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The thing is that humans form attachments to others because it’s literally wired into us. There are things though that could make the attachment tendency worse and stronger such as any insecurity within yourself (could cause avoidant attachment too but that’s still a form of attachment which can come with idealizing someone for example) so if you work on your eventual insecurities it could help. Also the mind in general is such it forms attachments it’s really hard to rewire that tendency but I believe it’s possible if you really want it, gotta get to the root of what’s causing your attachments. Also some degree of attachment can be acceptable for example missing someone when they’re not there doesn’t have to be unhealthy or much of a hindrance in life

First step would be overcoming that barrier you have around girls (in this example European you mentioned) you’re missing out chances because of your fear. Maybe you idealize them in your head you need to put them off that pedestal. Meet someone with openness and not some premade image you have of them

When you indulge too much in the modern easily accessible pleasures your dopamine system gets “drained” and you end up not being able to enjoy it as much as if you did it more sparingly. I think a balance is key, sure if you wanna go the extreme route and unhook yourself from the pleasures all together that would probably create a richer experience of life as more mundane things will be enough to give you some “dopamine”, but I think it’s nice to include some of that pleasure but sparingly and if you do it sparingly you’re able to enjoy it more than if you do it too often because you’re not draining your dopamine. That’s ideal imo. A simple example is if you eat sweets too much it stops being as tasty. That’s how it works for the brain. Maybe I sound too obvious lol. Sometimes I be like that

I didn’t know what else to say honestly hahah😹I don’t understand how “just ignore them” is narcissistic/arrogant

What you seem to want more specifically is the ability to be detached. So that’s like the main thing you’ve identified from the ascetic monks mindset that you wanna adopt. So focus on that one. Sometimes just staying away from the things and people we are attached to forces us to eventually let go of the attachment, but you said you wanna remain the lifestyle you have, so that might not be an option. Observe your mind when it acts in attached way that is one step, it’s hard to be neutral observer but it’s possible

I see

100 g bark, i didnt weigh the yield so I cant answer that but it was just a little bit

He over exaggerated for fun. It actually went well. The only con was that my parents eventually found my stuff and threw it all away. That’s a bit of a story

What you’re describing is the average human. And yes they are ridden with so called low consciousness tendencies. But there is a way to elevate that through having a healthy ego. An ego isn’t always a bad thing, it’s judge mental and neurotic tendencies that’s kind of built into its design can be improved through creating a healthier ego. Because at the end of the day almost everyone will have an ego, and then might as well have a healthy highly developed one. Because even those few people that tap into non dual state (I think the flow state can be non dual too) always return back to the ego after, so might as well improve it. A ego is always gonna have its judgments and neurotic tendencies but it can be greatly reduced. So you could develop a kind of “highly conscious” ego. That’s a bit of a paradox but in a way it’s possible. An ego that has experienced the loss of ego for example, when returned to can be more “conscious” than before. That’s how I see it.

When you say being present it sounds to me like you mean a calm, non emotional, stress free, state with less thought. And yes from that frame of mind one can make better decisions. It’s easier to use one’s intelligence when one is calm and collected aka present

I’ve tried to extract dmt from mimosa hostilis root bark at home, and it worked, although I didn’t get that much dmt from it, but I vaporized it and it worked (I only got a small effect from it because I’m a beginner when it comes to vaporizing or psychedelics in general so didn’t have the best technique) @Schizophonia was the one who showed me the tek I needed to buy some equipment . In general it was a fun project to undertake imo

Hahah thats good you tagged me because I do have input in this

If she didn’t care about losing you she wouldn’t go to the date at all. With work is different because you have an obligation to work

Ok

Doesn’t the price vary too?

Ok you’ve got some input from real life experience. Maybe it varies though depending on the escort and the circumstances surrounding their “work” , what got them in it, how “luxurious” they are etc

Ok so they don’t have to “be good “ to please the customer so they just do the bare minimum you mean?

When I say good in bed I mean the physical pleasure aspect. It’s just my assumption because their job is to please their customer and they have a lot of sex with many different people maybe they become good at that physical aspect of sex, but what do I know

”just ignore them” is more specific referring to people meanwhile “just let go” is more general and can be used for anything they both have their place.

This works if you don’t desire any emotional connection through sex, and authentic sexual tension/connection, or feeling desired. Which to me seem like the best parts of sex, but if you can do without them and only desire the physical part then yes escort will get you that, and probably in a good way too because the escort has a lot of sexual experience so will be good in bed. So it has its pros and its cons. Also you don’t get that personal development that comes from the process of attracting women

You live there not us so it’s hard to judge. You gotta look around and see if there’s an abundance of women (women you’d find attractive). It’s a start, you don’t know how your gaming is gonna go before you try, you could land a girl early on, if not, if you start getting close to a thousand approaches and feel you’re running out of attractive women then maybe it’s time to try a new place, but that takes a lot of time so before you get there your little city will do

This story taken out of context sounds like you’re the one being petty. Because being a little late is no big deal and as has already been said they don’t owe you an explanation. But we don’t know what she has done previously so it’s hard to judge, but this alone is a reach, you assuming she doesn’t respect you because she’ll be late

So you don’t struggle with getting horny it’s that the horniness doesn’t make you hard? That’s tough. Maybe you’ve done this already but you could write about it on Reddit to see if someone can relate. I live with practically zero libido so I can kinda relate. I’m at peace with it but I understand you are not

Must be very fulfilling to know the other person is only sleeping with you because you paid, with zero connection…

For sure