Devin

Try to be open, honest, compassionate, and accepting

Something that works in general for me with obstacles and hard times is focusing on the sensations and feelings in my body in the moment during the hard time, experiencing it, like you're enjoying the rollercoaster, try closing your eyes and control your breathing and feel it. And I suppose with that maybe knowing that those although often considered bad feelings, those make life more colorful, it would be a boring life with a static emotion. This works when overwhelmed or when you feel like you want or need help, it calms me up surprisingly quickly often instantly, and I then enjoy the challenge.

Start coarse then finer Like tackling a textbook chapter Read title Read chapter index Read highlighted sections Skim through Read chapter So it could be Find the top expert Learn what the major parts are ..... And only study if you're interested, or have to

Circular learning Start coarse then finer Like tackling a textbook chapter Read title Read chapter index Read highlighted sections Skim through Read chapter So it could be Find the expert Learn what the major parts are ..... And only study if you're interested, or have to

What's the necessary trauma healing and self help?

@Oeaohoo if you're contemplating suicide please don't be afraid to reach out, you can find joy and peace I promise

The end of man=leaky sink. Yep good comparison. Daniel; there's a leak under the sink. Let me build a website and dedicate my life to figuring out how to fix it without causing global warming Carl; send me your notes Devin; Daniel where'd you go? turn off the damn sink if it's leaking

did you watch his sensemaking videos? He said those are a prereq

Not intentionally, he has only pure motive, but the concept of us needing to try to avoid something is fear

The only root problem to everything is fear, David is fostering fear. The absolute best he could do is prolong suffering, what he would likely do.... He's doing what he says not to; solving a local problem here while encouraging a different problem. A race to the bottom as he puts it. Gotta love irony

Help them when they want it, listen to them, accept them, maintain contact, doesn't need to be a lot, just enough so they know they can always reach out to you, it can be just asking them to an activity every three months or so

Earlier you said this This latest post of yours doesn't seem to gybe with this one to me. I recommend you see someone for therapy.

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The biggest obstacle was people that knew me and I knew, as in not even just close relationships but anyone that knew me,(it was my ego), the skill is fearlessness. What kept me in the right direction was that I didn't see any other path worthwhile

I agree with around 30. Unless it's a very traditional couple I think you can tell by how they treat you, are they inconsiderate sometimes? Or do they do things for you without you even asking. Do they use you? All you should need to give is love, otherwise they don't actually care about YOU, they just care about THEIR significant other. But if you only care about having a typical objectifying type relationship all you have to do is be a non abusive provider They're scared of something, it often has nothing to do with you, it's them. They would've told you why they left if they were worth worrying about why they left, women don't tend to think long term ever really also

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It's the" do your best to avoid hell" and "beneficial direction" parts. It sounds like pure fear motivation to me. The attempt to do it isn't wrong, the thing for me is the motivation.

No I don't see it causing a big problem, don't see how it would.

I can't think of anyone I've met in my life that I consider really mature, this effects me by avoiding relationships with some people, I also think most people aren't intelligent as well which has the same effect. I imagine I gained these unrealistic views from media. Any suggestions on overcoming these or thoughts on this? Thank you I know of the spiritual teachings about how this sort of thing can be beneficial because it puts a wedge between you falling in line with society which allows you to focus on spirituality, but I feel far enough along in spirituality that I can return to integrate more in society, and I want sincere unforced intimate relationships which is hindered by my judgement. Integrating my shadow/ego with this doesn't seem like the trick.

True, it's not causing me real problems I just don't like that I'm judgmental sometimes, it gets in the way, I guess it may just be shadow/ego integration then, accepting that I'm sometimes judgmental, I guess I'm aware I am and that it's based on unrealistic ideas so it's just something to integrate or process Thanks

I actually have healthy relationships right now, including a girlfriend, I just feel like this is a wall that's holding me back in ways. But what you're saying is very helpful, thank you

I'm not saying global birth rate, marriage, or percentage of romantic relationships isn't down. That's obviously empirical data. I don't think couples were as close as they are now on average, is all I'm saying, I think we have better relationships Your video is "crash is coming", sounds like catastrophizing to me. I don't see a problem with declining population

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The "which are desirable and which are not" Desire, as in the outcome you want right?

I didn't say it's wrong or bad, and the influencing things is not the part I put any emphasis on, yeah influence things, that's life.