this. He claims that there are two ways to become a master. Either compete in an already existing field, or create a completely new field. He gives many examples and isn't biased towards either. I think having a unique value is great however I think if you inspire to get into a field where you will have to compete like a NBA basketball player, then you should still work towards your goal. I don't think it's wrong to compete whatsoever.

I don't understand, to what extent should I use intuition? How can life be both counter intuitive and also intuitive, I mean I can imagine it being both but then whats the purpose of even saying one or the other?

I mean, Leo isn't too condescending. He is sometimes but it's barely anything compared some people I know. On your thought about "loving condescension", I disagree. I mean sure, you do you, but it is incredibly hard to learn from someone that shows extreme superiority all the time, dismissing your questions as just dumb.

I have a very extreme obsession with status, and I think it's hurting me. When I was younger I was often bullied a lot for my skin color, and I think I was always seen as "lower status" through-out my life. I've recognized that I was a codependent with a narcissist, and that scarred me pretty bad. He end up beating me tf up too lmao. My reputation in school has been fucked for a while now (because of narcissist manipulation. The thing is, now I feel like I really want higher status. I just want to feel it. I've want to feel how it be to be respected, to be feared. I want to take revenge for everyone that went against me. I want to be able to defend myself when someone tries to socially put me at my place. I'm so tired of this. Why am I so bad, why am I so low value. There are so many incidents, I can't tell you cuz I don't want to relive them I'd love to progress into spirituality but this desire seems really inestiguishable. I hate everyone that looks down on me, I see it in their eyes, I hate that. I don't know what to do please help. I used to cry myself to sleep everyday for few years. It got better when I avoided everyone except my friends. But now I'm socially anxious, I don't know how to talk to girls and my status is fucked. Idk what to do, brruuuh I'm struggling to be consistent with anything, idk help bro, I just humiliated myself again I can't... All my friends bareley into self improvement but improve way more than me, why am I so bad. Idk help, like really...

Tf is AP and LD?

@Leo Gura Do you think that the existing culture is good? How so? I'm not asking whether transgenderism in our culture could cause negative consequences, but rather just generally, should our current culture and gender roles be kept the same?

@Danioover9000 Mostly learning and accomplishing my goals. Originally I believed that it is absolutely necessary to take an absurd amount of time to learn and accomplish anything to create "quality work". This seemed to be a sort of self deception technique to stay complacent. I'm not saying sacrifice all quality and speed-run through life. I'm saying have a strong sense of urgency, try to do things relatively well but be fast, focus on actually completing the task. Example: Lets say you selling products online Scenario A: 1. Research best ways to sell product 2. Design website for 2 weeks 3. Design logo for a week 4. Ask friends and family if design and logo good 5. Get stock 6. Legal papers to make things "official" 7. Create Instagram and post some good pictures of product 8. Advertise Basically you spent a huge amount of money and time for something that you wont even know will succeed or not. Instead if you cut the bs, just do things quickly. Scenario B: 1. Research best ways to sell product 2. Simple yet effective website that implements all researched techniques 4. Organize stock via droppings 5. Advertise Here, yes the quality is "lower" but you will know if your idea would actually work or not without spending so much money. Even if you get a small profit, profit will be reinvested and you can improve quality fast. You will have more actual useful experience, and learn faster. I hope you get my point

I'm familiar with the advice, "don't rush things" and "build a good base", but recently I've tried doing the opposite. I approach everything very much in the mindset of how fast can I do this. I can't even say if I produce work with decreased quality, in fact I think I create the same if not better quality work because I skip all the extra bullshit I used to do when completing a task. Intelligent people are rewarded because they learn things and achieve things faster. To what extent can I take this mindset? Are there any huge limitations? How important is it to approach things with speed and urgency?

@flowboy Really good advice. Thanks.

Yes. That's what I'm doing much better using the strategy/mindset shift

Well yea I can definitely imagine situations where I should takes things slowly. I think what you outlined here will be my approach

The title says it all. I've been completely addicted to porn for almost a decade. I don't know how to stop, I've been trying so damn hard. The most I went without porn is for a week, and in the height of my addiction I was jerking off on average six times a day (I was twelve). There have even been times when I have jerked off more than ten times. Two years ago, my addiction caught up to me, and as a result, after masturbating, I constantly feel like peeing. This heavily effected my sleep, because I just kept feeling like pissing, although my bladder was empty. I visited the doctor and had a urine test done, but it turns out I didn't have a urine infection. My symptoms have decreased, but still not gone. The symptoms did improve when I cut back on masturbating, but because of my severe addiction, this issue hasn't been resolved. YES, I've tried progressively jerking off to less porn, however I am unable to push myself after week 1 (If I am lucky to get there lol). YES, I've tried "forgetting about it and stop tracking", this does work best, but whenever I do get reminded I relapse immediate. Can someone please give me some advice here: What steps should I take to beat my addiction? Does anyone else have the same urination issue I do? Will it go away once I stop masturbating?

I can imagine this working but I am resisting cuz it has backfired on me. Already tried. I just got manipulated more. And the people that did seem to fold just returned to fuckin with me when they are in a group setting. This might be true idk man. I Ok yea defenitly. If your low value in general life is a bit more simple, there are less fakes, less parties, less politics. I guess thats a plus Overall good points, thanks

Thank you. Your right it is a loop, I'll just focus on my self for myself.

There are so many ways I mess up, even on a daily basis. (I can't believe I'm writing this shit down, I'm cringing at myself lmao) 1.Someone keeps putting me in my place in a social setting, usually through a joke. I am too stunned to say shit back. 2. I am shitty at talking to girls. This is very much tied to the next point. 3. In a group setting I over analyze my words and filter everything I say, making it hard for me to actually contribute to the conversation. You may then wonder why I haven't worked towards removing this filter. The truth is, half my class doesn't like me because of some beef I had with this narcissist manipulator who sort of fucked my reputation. Now whenever I am myself, and or make jokes, all the jokes get disapproved, not because their unfunny but because of my reputation (ik this because I have less problem socially with people I don't know). Anyway this sort of thing really put a filter, now I am always scared on saying some shit because I feel like it would be cringe or disapproved. This sort of disapproval is something I faced when I was younger and it hurts soo bad. I remember I went to a party, and the whole class basically just kicked me out. Like everyone was asking why tf I was even there. I think that really made me insecure. Generally, I am kind of not good at anything anymore. I have shit grades, which leaves me no time to do anything else other than school. This makes me feel like a failure ngl. So many other larger incidents that make me feel this way, not too comfortable with getting into them. I'm sure you get the idea though

Pisces I think

I'll give this a listen

Completely agree. It is really hard to let go, and I have a weird mix of confidence and insecurity. I'm naturally a very confident person, when talking to someone new I have no problems making friends at least. When I do mess up however, I criticize myself completely. There are significantly less fake people. Your right about that, thanks for reminding me.

This sounds like some school shooter or Elliot Rodger type shit, Yes, I do recognize this. I was concerned if whether or not I'm slowly turning bitter. Dw I'm not a school shooter lmao, I have created a pretty good base of friends, I just realised that I started having this sort of superiority complex because of a lot of shit that went down before. My reputation isn't the best, and I still am socially lower value. All this shit fucks with my complex more. Thank God. Ahaha

@BipolarGrowth Yes. I think so too, I feel like if I somewhat satisfy this desire, Il be able to progress more. Yea I am trying to build new skills, I'm slightly disappointed at the rate I'm doing so though. I might have a victim mindset, but man, it's hard not to be sad when people so easily surpass you. I'm much more mindful on the fact that status is short term for gratification. I just want to get to the point where I don't get disrespected, and am able to defend myself socially. Thanks a lot dude

Yes. Compared to most people, yes. I don't know how he looks from an elevated perspective. I don't think his life is that bad, Louis the 14th was ego maniacal, but definitely happier than a peasant. Low consciousness, indeed.

Hey, this is a serious question and is not meant to be a mockery of Leo or any other spiritual master. I've been contemplating the difference between insanity and enlightenment, as many people with mental conditions like schizophrenia seem to have very similar symptoms to an enlightened master. Leo has previously mentioned that there is a fine line between enlightenment and insanity (this was touched on in the duality series), but what is this fine line? I also came across a video on YouTube about a former Actualized.org viewer who first started watching Leo because he saw an alignment with Leo's teachings and what he's experienced due to his condition. He then stopped watching Leo, as he found that a scientific explanation for his condition helped him more. This is the video for context (yea he goes on a rant but that's not my point): So...What is the difference between the enlightened and insane? Let me know

Great author. I think I personally got into him way too early. I was badly manipulated by some guy, and I was socially naive as fuck back then. Started reading 48 laws, probably the first real self improvement book I've read. Didn't really absorb much, just because it was too advanced for me at that time. I think most people just read it, then move forward. In order to actually make use of the book, I feel like you need to take each law (or the ones your willing to implement), and practice it. I did read mastery then tho and it was great.

Ok, I'll watch that video then.

@LSD-Rumi Well, because both an enlightened person and a insane person can experience a sense of non-duality, a loss of separation. The guy in the video explains how he thought he experienced many of the things Leo talks about merely due to his condition.