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I don't think you do. I've been being picky about who I start friendships with for taking relationships beyond being friendly acquaintances, I was hoping to find a few deep guys for being good friends and I haven't. I no longer think I likely will, but I also no longer think I need them to be deep, just relatively positive. Should I hold out to find deeper guys to be friends with? I take friendships seriously, I don't like getting close to people and then leaving, and I also don't like the idea of just having a ton of barely friends, so this is a more important decision to me than you might think. Thanks

You seem like a really nice person to talk to to me

Not everyone is looking to get something back from you, and I don't just mean conscious people, many average people just like company, being with different people is like dining at different restaurants of life, tasting different spices of life.

I've met adult friends and formed much deeper connections and more quickly than I did as a kid, I recommend giving it a try, to me everyone seems the same past the surface.

Meetup has some online stuff, I think for long term relationships I would look for a group within driving range though, I think it would be hard to bond 100% online which is required for long term relationships. So something 90% online but meet in person every other month for something. There's a girl user on this forum in your area actually, what sorts of stuff are you into? I'll give her a heads up if you seem like you would hit it off

I've been feeling the same way, I don't view friendship as a need anymore I view it more as an adventure and way to love, which is why I'm questioning my way of selecting friends.

@puporing What helps me is taking time away from the world, I don't do a prescribed type of meditation but I consider it a type of meditation. It's just relaxing away from society and processing things if I need to, with no set allotted time, just eventually I feel like getting back to people for curiosity, fun, and love. I don't like the idea of trying to relate, to me I prefer it more as exploring the person/relationship. Goals; it's about curiosity, fun, and love for me rather than being rooted in fear like they used to be For me acting doesn't work out, what does is having fun, curiosity, love, and appreciating beauty. The only times I have trouble are when I follow my ego and I then feel like I'm not being productive?. But it's easy for me to come back from that quickly, knowing that nothing anyone is doing in the world is productive?, and that letting life take you places is what has been the most fun for me, just going with it, not trying to do what society tells you you should, that's all lies It's all just for fun

Do you not like being around someone different? I don't think porn use is as prolific among men as it is sometimes made out to be, I'm a guy, non church going or anything like that and porn is repulsive to me, and I'm not friends with guys into it and wouldn't want to be, similar to what you said earlier I think porn use is indicative of a real problem, most of those guys are insecure, negative, and are never really happy or satisfied, I notice it when being around them in a platonic way and I don't like being around them. You may be surprised about your insecurities melting away if you get into a healthy relationship.

Boredom is when you want to do something to distract yourself from something in your head

I don't consider myself OCD but I think mattresses and cushions are disgusting ?. You could also put it out in the sun and wind on nice days, even wash it with hose or powerwasher that feeds soap, aid drying with leaf blower. I've tried to figure out how to use a bunch of stacked knitted blankets, you can wash them in a washing machine, I'm okay with using that but company prefer a mattress ? There's just so much area inside a mattress, seems like an ecosystem to me.

What do you think are some good conversations, questions, and other ways to figure out if you're a good fit?

How would it play out?

Sweet, not desperate/fake, interested in me, takes care of herself.

they're more afraid

I think it can be a really nice type of relationship. I don't have a sister and I think it's sort of similar to a brother sister relationship. Being friends with a woman in a non sexual relationship really adds some variety being around someone with mutual interests but you're also so different in some ways, and it definitely helps you get in touch with your feminine side, in a sexual relationship that doesn't really happen and I'm not sure you would want it to.

Biden is an old white guy career politician, Obama was a young black guy, the numbers can't be compared equally, conservatives(including minority conservatives) as a whole are more reliable voters.

Maybe one of the Psych experts on here can tell me it's something from my childhood, but I prefer female friends a bit more than male. Straight male here, their men don't like it though. I like the contrast, and dudes are usually painfully insecure; you can feel them often comparing themselves to you, with women they just like you!

/\ Exactly. Go to Wal-Mart and tell me true freedom is "regulated"

See that everything is connected and that the only way anything is "good" for you or anything is if it is good for everything, you no longer separate yourself from everything, you no longer have a desire to harm anything for "selfish" desires. You see even the "bad" in the world is purposeful and you see everything as beautiful.

When you realize all those different "thoughts" are not your thoughts, they're just all the contradictions you've been taught by others. You can't figure out what mentality to have, or which way to think about life, because it's not something you can explain in words, you know what makes you peaceful just follow that.

All you need is one woman, I wouldn't think about them all as a collective. A few or even many not wanting to be with you really doesn't mean anything, people have vastly different sorts of things that they like and don't like in others. Work on being the person you want to be, the closer you get the more you will value yourself and the less you'll care what anyone thinks, and remember people are fools and it'd be foolish to care what they think or follow their valuation.

I'd reread some of the details

I think you mentioned alcohol regulation before, that goes right over my head, I see no restriction on alcohol, not even for kids, sure speed bumps but it was as available as lemonade when I was a kid 15 years ago. Some kids drank at school.

I think I agree, but would you elaborate? There are many reasons for me but most people especially non poor get away with using drugs, this is not good if it is illegal, what does it communicate about law to everyone? It means we're corrupt, so then what's the point of laws? To be used selectively as a weapon, dishonestly, unethically.

Do you think the war on drugs has any negative repercussions?