Devin

Yeah, that's what I think it is. In a way they do care about me, they're just scared of change and that causes them to hurt me. That's what requires letting go on my part, I think this is why I don't like temporary intimate relationships, you hurt them when you let go

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I have people that attack me just for what I choose to do myself, I never even push spiritual or life stuff and they still attack me for what I do.

Are you saying you think they do that because they start to fear their life has no meaning? Like it's an ego defense mechanism, they get uncomfortable so they try to say something in hopes of reassurance to come that what they're saying is true, sort of like a passive way to ask for reassurance?

No, marriage is a life partnership, all income made during the marriage is equal parts his and hers. I think there will be a marriage revolution, the anti marriage people are proven study after study to be more miserable. You get the evangellyfish bullshit out of it it is purely beautiful, if you spend life with one person rather than 3 you'll go deeper in the one with one

Yeah the part where they attack you for not following is still painful to me, it's very confusing to me why they do that. It feels like your whole relationship was a sham, they never loved you, and you wasted all of that time and energy

I don't think so, could you elaborate? I sometimes find society, most people/social circles very boring and fake, and I know how to enjoy being alone or with a girlfriend, so when I get tired of society I detach, I fill up and then I feel like trying to give love to people, returning to social circles. I don't really understand it, this is just an observation of myself. I guess permanent withdrawal would be dualistic

That's a very unhealthy way to view that, purely negative purely wrong. "I paid for all of it". No, income during marriage is both of yours, she doesn't work for you! he didn't lose half of anything half of it was always hers. He whines about paying for his daughter? Yeah if you listen to people like this guy you're fuked Why did they divorce? If she cheated or refused sex he would've got everything This guy has the maturity of a 10 year old, yeah he shouldn't have gotten married until he knew how to be a husband, of course

If you're having trouble picking someone up "at least equal in attractiveness" you're likely over rating your attractiveness "Not fat or a bitch" nicer women are easier to get so I don't see how that would be a problem.

Adopt a kid Apologize, give them a gift

I think the creativity and courage aspects might go so far that they think there's a problem. And if they ask if you ever get unhappy or negative and you say never, I don't think they'd believe you

If they didn't know they were Jesus or Buddha?

I don't think the conversation would come to that.

Okay well I'll post here then. Are you looking for a highly specific type of woman? Are you being choosy? Or do you think no woman will be with you?

Mind directing me to your thread, I haven't figured out this forum well enough yet to navigate well It's easy, you don't need to practice you just need to lose the ignorance you've been taught that's holding you back

Do you think the big names like Jesus, Buddha, Zen Masters, etc... were very conscious? If so, you don't think normal therapists would have thought something wrong with them with one session of knowing them? I agree if the therapist was very conscious they would think them highly functioning but most therapists aren't. If they were to ask them about their lives I think the average therapist would attribute some problems, you don't?

Say they decide to go to a typical therapist for no mental health reason, just to get an assessment. They go 1,5,10 times, would a typical therapist diagnose them with something?

I think it's a commitment as in we're commiting to figure out how to live the rest of our lives together, preferably happily. If you're both somewhat conscious you should be able to have a happy marriage. I know of happy marriages

i disagree, I think you're following a lie putting pu$$ie on a pedestal. Either way, anyone can find intimacy, you want help figuring out how, just start a thread I'm sure everyone will jump on helping you. It's easy

Hmmmm, I tend to view the white dress as making the bride stand out, the groom is usually the best dressed as well but traditionally the man proposes to the woman, so in essence she was the one that stood out to him. And the purity thing to me is about pureness of heart in terms of the vows. But you do you?, I think the simpler the wedding and more traditional actually just for simplicity and expectations, the more emphasis there is on the vows

Yeah I think that might be dead on. Occasionally you can push harder and then take a rest but I'd say 70% stride for anything long term, more than two weeks or so, I'd say I maintain a higher level of productivity in the long run at about 70%, seems like a good number to me too. Thanks

I only see problems with pushing yourself into burnout, but how do you recognize your limit? Or are there benefits of running yourself into burn out? Also, I feel like I'm missing some growth opportunity when times get tough and there's no one to turn to. I make it through and I always come out with more confidence and with more awareness of my ego because it really pokes it's head out when things get hard. But I feel like there may be some rare opportunity in those instances to practice some things you otherwise wouldn't be able to, any suggestions?

@eos_nyxia I think that's great stuff, thank you

No fear/ego, truly loving, lives in the moment/conscious

Obviously you love everyone and show everyone love but with friendships what else are you doing with them? Do you see them as life partners, people to help, is it for just mutually pleasurable activities, something else, or do you not take on special relationships like friendships? I'm trying to figure out the best way to view friendships, I don't think I need any type of friendships, and I've yet to have a real deep soul connected friendship and I'm wondering if I should even look for it, should I just quit looking for that and just have maybe just above average although still shallow in my opinion friendships for just pleasure? To me if it's not going to be deep I may as well just dive more into my own life and self, I find a ton of peace and joy in that, and just love people but as acquaintances from a social perspective or me helping them and then moving on. I do plan on getting married and will obviously be deep friends with my wife and I have friends I like to do stuff with, but I sort of desire deep meaningful friendships and haven't met really open deep people for that, everyone's stuck in their head to some degree I'm about to throw in the towel and just put more into my current friendships because I don't think I'll find really deep people. Should I hold out? I don't want to develop these friendships and then later if someone deep comes along I push these to the side, that feels disgusting to me.