UpperMaster

mhmmm. This is such an interesting point you bring up. I think regardless on whether she asked me out or not, I think in this scenario things would get boring quick. But then again I can totally entertain this narrative because prior to her asking me out the thought that she was boring hadn't occurred. I'm slightly confused on when you say "a man falls in love by doing for a woman" or that in a man - female relationship the dynamic should be one where the man does things to impress the woman. Isn't this almost people pleasing and shows neediness on the mans side which isn't attractive? Please clarify if possible, your response is appreciated. You've been more than helpful over the past few months whenever I post a question on the forum, really appreciate your inputs!

Hey guys, long story short: I wanted to ask girl out (she looked decent). Crazily enough, She asked me out instead. Me and girl go out. I meet her 3 times Girl likes me. I'm like meh. Me no like her. I have no experience in dating. Still a virgin. It's very heartwarming to see another person, a woman feeling attracted to you. I'll be honest I am not as attracted to her. Physically she's okay (not my usual type but actually quite pretty) but her personality really really really bores me. Humor and Deep conversation is very important to me and she doesn't understand my humor nor my deeper conversations. On paper she's fine, but the vibe isn't there. I am somewhat afraid that maybe I should capitalize on the relationship for experience (and I'm therefore hesitant to call it off), but honestly going out with her has been such a chore I'm not even exaggerating. Like imagine going out with a girl and feeling like it's a super complete drag, no excitement nothing. Do I keep pursuing her even though I don't like her for experience points, or should I ask someone else out? If I chose not to go out with her, how do I communicate that Im not interested without hurting her too much?

Really appreciate the response. Honestly don't want to end up in that position. I want to party and enjoy my life, and really only be in a relationship with a person a seriously fuck with.

Nah see absolutely. I agree with the last part. The thing is I would also casually date, but I just feel like I wouldn't even enjoy that, not only because it's boring but also because I believe she wants higher investment. I'm assuming but that's the feeling I get.

Yes, I don't plan to mislead her. From what I gather this is also potential her first relationship and is more invested.

For some reason, the notion that time flies hit me hard today. It's honestly scary. When you're aware of how fast time flies, all petty bullshit flies out the window. I really feel the desire to maximize the opportunities in my life and stop wasting time, stop taking things for granted, not one thing. I really really want to stay connected to this feeling. Is life really short? How can I stay more connected to this feeling, and not take life for granted? I really feel liberated by how petty human bullshit seems to be irrelevant when you realize time flies and that you must capitalize on the opportunities in front of you. I wish to live a long life 120+ years ahaha. But I feel like even if you live that long, time flies.

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I dislike not being the best. I actually hate it. I am jealous of a girl, its the friend I talked about. I'm also somewhat jealous of my mother for the same reason. They have this ability to focus, do whats necessary and win. I lock in, but I can't get to that level. They both have this drive to finish the task. No matter what I will get it. I really hate not having that ability. I feel like slave the circumstance, whereas they seem to make things work regardless of the circumstance. I'm actually really upset I don't have this ability, I promise I will cultivate it and be even better than them. Then I can be the best. Then I can be so good, people cry. (my inner immature self coming out)

Thank you for taking the time to think and write this. This is great.

Wow. That's crazy. Yea full circle indeed.

I'll make 20 million way before I am 85 anyway so whats the point.

Defenitly thought about that possibility. Matter of fact, I am almost certain you are right. Several times now I realize I don't have the variety of new experiences to be happy. Im dislike doing and experiencing the same shit everyday. I am planning exchanges in university to fix that issue, I really hope it helps. I also believe that the fact that I still live with my parents severely effect my general freedom and autonomy in such a way where its harder to try the new things I want, but that could be an excuse.

Breaking down what you think the best way to live life depending w phases is nice. I defenitly agree about the "People in 20's are more into black and white thinking". I plan to spend my 20s doing a whole lot of new things, so Im glad we somewhat agree on how to young adults should spend their time.

Thanks for addressing the fear I was feeling. I certainly see your point, The issue isn't just "life is short," it’s the deeper thought: “I’m going to die.” And that no matter how much you accomplish there's a nagging feeling that it's not enough. I seriously see how this feeling could just be a function of the mind, but also I think that there are people who genuinely take life for granted can defenitly benefit from appreciating and embracing life as an opportunity.

Maybe. Yea. Like I am repeating a year in university. It just seems short because I have the same subjects last year and this year, no real novelty in what Im doing, so I guess it makes sense why it seemed to fly by me so quick.

Great response. Thank you. I was curious on whether or not people exaggerate this topic. I never really made an effort to seek out Mentors. I will use what you said as food for thought. Appreciate it.

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Hey everyone, I’m running a personal experiment to test the Law of Attraction for myself. I’ve always been kind of agnostic about it (never fully bought into it, but a few coincidences in my life made me question whether there might be something to it). This time, I’m going all in. I’m specifically testing Neville Goddard’s approach. I’m using the ladder experiment: For those who don’t know, the ladder experiment is from Neville Goddard. You visualize yourself climbing a ladder every night before sleep, while telling yourself during the day “I will not climb a ladder.” The idea is to test if your imagination can manifest reality without forcing anything. I’ve tried this test twice before: The first time it "worked," but when I saw a ladder, I climbed it intentionally, which I don’t think is how the test is supposed to work. The second time, I only visualized for two nights. I imagined a really big ladder, and then I saw that exact kind of ladder at the gym while the owner was fixing something. But again, I didn’t climb it. Now I’m trying it a third time, and this time I want to do it properly, strict and focused. So, I’m curious, have any of you had real experiences with the Law of Attraction? Any genuine stories or tips to share? Also, any way to test the law of attraction more rigorously? Truth is important for me. Thanks

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For some reason, the notion that time flies hit me hard today. It's honestly scary. When you're aware of how fast time flies, all petty bullshit flies out the window. I really feel the desire to maximize the opportunities in my life and stop wasting time, stop taking things for granted, not one thing. I really really want to stay connected to this feeling. Im gonna write a forum post on this.

thanks for the responses. Im going on the second day of the experiment! I'll use some binaural beats

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Okay thanks

@AION I’ve been meditating consistently an hour a day for two months now. if it makes you feel any better know that probably 90% of my time meditating I am thinking bout some girl or a problem etc. I’ve still gotten really good results (specifically with focus ability) stick with it, maybe try guided. But also know that your experience is normal dawg. maybe you can label your thoughts as just “thinking” or “noise” and get back to medutation. rarley do the epiphanies during meditation actually hold value, they just seem super useful in the moment but in retrospect it’s procrastination (at least for me)

Okay so I went out with the pretty girl. The date went well. I'll be honest she's extremely pretty, and above my league, but she's somewhat boring. I met her again today, and it's getting better the more I meet her. But still kinda mundane personality. I won't pretend like that doesn't bother me but I also don't want to fuck up something good (she is super pretty after all). From the way I see it, she didn't go out much before me, she just started dating. I just finished talking to a friend (girl) of mine that I vibe with. She's not as traditionally pretty as the girl I went out with (according to modern beauty standards not even close), but she's smart, super funny, we vibe a fuck ton. she's thicker, which I like. She's dated a lot, told me stories where she fucked some random guy. But you know we vibe more. Polar oposites. Idk Im just thinking. But also man this girl I went out with is super gorgeous. Not my usual type but model level gorgeous. She has no experience like me so I guess its great.