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I wonder if everything exists. So every possible appearance. And I wonder if there is a conscious pov for every appearance. So no appearance existing independently of a conscious perceiver. Who could possibly answer that.

Is death and deep sleep like Mind imagining nothing?

What does karmic mean in this context?

For every person that shames there's another thats a fan. Not so complicated. Those who shame don't represent everyone

I wouldn't say it's wrong because I understand the vegan perspective and I think it can be reasonable to be angry about people contributing to the suffering of living beings. The thing is that it doesn't WORK most likely. If you shame a meat eater most likely they'll just dislike you and feel attacked and automatically get defensive, thats how the human mind works. Instead a more calm approach, presenting arguments without personal attacks, inviting people to learn, that's probably more efficient.

Openmindedness could potentially become a close minded mental position where you think being open to different perspectives and not having a firm opinion is automatically superior to having a firm opinion, so watch out for that tendency if you happen to have it. Openmindedness is a great quality, but you wanna be flexible with it, so it includes you having some firm opinions and being closed to certain perspectives (if you have a reason to ofc). Also if you have fears around expressing yourself socially it can hinder your free expression so you want to work to undo that fear, speak despite being afraid of judgement or something, challenge yourself through action by being firm in opinion, express yourself despite fear, and see how you feel. Start somewhere

Cool didn’t know . I’ll look that up

I don’t suggest anyone dismiss their emotions. That’s not a good idea. I just stated my question so op could investigate that for himself if he feels the need for others to care about him bothers him. Because it’s possible to not care about how others feel about you in general. Just a thought. I don’t think I’m too insensitive, I don’t mean to be

In my own experience of consuming porn in my past. I feel it gives you so much pleasure, but then what happens is that your brain gets bored of the same content and you don’t get that much pleasure from it anymore (it’s like how the dopamine centers work or something). So what happens is you need to change the content to gain pleasure. I don’t know how men function, maybe they can switch between different women and gain pleasure from the novelty of that. But what happened to me, and I know that I’m far from the only one, is that I needed more and more hardcore content to feel pleasure. So I (my dopamine centers or something) became desensitized to the normal content. So it can kinda ruin your healthy sexuality in that way. It’s always a risk. You can prevent this from happening by consuming the porn in moderation, although for me even if I consumed it moderately I still experienced this escalation so I don’t know if that would work. Doesn’t necessarily mean porn is bad, but it can give you too much dopamine and just fatigue your brain so you need more and more intense stuff

I don’t think it’s harsh. It’s normal to want people to care about you, but it’s a possibility to not care about it. I’m just allowing him to maybe investigate that reason. If it’s something that would bother him, if not then don’t.

I eat healthy generally. But when I do eat unhealthy, I don’t notice any negative effects. I think that’s because I have a good baseline of health and a strong digestion. If you have this, especially if you are young, I think you shouldn’t feel that much of a difference if you eat a little unhealthy food vs healthy, maybe in excess amounts yes but not a little deviation. I feel good generally health wise eating generally healthy, so that’s a benefit, but on the other hand I feel “normal” like this is how I’m supposed to feel. My body feels healthy and light and my energy is stable. It’s supposed to feel that way, imo. Like @Schizophonia would say “it’s normal”. So it doesn’t feel so much like a benefit, it just feels normal.

I see

Thanks

You seem happy with that philosophy at least that’s good

Those green qualities listed sound quite feminine. Maybe you could talk to her about how she could explore her feminine side more and from that gain a more balanced life. She sounds somewhat masculine if she lacks those things you mentioned. Maybe that’s contributing to the issues in the relationship, you being more feminine and she more masculine

Yea maybe

Lol

I want more yes

America?

It used to feel liberating but not anymore. Not it just feel natural/neutral as I said. I haven’t felt the sense of liberation for a long while

It’s feels natural. Neutral. In the past when I felt more inhibited in my expression then free expression felt good as a contrast, but now I lack that contrast since my expression is always free (took a lot of work to get here). So it’s neutral

Ok I see

I express myself freely all the time. But I don’t feel it’s coming from my heart. It’s just coming from me.

Euw

Maybe he likes butter so much it doesn’t feel forceful for him