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@King Merk I think that's great and I'm interested to hear the conversation. I agree you don't need it for love, I think that's obvious, I think marriage is for a practical purpose in society.

Marriage is a good thing if you're going to participate in society like most other people and have children, it's a legal relationship where you're a partnership rather than two separate people, it keeps a relationship like that simpler in my eyes, it's both of your's house, etc.., there's potential tax benefits, and it shows/vows commitment to the relationship. I don't get the idea of leaving the door open for if you decide to leave later, if you do you were never mature enough for a life partner, or else you would figure out how to make it work, and having a life partner means going deeper with someone else than you could otherwise.

@Matt23 crystal clear Are there any benefits to not being mindful?

The one I quoted says " you tried everything" , I was offering something to try

It feels like a miracle although speaking about it second hand the luster doesn't feel like it would translate, it seems like love can sneak it's way into even hardened people and then when you see them start to open from it, it is the most beautiful thing I've seen, they change, their eyes start to open, like watching a baby being born if you're paying attention to it

I think you can go into any setting and infuse love and you can be drained by it and need to leave to refuel

@Matt23 can you be mindful and anxious at the same time?

Try not believing the crap you put in the previous post, it's a lie you're telling yourself, single guys can have great lives socially and solo

Yeah, sort of depends on what you consider "contributing to your society", I just don't think most therapists would see the contribution. But I don't really have a clue though. I think this contradicts itself ("well-being") "According to the World Health Organization (WHO), mental health is “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community”." well-be·ing /ˈˌwel ˈˌbēiNG/ noun the state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy. "an improvement in the patient's well-being" Unless by mental health they mean conscious, which I don't think they do. Some definitions of insane crack me up as well, it's definitely used completely backwards, many of the definitions are consistent with use though, but some are insane in·sane /inˈsān/ Learn to pronounce adjective 1. in a state of mind which prevents normal perception, behavior, or social interaction; seriously mentally ill. "he had gone insane"

What's some healthy high calorie foods? Or foods that's okay to eat a ton of, a good high calorie diet I'm doing a lot of physical labor for the next few months and have been the last few, I'm 5'11 started at 175lbs and down to 166, I keep losing weight and I feel like calorie deficiency is causing more fatigue than I would have otherwise. I'm a low body fat percentage, was at a healthy level when I started, I don't mind losing a little more fat but at this rate I'm headed toward unhealthy levels, I don't think I should lose 5 more pounds, and I'd like to keep my energy up. I haven't just been eating salads either, I've been busy and not focusing so much on eating healthy so I've been eating high calorie lower nutrition foods even. Sometimes I do go hungry though because I'm busy, I could use something easy, I get tired of snack bars, I eat a lot of fruit but get tired of it sometimes, I get big mexican burritos as often as I can until I get tired of them for a while. I'm about to turn 32 to but I don't think my metabolism has faded over the years. I feel like I need to eat more than my stomach can handle, I get full but I'm still losing weight. Thanks

@Gesundheit2 @Carl-Richard Do you think the big names like Jesus, Buddha, Zen Masters, etc... were very conscious? If so, you don't think normal therapists would have thought something wrong with them with one session of knowing them? I agree if the therapist was very conscious they would think them highly functioning but most therapists aren't. If they were to ask them about their lives I think the average therapist would attribute some problems, you don't?

@Ulax @Jannes Thank you two. Yeah I'm pretty fit and have some muscle. I wasn't finding much on healthy food to gain weight on, I've been eating most of that stuff, I think I just need to eat more, during normal times I often only eat once a day, just one big meal, I feel better that way giving my digestive system a long rest, I've been eating 3 meals on average right now but I think I need to eat more and throughout the day because I get full when I eat.

So I think I have some shadow integration for materialism to do. I'm struggling identifying my materialistic nature or beliefs and I'm asking for thoughts and suggestions to help me with that. I think I may have materialism to integrate because I often get critical about it when I'm observing other people. I'm pretty minimalist and joyful with just being, but I do follow materialism a bit for social purposes. I live a decent life per average American materialistic values, have some nice things and I do things that cost money sort of stuff, in a way I sometimes despise all of that and just do it for social reasons. I think I'm pretty good at figuring myself out so it may be something other than integrating materialism as well, maybe desiring to be part of society, I know about this desire though and think I accept it fairly well. I like being accepted in society, which seems to require some materialism but I judge myself because of it. Definitely feels like Jungs shadow, like two different minds. I despise materialism but I also partake for social reasons and then judge myself for it. It can hurt sometimes, like pulling two different directions. I'm not accepting a part of myself for some reason, it's like thinking that being materialistic would be defeat or a trap(which saying that now makes me want to lean into it because I apparently fear it for some reason) Thanks

Then start with greetings instead of conversations, do it a ton, try to be genuine and enjoy it, try to be playful and fun with it, then try that with conversations. You can greet everyone you walk past and interact with When you get to conversations tap into the curious part of you, most people have some interesting stuff to share. And stay playful

I second that, 32 and life is actually in order unlike the 20s so plenty more room for discretionary energy and time spending

@Lincisman So long as you don't work too much, your time at work can just be cathartic once you figure it out, like meditation, and then you have your mental energy for your passion after work. Work could be a cathartic break. and actually you can even do this in a toxic work environment if you get deep enough in your spirituality and consciousness, and the time at work might be looked at as spreading love or consciousness even and you don't really focus on the work as your purpose. I'm not a life purpose person though so take that with a grain of salt. You definitely won't climb a corporate ladder like a raider listening to me.

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@Beeflamb Just a phase, you can tell this because you're aware of it, you're uncomfortable, in a good way. You may have something underlying that you're feeling that you're processing, to me it sounds like you went deep, when you come up you'll be different and it will take getting use to but you'll feel better and ultimately do something(s) much more meaningful than you would have otherwise.

Find a sport you're interested in, preferably coed in your area, join a coed sport group, just start with hi how are you to a cashier/server and build up your relational skills from there. You'll get there, I swear to you anyone can, you'll laugh looking back at this with joy for what you're gaining through this struggle

? I still think we're still right on topic

That's fine, I won't bother you, didn't mean to

I'm talking about the physical world, nothing spiritual, how you experience the physical world, sex

They're not strictly entangled with mental imagery or abstraction, is my point, you can just feel Part of your mind you can't access with language(understanding)

I don't mean emotions(anger, happiness, sadness) At all

Yes but "thinking" is limited by language and imagery/sounds/tastes and further limited by your proficiency in language and what you have seen/heard, feeling has no limits